I.D WALKER
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ID, buddy, line breaks please.
You're mostly right, people( women and men) often change through the natural ebb and flow of time and for a multi-faceted hosts of rational/irrational reasons. Change courses through all our veins and for those who are open to it or moved even indirectly by I would be remiss not to admit that I have seen some impossible dilemmas as well as pleasant dreams come from it. Although I no longer romanticize on yesterdays subjectivity or personal history or tomorrows amorous possibilities. I don't look at the future with an accusatorial glare either. For me NOW is, was and will always be THE TIME that will determine my state of consciousness. Based on personal experience, I use "unconditional love" to merely express what is MY closest understandable concept (my current perception) tells me may be most individuals idea of "ideal love". So let me clarify to your point that my idea of unconditional love is not love that is blind or exercises indiscretion and absolute tolerance. It is more like an unselfish gesture of good will and courage from an honest and sensible person who's attraction to you just so happens to go much deeper than epidermal.
Well I think men can love unconditionally... Or at least I did. I remember that I loved my first gf unconditionally, things changed as the years went by, she changed, she even had periods of being fat, or stressed out, or crazy, or all of them together, but I still kept loving her.
So I think it does exist, but it's just not common, hence it's even less common that two people feel unconditional love for each other.
That is why I used "special". Uncommon is confessedly LESS abstract and favorably more objective. Too many people can not always clearly see the important relevance and parallel between attitude an altitude. Too many uncontrollable factors get in our way. It is one thing for us to learn in concept, but altogether difficult to put into practice. When the button of our happiness is stuck on off and we are dumbstruck in our dark despair it's no wonder that the exit to opportunity for a brighter life seems permanently blocked off. To those sorrowful individuals here and abroad contemplating suicide, it is important that you reconsider this first before ever acting upon them: I promise you that you may eradicate the overwhelming and overbearing pain in and about you and I promise that your demons don't ever die with you. They will stay on and thru one tragic act will also betray the safety and potential happiness of those whom loved you best.
And no, you don't have to settle for a slob either.