How do you deal with people you've not seen in a while?

[cruz]

Its something that really worries me. What are they gonna say, are they gonna spend the whole time looking at my head?

I've recently found myself making excuses as to why i can't meet up with old friends but i can't do this forever, and i always feel so guilty afterwards.

 

[Guest]

Well, I will try to wear a hat whenever it is possible....

 

[beaner]

I love it when I see people I haven't seen in a while...they all stare at my head trying to figure out what's different and then realize I have more hair than I've had in almost a decade. It's a wonderful feeling.

 

[flimflam]

I met up with an old friend of mine at xmas. He had like noooo hair left. He had a full head of hair the last time I saw him. So, not all bad.

 

[cruz]

Yeah, i suppose at the end of the day, no one cares about your hairloss like you do, but still.....

 

[HairLessGR]

What do YOU do cruz when you meet an old friend who's now lost his hair?
You think about it for a while (sometimes favourably since now he looks better) and try not to show it. That's what they will also do. Few of them won't even notice it. Noone laughts at these things. Sooner or later they'll be where you're standing and they know it.

 

[Sean68]

it maybe a brief awkard moment but lifes full of them. youve just
got to bite the bullet and do it. maybe pre-empt it and make a joke
yourself before someone else mentions it it works for me.

 

[Bald Dave]

I must have lost a lot of hair in the past 2 years because I met up with a friend that I hdan't seen in 2 years and he was constantly staring at my bald spot whilst people who I see regularly don't tend to notice it!

 

[pologuy514]

It's my opinion that if they are real good friends that you haven't met up with in a while their image of you is the one they had in the past and whether or not you have hair it doesn't shatter the past.

 

[Mens Rea]

man thats crazy.

avoided a friend reunion because of looks? WHAT?

its just a bit of hair (or lack of).

i just laugh it off if anyone says 'youre going a bit thin'. Its hardly life or death. People say it openly usually because they dont actually think much off it. If they thought it was really that bad they'd say nothing!!!

get that self-confidence back man

 

[Knendell]

I get scared too but I always throw out a joke but I am crying inside. The best thing for me to do is not look into mirrors. I am almost to the point where I use that frosting stuff on my bathroom mirror just low enough so it covers where my hair used to be. I am serious, that is the sad part...

 

[hairwegoagain]

Pathetic

 

[roki]

Pathetic

everybody is different
not all of us were born with a high self esteem ,you should learn to except that and stop insulting people
m not talking about myself though ,but just saying you have to walk in another personas shoes for a while to be able to make all those statments you make all the time

 

[Guest]

Pathetic

everybody is different
not all of us were born with a high self esteem ,you should learn to except that and stop insulting people
m not talking about myself though ,but just saying you have to walk in another personas shoes for a while to be able to make all those statments you make all the time

not really. have you seen hairwegoagain's hair? he's like nw5. he's worse than 90% of the posters on this site and he has a positive attitude.

 

[roki]

Pathetic

everybody is different
not all of us were born with a high self esteem ,you should learn to except that and stop insulting people
m not talking about myself though ,but just saying you have to walk in another personas shoes for a while to be able to make all those statments you make all the time

not really. have you seen hairwegoagain's hair? he's like nw5. he's worse than 90% of the posters on this site and he has a positive attitude.

self esteem is not about looks ,some people have infiriority complexs some people had a hard life and there for are more sensitive
its not like telling anyone that hes "pathetic" ot that he should be a man (combined with another insult)or what ever it was gonna help ,its just anoying tht he thinks just because he's bald and it wasnt so hard for him ,that it will be the same for everybody else because it isnt the same and it wont be the same-some people will have it easier and some much harder ,all im saying is that everyone's different and those comments are useless

 

[Knendell]

Pathetic

Not everyone can have a regretless life like yourself. Some people have real problems to deal with on a day to day basis. For instance I had to get an EEG yesterday and some pulse therapy. Not exactly something everyone has to do. Everyone says everyone has issues but i realized most normal peoples issues are very minor. So like Roki said take a walk in my shoes for one day, I dare you. Then see what say you...

 

[s.a.f]

If you've had a pretty good life until m.p.b came along and hairloss is your only real problem then you should be able to cope with it because you have so much other stuff going for you. But if you've had problems your whole life that have had negative effects on you and your character and hairloss is just one of many faults then its like the final killer blow for you.

We are all suffering from m.p.b but we are not all in the same situation.

 

[hairwegoagain]

Not everyone can have a regretless life like yourself. Some people have real problems to deal with on a day to day basis. For instance I had to get an EEG yesterday and some pulse therapy. Not exactly something everyone has to do. Everyone says everyone has issues but i realized most normal peoples issues are very minor. So like Roki said take a walk in my shoes for one day, I dare you. Then see what say you...

First of all, my comment was in response to the subject of this thread, not intentionally directed towards you. My mistake not quoting text from the beginning...sorry. But since you rang in...

Nope, I don't have a regretless life...and yes, male pattern baldness has obviously bothered me to some extent...but not to the extent of allowing my life to be ruined.

As far as having to deal with problems day-to-day, bro you are not unique in that regard. That's life defined...whether it's health, family, money, school, career, women, etc. I've had problems with each of them. I'm sure you have too, and NO I don't take your problems leading up to an EEG lightly. I'm sorry you're having to go through that....however, that has absolutely no relationship to male pattern baldness nor the concept of hiding oneself from old friends.

I do recognize that my advice and commentary are not always popular...I expect that. Sadly, men are often not the strongest sex these days and some can't handle straight talk. You won't find me joining a cry of self-pity over male pattern baldness nor will I condone the choice of being prisoner to same when there's an obvious alternative. Anything else is a disservice to people here, in my view. I'm not suggesting that you ignore male pattern baldness entirely - by all means, use the best of what's available today in terms of treatment if you like. Once you've got that nailed down, however, additional worry is wasted energy, time, and happiness. Does anyone challenge this?

It is a fact that those who dwell on male pattern baldness every waking hour will one day regret the opportunity cost of doing so. No, it's not easy...but there's only two roads - wallow in depression or get on with things - good things! male pattern baldness is a constant no matter which road you take...so take the better road. No amount of worry or feeling sorry for oneself will grow your hair back.

If the group at large would prefer me to cease offering advice/suggestions/commentary based upon what we as MEN have the obligation to do, I will honor that...and those in question can continue along the weak road of self-imposed misery unimpeded.

Hugs and Kisses,

Hairwegoagain

 

[Mens Rea]

Gotta agree with hairwegoagain.

If male pattern baldness is the sole reason for low self-esteem and avoiding old friends or other social events then you need to really put things back into persepective.

Id rather have more hair myself but the day it costs me my social life is that day ill ask myself 'what the frig am i thinking?'. If i was insecure like that i would never have met my beautiful gf (shes a looker! ). Its only as big a problem as you let it. Someone with a real sickness or something that genuinely hinders their ability to be socialable would give this little sympathy.

The day you let baldness dictate your life is a sad day. But i understand how over time it can. So how about, starting today start to refocus on life and whats important. If im bald in 10 years then so be it but ill be a succesful bald guy with a lovely wife and family and a good job. Not one feeling sorry for himself. Imagine looking back on your life when you're 50 thinking 'male pattern baldness made me lose my social life, cost me my happiness and a potential family or whatever'. How silly would that be?

 

[Knendell]

I respect everyones opinion and have to admit I had a terrible day yesterday and am jumpy. I consider myself a realist and I know how difficult reality can be. If male pattern baldness was the worst thing in my life I would cope like many others and live on. I just have bigger issues and smaller problems get intensified because of that. Just doing the best I can with what I was born with.