how do you deal with people who have it easy?

Exodus2011

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Ever since baldness hit, its like i have a new perspective on things. I shake my head at people who cry about their taxes, heartbreak and other bull**** problems. What are those petty issues compared to baldness at 21?

Whenever I hear people complain about little **** like that it makes me angry as ****. How do you deal with it fellow baldies?

This article just made me think about it. Some stupid young (probably cute and upper class) hipster white b**ch wrote it.

http://postgradproblems.com/5-mental-breakdowns-every-woman-has-each-month/

"Work was awful, I’m starving, and my boyfriend hasn’t responded to my texts since noon. The last thing I need is to be flipped off by a ****ing stranger in a Benz. Is crying appropriate right now? "

smdh . . . . . THATS the extent of your average attractive young white b****s problems?
:laugh::laugh::laugh:
 

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I suffered from acne up until recently and now I'm a NW3v at age 23. I'm stressed out about losing my hair and having my entire youth robbed from me. None of my friends had adult acne and none of them have hair loss. It's not fun seeing everyone else enjoying life like I should be at my age. I'm trying to be positive. I'm trying to accept my situation and improve the things I have control over. I'll likely end up a stronger and more empathetic person from all of this but I can't deny feeling jealous and angry all the time.
 

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I suffered from acne up until recently and now I'm a NW3v at age 23. I'm stressed out about losing my hair and having my entire youth robbed from me. None of my friends had adult acne and none of them have hair loss. It's not fun seeing everyone else enjoying life like I should be at my age. I'm trying to be positive. I'm trying to accept my situation and improve the things I have control over. I'll likely end up a stronger and more empathetic person from all of this but I can't deny feeling jealous and angry all the time.

exactly why i deactivated facebook
felt like crap seeing everyone my age without a care in the world enjoying their holidays
 

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I ve got terrible acne too, for my entire high school times... But after 5 years of ****y treatments I discover Isotec( some pills which contains isotretinoin) it was a miracle really, i ve got dermabrasion later and no one can tell that i ve acne.
 

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I don't deal with it, I just try to keep it all inside so I don't explode. Almost anything can push my buttons these days, especially people who complain over small problems, like a bad haircut or something. AT LEAST YOUR HAIR WILL GROW BACK!, is what I wanna shout in their faces.
 

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For me, it's not about people who have it easy or difficult, but rather those who complain about little things. I get extremely annoyed when people complain about things like not doing so well on some test, having a tiny argument with their boyfriend/girlfriend, or getting kicked off some sports team. Besides myself suffering from premature male pattern baldness, I also suffer from Asperger's Syndrome, so that doesn't help either. Since I have an 'awkward' condition along losing hair at a young age, many people have been so rude that they just completely ignore me.

Here's another thing that bothers me. Not to seem like a misogynist but many women for example: they put on makeup, paint their nails, dye their hair, or even go as far as bleaching their butt holes, and society puts them on a pedestal. But if a man tries to overcome a genetic predisposition that's completely out of their control like baldness, women will usually look at him as a disgusting fake loser and other men that are privilaged with hair will humiliate him equally.
 

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There are people (women in my case) who tell me to get over it , stop worrying about your hair it's not the end of the world. But then they get their hair done once a month, because it looks bad, and they get laser resurfacing done to get rid of their wrinkles. if I only had the luxury to worry about wrinkles.
 

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I (try) to deal it by remembering that envy never achieves or solves anything, and simply makes the envious person worse off. Not just relating to hair but everything in life

easier said than done I know
 

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Think about how there's people who were born with 8 limbs, it's possible to happen and it did happen, sucks that that person got to be the "one". Think about how many people were born already, it had to happen. You got male pattern baldness early on, it had to happen to someone because it's possible to happen, it just happens that it ended up being you.
 

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You're right resu, yet we can't help ourselves but want more. I think we all are jealous, at least subconsciously. Every human being wants to climb up the food chain.
 

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You got male pattern baldness early on, it had to happen to someone because it's possible to happen, it just happens that it ended up being you.

There is male pattern baldness on both sides of my family and it's a very common condition, so it doesn't surprise me that I got it. What surprised me is how early it started, I was 16 when male pattern baldness struck. All the men on both sides of my family who have hair loss didn't experience it until they were in their thirty's or forty's, but mine started when I was in my teens, it was a real shock for me.
 

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Yes that's the hardest part, the feeling of entitlement we all have built in. These people who have it easy and always had it easy, their problems are scaled to their lifestyle so it probably affects their mood just the same. The difference is that we can't really forget about baldness like they can easily overcome the fact that their new profile photo only got 3 likes on the first 15 minutes.

I also don't get feminism in the US, white women in america are probably (next to jews) the most privileged group on the planet yet they're so aggro about it.

There is male pattern baldness on both sides of my family and it's a very common condition, so it doesn't surprise me that I got it. What surprised me is how early it started, I was 16 when male pattern baldness struck. All the men on both sides of my family who have hair loss didn't experience until they were in their thirty's or forty's, but mine started when I was in my teens, it was a real shock for me.

My older brother isn't balding, he might have some minor miniaturization at the widows peak, yet I have the risk of ending up a full NW5 or higher. It goes right with what I saying, it's sort of a lottery, genes can skip generations and appear when you least expect. A friend of mine both his parents have brown eyes yet he was born with blue eyes and he has less hair loss than his dad who was already a full NW5 in his 20's.
 

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My older brother isn't balding, he might have some minor miniaturization at the widows peak, yet I have the risk of ending up a full NW5 or higher. It goes right with what I saying, it's sort of a lottery, genes can skip generations and appear when you least expect. A friend of mine both his parents have brown eyes yet he was born with blue eyes and he has less hair loss than his dad who was already a full NW5 in his 20's.

Me personally, I don't look at my male pattern baldness as something unfair in life or a genetic lottery that I lost, but rather a huge inconvenience. I use my Ketoconazole, Minoxidil, and LLLT to treat my male pattern baldness and then just go out and live life. Next month in January 2015, I'm going to see a hair and scalp specialist to get a prescription for Dutasteride, at least Finasteride because I'm still losing a little bit of hair. Hopefully getting on a 5-AR inhibitor will stop the progression and I'll be able to keep the hair that I have for life, that would be a nice outcome. I did have to develop a lot of discipline to follow my regimen, especially when I apply the Minoxidil to put the medication all over the top of my scalp since I have thinning in a NW6 pattern. But I'm looking forward to having improvements once I add the other treatment.
 

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They really don't understand it. A friend of mine who is 5'11 and NW0 with awesome hairstyle is more awkward than I am as a NW2 5'8 guy who can't style his hair, I always ask him why isn't he boning all the girls with looks like that, he says that he just looks normal and he has to look hot to do that.


If hes normal then you should have asked him what you look like?
 

MoHairMoBetta

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There is male pattern baldness on both sides of my family and it's a very common condition, so it doesn't surprise me that I got it. What surprised me is how early it started, I was 16 when male pattern baldness struck. All the men on both sides of my family who have hair loss didn't experience it until they were in their thirty's or forty's, but mine started when I was in my teens, it was a real shock for me.

This. If I went bald in my forties at least I would have my youth to enjoy myself, establish a career and start a family. Losing my hair this young has really destroyed my outlook on life. I still have the same goals but I know everything will be harder to achieve. What makes it worse is looking at my 60 year old dad's NW1 everyday. I used to think that would be me...
 

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Facebook irritates me. Vapid people posting selfies and all that guff, posting updates whining about trivial bollocks, but then I wonder if I would be doing the same If I had awesome hair? I don't know.
I work on a stroke ward with some other fellow baldies. I saw a lad 19 with downs syndrome who has had 3 strokes... He's been left with speech and swallow problems as well as poor use of one side. Don't get me wrong, I'm in a bad position in my twenties but things could always be worse.
 

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I'm in a bad position in my twenties but things could always be worse.

You are right. That's why I always prepare mentally for the next disaster to strike, as luck is never on my side. As if it wasn't bad enough for me to go rapidly bald as a 20 year old female, I now have to watch my 17 year old brother lose his beautiful hair. He doesn't know it yet but I can clearly tell he's begun to recede and given my history with baldness he won't stand a chance I guess. He has extremely low self esteem already so God knows how he will deal with this hell, just praying he won't end his life because of it. I just don't understand how this much bad luck can be in someone's life...
 

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This. If I went bald in my forties at least I would have my youth to enjoy myself, establish a career and start a family. Losing my hair this young has really destroyed my outlook on life. I still have the same goals but I know everything will be harder to achieve. What makes it worse is looking at my 60 year old dad's NW1 everyday. I used to think that would be me...

Same with myself. Having this problem start at 16 is a real drag. I'm also having premature greying hair on the sides of my head, so that adds to the turmoil. I wouldn't say that it's destroyed my outlook on life, but it's certainly a burden.
 

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You're right resu, yet we can't help ourselves but want more. I think we all are jealous, at least subconsciously. Every human being wants to climb up the food chain.

No, for us bald men, we just want to be PART of the food chain. Being bald, society casts you out. Men mock you, potential employers see you as old and useless, women see you with disgust. The little amount of respect we get makes life basically pointless.
 

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No, for us bald men, we just want to be PART of the food chain. Being bald, society casts you out. Men mock you, potential employers see you as old and useless, women see you with disgust. The little amount of respect we get makes life basically pointless.

Technically everyone is a part of the food chain, baldies are just the very bottom pile that society likes to spit on to make themselves feel better.
 
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