How i am battling hairloss

[optimystic]

I've been tagging along this forum for a year or so checking in every couple of months when im moody about my hair

Okay so i guess i have a 1 up to declare which is that my aunt is a dermatologist so she sends me free samples of stuff to use.
I used some french stuff called la roche posay and now im on minoxidil
To be honest i have no clue whether this stuff is working i just apply it every morning anyway (30 seconds...)

Results: My hair is thinning. I see now that my hair was always falling on the same rate but the real problem is it is getting thinner and thinner everyday and now my head shows from the front and i have a clear bald spot that i need to apply sunscreen to on the back of my head.

Dunno if it was months or a year ago (it was a long enough time for me to lose a good deal of hair that's for sure) but i remember i was all like "hairloss isnt a big deal, get over it" and u were all like "u wait and see" well i guess now i've waited and i've seen.
And you know what, you're right it wasnt fair. I had a full head of hair and no right to talk. Its like a rich man telling a poorer man money isnt everything. No matter how true it is at some level its hypocrisy...

But i think now i've earned the right (or should i say, the credibility) to be able to say the following:

Its REALLY NOT that big a deal.
Yes i used to look better. But my face hasnt changed and im still fit.
This forum makes me feel better because its just funny how much people seem to care. I bet if some1 comes up with an idea that cooling your hair will make it last longer some people on this forum would sleep on a pillow made of ice.

You want to say im not being realtic? FINE
Lets be realistic people shall we? answer some questions for me:

1) Are you so unattractive that your hair is the one redeeming feature in your looks? If so, how about you lose some weight or try body building or use facial creams (that work) to get rid of whatever makes your face so gloomy.

2) Are you so attractive that your hair is the only thing standing in the way of you looking like brad pitt? If so, you gotta be kidding me. You know brad pitt without the hair is still brad pitt (less attractive but still very high up there)..

3) Are you so rich that you can afford all these drugs they are giving you?

4) Do you have that much free time and that little to worry about in life that HAIRLOSS is currently the pinnacle of your life?

5)Are you so daft to believe that DHT blockers that block a HORMONE RECEPTOR dont have significant side effects?
newsflash: ALL DRUGS HAVE SIDE EFFECTS. Drugs stay in your body for a long long time and take years for the liver to filter out the last trace. And even when they are gone they usually would have caused changes in your body that are permanent. Even if you can still get an erection, would you want to decrease its duration? Its length? Would you want it to affect your fertility? Are you making real sure that none of those things are being affected in the slightest as you stay on the drug? Alcohol doesnt cause liver problems overnight...Long term effects can take as long as a lifetime to become evident...

6) Are you so daft that you think hairloss is worse than erection loss?
Note to all fellow human males: A GOOD LOOKING PENIS IS WAY MORE IMPORTANT THAN GOOD LOOKING HAIR.

7) Are you not aware that life is really short? You think at any point in the long run you're gonna think "I lived a good life...i just wish i had more hair.."


BTW alot of you people said i would lose my girlfriend but I DID NOT we are now closer than ever i hope to marry her someday but i have bigger family related problems in that domain. We broke up and got back together (cause we couldnt stay apart) many times, but if she ever broke up with me because of my hair loss i would say "good riddance, b**ch" with the biggest smile you'd ever see on my face and you'll find me on bar street the next day picking up chicks again.

So, There.
That's how im coping with hair loss, How about you?

 

[peter079]

Hi,

1) Would you be kind enough to post a photo of yourself (no fakes please) so that we can see the extent of your (so called) hairloss, so that we can determine for ourselves if you are for real, or just full of it?

2) "I don't care about hairloss but I still apply minoxidil every morning".......???????

3) You better seal the deal ("marry my girlfriend") with your girlfriend quick before you loose any more hair, because then she WILL leave you.
Could this be the reason you got back with her in a hurry??

 

[optimystic]

Hi,

1) Would you be kind enough to post a photo of yourself (no fakes please) so that we can see the extent of your (so called) hairloss, so that we can determine for ourselves if you are for real, or just full of it?

2) "I don't care about hairloss but I still apply minoxidil every morning".......???????

3) You better seal the deal ("marry my girlfriend") with your girlfriend quick before you loose any more hair, because then she WILL leave you.
Could this be the reason you got back with her in a hurry??

1) no im not posting a photo of myself on this forum for fear of identifying myself.

2) i care its not that i dont care ofcourse i care to some extent. but its just some extent. if its gonna go, its gonna go...i put minoxidil coz well u never know...but it doesnt feel like its doing anything at all (not even stopping rate of my hair loss) but i put it anyway just in case.

Im not saying that everyone should burn their hair. Im just saying they dont need to weep if they are losing it.

3) LOL. man just LOL. i dont know which culture you are from but love here is alittle more significant than just hairloss. Btw no that's not why we got back together (and btw, WE got back together, just like WE broke up, im not desperate in this relationship if she could handle us being apart i would've handled it too). And you are frigging mad if you think you should get married out of your own insecurity...just mad...

what world do you live in man that you don't even believe that a bald or balding guy could score a chick? we're not talking about a balding girl scoring a guy...
Women go for attractive features in men yes but hair is not the only thing. There is fitness, abs, how hairy your body is (frankly i have some problem there lol), how cute\good looking your face is etc...
And then there are many other factors that add in to attraction like how funny\optimistic\cool\patient\funny\rich\successful\funny you are.

For my personal use i actually benefited from the sob stories on this forum and seeing how bad people felt made me feel better about myself (i felt alrite maybe im losing hair i wont get back but there are some stuff in me that im not losing)

Now im pretty much over it all my friends have made their comments\jokes about me balding and frankly i cant wait till its all gone and i look like hitman coz then i'll look better than this NW4 look. Right now i need to go the barbor every 2 weeks to get the crew cut back on (but btw, i've never felt better after going to the barbor than i do now. I just look odd with hair now and way more myself without hair.)

if you are so deep in the system that you think hairloss will mess up your life for good, then i am sorry i cant and these words wont help you. Im also sorry for finding comfort in your dismay sometimes (its survival of the fittest).

But if you just started losing your hair then i need to tell you the faster you reach acceptance the sooner you'll be able to live your life normally and move on to other things like your addiction to nicotine\drugs\alcohol, or actually if you are 21 like me, your career.

If you keep worrying about it and start popping pills and counting your hairs every night then its just gonna become an obsession, and obsesions steer you away from normal life.

 

[jhart]

1) Hair is a characteristic, without hair we have less of a personality (harsh but the truth). It’s very assuming (*** being the operative word) to think all member’s of this forum are overweight, unfit, and have gloomy faces. Without actually trying, it’s very easy to assume that if you buff up and shave your head, you will be cast in an upcoming film as Vin Diesels sexier twin. But its genetics and you are either ugly with the delusions of such transformations, or have a tight body and face to compensate for your scalp.


3) Yes I am a millionaire who can afford the 50 dollars spent per month to not only maintain my hair but a healthy scalp. I mean it’s a little excessive but it’s not like those women who spend 50 dollars every week on their hair and nails.


4) I agree hair loss is an inconvenience and I do worry if only a little, it’s natural. But the initial time spent to discover how to maintain your hair is necessary. Beyond that us avid browsers, and unfortunately the people who have yet to be successful choose to be here. As for the time spent on my regimen I Swallow a pill when I take my multivitamin, there’s about 8 seconds of my life wasted. I spend 1 minute a night before bed applying minoxidil.


5) Yeah it’s like Russian roulette with these damn things, if only there were some sort of rigorous regulation and testing of drugs to avoid such disasters. I am baffled by the amount of idiots who believe if they take finasteride they are certain to permanently lose sexual function, and it’s not even worth arguing over because intelligent people won’t believe something without credible evidence.



7) Exactly life is short; these are the best years of our lives (quite literally if you’re thinking relatively). So why be thrust into a bald persona so easily, I’m not going to sugar coat it and say the stigmatization of balding ( more so in younger people) should be ignored, but we are human beings and it’s the truth
If your girlfriend knew how egotistical you were to post such trash (yes I’m a hypocrite) just to serve as some sort of declaration that your choice in life is logical and better than ours, and then she should leave you for being so vain. I’m probably ranting on far too much than what is necessary but I react appropriately to people who bastardise our lifestyle.

 

[optimystic]

Hair is a characteristic, without hair we have less of a personality (harsh but the truth). -->hair is a characteristic not a personality trait. Without hair, your personality should be the same. you cant justify a personality based on how you look, or else everyone is what they look like and you're judging a book by its cover. Yes, your personality can show through your style and as far as hair goes, tough luck u cant style ur own hair coz u got none but as far as the rest goes you can style everything else. Your personality doesnt die because of your hair, it dies as collateral coz you care so much about your hair.


It’s very assuming (*** being the operative word) to think all member’s of this forum are overweight, unfit, and have gloomy faces. --> that's not what i was assuming. I just mean is there no area in your looks that you actually CAN change to the better as opposed to hair which is not really in your control today.

Yes I am a millionaire who can afford the 50 dollars spent per month to not only maintain my hair but a healthy scalp. I mean it’s a little excessive but it’s not like those women who spend 50 dollars every week on their hair and nails.-->its not 50$ a week, and second of all they are women. we are men. You want to talk about harsh realities of genetics? hairloss in men doesnt even begin to compare to the insecurities women face in todays world. Women's looks are alot more important than men's looks.


But the initial time spent to discover how to maintain your hair is necessary. --> If you panic and obsess about it you are losing your personality as collateral. Its bad enough your balding, you want to be balding and super self-concious?


Yeah it’s like Russian roulette with these damn things, if only there were some sort of rigorous regulation and testing of drugs to avoid such disasters. I am baffled by the amount of idiots who believe if they take finasteride they are certain to permanently lose sexual function, and it’s not even worth arguing over because intelligent people won’t believe something without credible evidence.
-->I come from a family of doctors and start med school real soon and there's a reason when i asked my aunt about these pills she told me not to take them.
Finasteride was approved in the 90s. Dont be retarded they tell you its safe coz they want to sell something but they have no idea the effects it has in the long term of your life. You can go impotent 10 years before you're supposed to and they'll still approve the drug.
I must mention here by the way that i googled abit about DHT and DHT blockers, DHT blockers lower your PSA level. And your PSA level is a very important health indicator if its high you might have cancer or something serious. Taking finasteride can mask such indicators that might otherwise save your life. On a side note my dad had a high PSA level a year ago and turned out he had benign prostate cancer and was able to take care of it in 2 months of radiotherapy (no prostatectomy required). He must monitor his PSA level to make sure it doesnt return...


Exactly life is short; these are the best years of our lives --> im sorry if my belief that spending those years worrying about hair is a waste of mind is insulting to other people.


If your girlfriend knew how egotistical you were to post such trash--> i am not egotistical but i am VERY OUTSPOKEN its part of who i am being bold wont change that and if it did thats more likely to make my gf leave me than my lack of hair.


This being a forum open to people who are feeling down because of hair loss i figure some perspective is in order. Hair loss sucks, but it doesnt suck that bad. This is my view and even if its not the majority's view i still have a right to air it. I think before anything when people are feeling bad about their hair loss, before talking about treatment options you should talk about coping with your hairloss. First you cope, then you treat.
And as far as coping is concerned it helps if people say, or rather, believe, "its not that big a deal"
Because the truth in this forum seems to be that it is that big a deal, but the truth in the real world is its only a big deal if you make a big deal out of it.
I know the world is not perfect and it is a shallow world BUT its not so shallow that you're not gonna survive if you're balding.

 

[Fender89]

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