How did your hair loss change your life ?

[JZA70]

I want to hear everyone's unique story on how hair loss has changed their life. You can answer the questions or just freely respond if you want.

Did you give up on pursuing a career because of your hair loss ?


Have you removed yourself from the dating scene since you started losing hair ?


Have you accepted the fact that you're likely going to be alone unless you settle for much less than what you could've gotten with a full head of hair ?


How has hair loss affected your overall day to day life ?


Have you considered taking JZA70 out to lunch sometime ?

 

[sheraz1392]

I want to hear everyone's unique story on how hair loss has changed their life. You can answer the questions or just freely respond if you want.

Did you give up on pursuing a career because of your hair loss ?


Have you removed yourself from the dating world since you started losing hair ?


Have you accepted the fact that you're likely going to be alone unless you settle for much less than what you could've gotten with a full head of hair ?


How has hair loss changed your overall day to day life ?

1) Yes, I'm no more enthusiastic about my career.
2) I have never dated anyone.
4) Every bit of it!
I'm 21 and my hair loss started at 13. It's not the classic male pattern baldness which has brought me closer to suicide. I was living a normal life with male pattern baldness and then Lichen Planopilaris hit me last year which has destroyed my hair on the sides and back (permanent zones). This condition is so painful that I can't sleep at night and my head bleeds and hurts all the time despite being on meds. My life is almost over.

 

[wrwr]

Did you give up on pursuing a career because of your hair loss ?

Not really. I have a feeling that i can outperform anyone around me.
Also, i have a degree in pharmacy, but i work in IT. Everything i know i've learnt myself.
I never failed job interview.

I am sure that "career" is total bull****. Concentrate on doing something really good, and you will be promoted automatically. Don't waste your time on job you dislike.
I know it's easier said than done, but it is not impossible.

Have you removed yourself from the dating scene since you started losing hair ?

Yes and no. Now i spend more time for online chatting before real life interaction.
On the moment of first date girls know what they'll get, and they are aware of my good sides too.

I don't risk talking with a good girl without preparation. Risk of immidiate rejection is too high. Or maybe it's my imagination.

Have you accepted the fact that you're likely going to be alone unless you settle for much less than what you could've gotten with a full head of hair ?

I am okay with being alone for my whole life. Actually, it's my normal state.
Relationship is so complicated thing sometimes. Not for male pattern baldness sufferers, but for everyone.

How has hair loss affected your overall day to day life ?

Maybe a little. Now i have to carry few styling tools with me and fix my hair after strong wind. I spend most of my time indoors, so it's not a too big issue.
Honestly, i can't wait a good moment to shave this **** off and stop caring about wind, and greasiness, and shampoos.

Have you considered taking JZA70 out to lunch sometime ?

Why not? The only problem: Canada is a little bit far.

 

[JZA70]

Good posts so far. Keep them coming.

 

[resu]

Hair loss has pretty much made me demoralized so that answers all those questions. I feel like nothing is worth as much as before.

 

[alonewithbacon]

I want to hear everyone's unique story on how hair loss has changed their life. You can answer the questions or just freely respond if you want.

Did you give up on pursuing a career because of your hair loss ?


Have you removed yourself from the dating scene since you started losing hair ?


Have you accepted the fact that you're likely going to be alone unless you settle for much less than what you could've gotten with a full head of hair ?


How has hair loss affected your overall day to day life ?


Have you considered taking JZA70 out to lunch sometime ?

1. Well i already have a pretty good job but just got lucky. Also lucky that i work with alot of guys that are bald too. so it ain't no biggie and possible move up the ladder.But i am a acceptation because i could totally understand the impact of hairloss if i were in a different field such as investing firm,politics,enetertainment,etc.....

2. Yes and no. I still go out to bars with my buddies and ill have a good conversation with girls. But never have a 1 on 1 date where im out and about without a hat and feeling good about myself.

3.yeah in a way. I've been alone majority of my life and have to admit im pretty use to it. I alway knew i wasn't attractive since highschool and had a very breif moment in my life where i was acne free and had hair and was in shape. I was dating two girls at the same time but as soon my hair disappeared they disappeared

4. There's not a day when i don't think about it. sure i work at a job where it's not a big deal and people treat me equal as them. But there times im at a bar with a hat on and ill have this totally cute chick just digging me, before the hat goes off. once its gone, there a little hesitant and totally remove themself from my side of the bar. and that's when i order another drink

5.sure, we can relate and cry about how are life would have been so much better in a parallel universe with hair. oh well.....

 

[bald29]

I want to hear everyone's unique story on how hair loss has changed their life. You can answer the questions or just freely respond if you want.

Did you give up on pursuing a career because of your hair loss ?

No. I'm luckily doing great with my career, and at a point where my earnings are the highest in my life so far. I hope everything continues well in this area.

Have you removed yourself from the dating scene since you started losing hair ?

I didn't remove myself, but women did. I'm one of those who tought hairloss wasn't a big deal and that 'confidence' was everything, and since my hairloss was so fast (2 years from NW1 great blonde hair to "WTF happened to you, you look like my grandpa"), I didn't have much time to realize I was wrong. When I hit NW5 I just shaved and continued my normal life, thinking it wasn't a big deal. After hundreds of rejections, and half a year without even going on a date, I realized I was out of the market, at least at decent standards.

Have you accepted the fact that you're likely going to be alone unless you settle for much less than what you could've gotten with a full head of hair ?

I live with a feeling of resignation, but I still have the hope of medication working for me. If not, I'm considering a good hair system, so I guess that I haven't gotten used to this yet, and I probably won't in the short term.

How has hair loss affected your overall day to day life ?

1) No dating. In 2 years, only two or three dates, with not really attractive girls. My days have no surprises, no girls hitting on me, no messages or calls from anyone outside of my circle of friends and family, no women that I used to bang contacting me in boring or lonely nights. All that went away together with my hair.

2) Worsened friendships. The main topic of conversation in your 20s with friends is girls, sex, love, relationships. Well, I don't have any of that, and feel like an outcast when everyone is sharing their experiences. I have also gotten to a point where I can't really give them advice anymore, since I haven't dated in so long. They also don't ask me anymore about any of this, maybe they don't want to make me feel bad, or they just know I don't date anymore. In any case, I feel more like an older cousin or uncle when I'm with them.

3) Loss of identity. Beard and shaved head, that's me now. I always liked long hair, and I never liked beards. But this is not me anymore, and beats the alternatives of looking like my grandfather or like a chemo kid.

4) Feelings of exclusion. Sometimes I surprise myself looking inside a hair salon, in the same way that a beggar tries to catch a glance at the tables in a fancy restaurant. I look at the people getting their haircuts, and see them as privileged people. I try to see how they look like, how old they are, and wonder why does baldness have to exist, and how could I be so unlucky. I feel like I'm not one of them.
When I watch a movie, I also can't feel identified to any of the main characters anymore, because they all have hair. In most movies or TV shows, baldies are only there as extras or to make a point about someone. You won't see a love movie where the guy who falls for the girl is a young NW5.

5) Overal sense of struggle. I try to live a happy life by making what I can control worth it, and live my days at the fullest in the best possible way, enjoying the areas where I've been lucky. I know there are much worse things than baldness, but I can't help but feel that my days are a struggle, that I try to do my best but still go to sleep with a feeling of emptiness.

Have you considered taking JZA70 out to lunch sometime ?

Haven't considered it, but now that you mention it, I wouldn't mind. I love good food and luckily baldness can't take that away from us. Oh and by the way, you should also answer your questions

 

[JZA70]

Sometimes I surprise myself looking inside a hair salon, in the same way that a beggar tries to catch a glance at the tables in a fancy restaurant. I look at the people getting their haircuts, and see them as privileged people. I try to see how they look like, how old they are, and wonder why does baldness have to exist, and how could I be so unlucky. I feel like I'm not one of them.

I try to live a happy life by making what I can control worth it, and live my days at the fullest in the best possible way, enjoying the areas where I've been lucky. I know there are much worse things than baldness, but I can't help but feel that my days are a struggle, that I try to do my best but still go to sleep with a feeling of emptiness.

Another great post Bald29.

 

[Scalpology]

I want to hear everyone's unique story on how hair loss has changed their life. You can answer the questions or just freely respond if you want.

Did you give up on pursuing a career because of your hair loss ?


Have you removed yourself from the dating scene since you started losing hair ?


Have you accepted the fact that you're likely going to be alone unless you settle for much less than what you could've gotten with a full head of hair ?


How has hair loss affected your overall day to day life ?


Have you considered taking JZA70 out to lunch sometime ?

No to first 3.

Last one - I'm taking all the drugs and looking in mirror at my hairline several times a day. And wearing hats and bandanas when I go outside, so nobody can see my receding hairline.

That's about it.

 

[JZA70]

No to first 3.

Last one - I'm taking all the drugs and looking in mirror at my hairline several times a day. And wearing hats and bandanas when I go outside, so nobody can see my receding hairline.

That's about it.

You have a good head of hair though so your opinion doesn't really count. Wait until you become an NW5 and then come back and answer.

 

[Scalpology]

You have a good head of hair though so your opinion doesn't really count. Wait until you become an NW5 and then come back and answer.

LOL, you think I'd "wait" for that?

hair transplant, wigs and final solution:

I would not wait to live life in suffering and pain.

I have insane regimen, hope it regrows temples, starting to see small black hairs.

hair transplant life fund saved up 40k!

My forehead is big and even small recession affects me, I look older automatically. When I wear something that covers my subhuman hairline and alien skull, I get looks from young, hot, prime girls. They find me exotic looking. Since I don't work at an office anymore I can wear my hat/bandana wherever I like and NEVER take it off. I'd probably do the same with a wig.

If my hair keeps receding, I will up my oral minoxidil dosage to 50 mg a day, get a few heartattacks, maybe die, but at least regrow a healthy bunch of hair, GUARANTEED. Yes, GUARANTEED. I used that word, because oral minoxidil is the only medicine that really GUARANTEES hair growth if you want to sacrifice heart.

 

[JZA70]

hair transplant, wigs and final solution

Blowing your brains out is a quick effective method but it doesn't do much to help the rest of us. We need to stick together and do what we can to put an end to this disease. No progress can be made if we all started killing ourselves.

 

[Scalpology]

Just try to adopt my regimen.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

LOL, you think I'd "wait" for that?

hair transplant, wigs and final solution:
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I would not wait to live life in suffering and pain.

If my hair keeps receding, I will up my oral minoxidil dosage to 50 mg a day, get a few heartattacks, maybe die, but at least regrow a healthy bunch of hair, GUARANTEED. Yes, GUARANTEED. I used that word, because oral minoxidil is the only medicine that really GUARANTEES hair growth if you want to sacrifice heart.

This is a man that takes his hair loss seriously.

 

[Keeno]

Did you give up on pursuing a career because of your hair loss ?

Not at all, especially as I lived independently as soon as I graduated from university, having had a job lined up. However I lost that job after 2 years and ended up going through 9 months and over 25 interviews before I secured another job. That was in 1998-99, I was 24, and I already was NW7. I had a repeat of that experience again in 2006, requiring over 25 interviews to get a job. That's when I got my current job and I have done extremely well in it.

It should be kept in mind though that I also live with autism, so that has to be factored in to the things being asked about here. Yet having 25 interviews and not securing a job is so extreme that I wonder if hair loss is a factor too. Probably there is a multiplying effect of both the hair loss and autism in my life.

Have you removed yourself from the dating scene since you started losing hair ?
I would have to say so, yes. As a young adult I regularly went clubbing, but was doing that with a full NW7 horseshoe which happened by 23 as far as I remember. As a young man I already looked like grandpa, and in such a shallow, looks oriented environment you can just imagine the results. I was never able to form any bond with any females in clubs. In fact when I went near females, a great many of them gave me the middle finger, or at least very aggressive responses.

I know it was totally the wrong environment for someone like me to try to meet women, but it's no wonder then that I have been unable to approach females since then.

Have you accepted the fact that you're likely going to be alone unless you settle for much less than what you could've gotten with a full head of hair ?

No. I know I have been unable to approach females (see above) and have indeed never really met women (such that dating/sex/relationships might occur anyway) elsewhere since my clubbing days. Even in what are supposed to be co-operative situations such as the workplace, younger women/women my age have very often refused to speak with me or give me the time of day. I've noticed how those women I have managed to form some sort of interaction with have held me at arm's length in case I hit on them. But being alone is such a miserable life for anyone that I always have hope of ending that, notwithstanding the effects of previous situations with females.

I shaved my head, and have had the shaved head/beard look for the past year. The way women have treated me has been entirely different to what it was previously, and even though it might take time I really feel like I have a chance to recover from how things used to be.

How has hair loss affected your overall day to day life ?

In retrospect, hair loss reduced me to nothing.

Even though I had a horseshoe by the age of 23, it took many years for me to realise exactly how bad a look it's considered to be, or how people react to it, or that shaving my head was an option.

There are many things where my hair loss may have had a drastic effect, so I won't go through them all, and I hadn't realised how hair loss may have been an influence.

But I'll just leave this one thing here: as a young man, I was getting accused of being a paedophile again and again. Indeed, this came along with threats of violence or even people actually trying to carry it out.

I even had to flee a flat where I lived because it was a next door neighbour who suspected/accused/attempted violence on me. I am anxious to make it known that this sort of thing is the full impact of hair loss. It's not at all a bizarre claim that this sort of thing happens because of balding, or the fact I looked like grandpa with my NW7 horseshoe at 25 - just do a quick Google search for relevant terms and you'll see that balding and paedophilia are equated with each other in society.

Also, when I had a grown out horseshoe, kids were not allowed near me. Again - it shows the full impact of hair loss. Since shaving my head and having a beard, kids are allowed near me and next to me all the time.

When I see guys in their 20s and 30s with horseshoes, I panic for them, and immediately visualise them a) getting accused of being a paedophile b) viciously assaulted and c) driven out of their home with violence.

Have you considered taking JZA70 out to lunch sometime ?

If I lived near you, why not? It would be really interesting!

 

[JZA70]

A dermatologist told me I was balding the day of my last exam of my first year of university. A few weeks later I learned I had passed, but it didn't feel great, since I knew I would be, and I quote my derm at that time "bald by the age of 23".

They should have therapists standing by when they break that kind of news to someone. It's like being told you have cancer and only 2 years left to live.

I remember when I went to a dermatologist a year ago and he took a quick peek at my hair and said "yeap, you're thinning." I asked how bad is it going to get and he said " well, you've seen bald people right." I asked if there was anything I could do and he pointed me to some useless shampoos and sent me on my way. I was honestly sick to my stomach, for the first time in my life there wasn't an answer to my problem.

I walked out of there and just sat in my car for a bit, staring around aimlessly, almost as if my whole life flashed before my eyes. It was a f*cked up experience. A big part of the problem was feeling so helpless, I valued my aesthetics as a top priority in life and when the news broke that I was balding, I was so lost and in denial, I still am today. Still don't know what the point of this life is. I hate the feeling of being gimped for no reason. I was the guy who always had a cool hairstyle since I was 12 and I never missed a day doing my hair. It hit me hard once I finally accepted that the hair that's been with me this whole time was packing it's bags and heading south.

 

[resu]

When I told my parents about my baldness my mother said it was nothing and that there were others who were balder than me and my dad said he still had thick hair, that says it all about my parents. I'm diffuse thinning with a massive bald patch in the middle, looks like I'm going to be a NW7, when I run my fingers the only area that feels thick is that strip of hair NW7 still have.

 

[Scalpology]

An hair transplant restored my life. I'm in love with my thick mane.


Being a NW2 was depressing, I slowly became my worst enemy.

Before/after pics please.

Oh please, not another of these PUAhaters, Sluthaters, whatever they're called now.

I know they can hurt, but someone has to spread the red pill.

 

[resu]

Those sites only warp the mind of young men with ultra high expectations, they all have the same speech which makes them easy to tell when they come here. Even with hair loss sites you can't become too attached.

 

[SayifDoit]

LOL, you think I'd "wait" for that?

hair transplant, wigs and final solution:
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I would not wait to live life in suffering and pain.

I have insane regimen, hope it regrows temples, starting to see small black hairs.

hair transplant life fund saved up 40k!

My forehead is big and even small recession affects me, I look older automatically. When I wear something that covers my subhuman hairline and alien skull, I get looks from young, hot, prime girls. They find me exotic looking. Since I don't work at an office anymore I can wear my hat/bandana wherever I like and NEVER take it off. I'd probably do the same with a wig.

If my hair keeps receding, I will up my oral minoxidil dosage to 50 mg a day, get a few heartattacks, maybe die, but at least regrow a healthy bunch of hair, GUARANTEED. Yes, GUARANTEED. I used that word, because oral minoxidil is the only medicine that really GUARANTEES hair growth if you want to sacrifice heart.

God bless you. I salute you.