How you deal with setbacks is what ....

[vondoom]

This is true, I am successful because I have a strong track record + academically qualified

it still bothers me that everyone is whining and whining and not doing sh*t...
like complaining about hair and making it the sole reason for everything, but refusing to take finasteride... and then refusing to get a system...
makes everything they say an empty complaint and nothing more...

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

I create these opportunities, what have you done in the past few weeks to create opportunities with women?

That's a beautiful sentiment but you know as well as I that life doesn't work that way.

You create with the tools you have been given.

And, evidently, not everyone has equal tools. Some people don't have what is required to succeed in certain aspects of life. I'm always baffled why this is commonly accepted when it comes to sports, art or science, but when one does not have the required gifts and skills to succeed in dating it's suddenly taboo and you yourself should shoulder all the blame for your failures.

You can develop skill, but if you're profoundly ungifted in something, you will still fail despite improving yourself. For example I always wanted to be a mathematician when I was young. I excelled above all my peers in school, but then when I went to uni I got instantly humbled and was forced to come to terms with the fact that, in all likelihood, like the vast majority of mathematicians, I wasn't going to contribute anything meaningful to the field that I love.

With dating it's the same. Sure the requirements, depending on your preferences and appearance, aren't as strict, but regardless some people will never make the cut. And passively putting all the blame on them by flaunting your succes, most likely has zero positive effect

 

[Feelsbadman]

it still bothers me that everyone is whining and whining and not doing sh*t...
like complaining about hair and making it the sole reason for everything, but refusing to take finasteride... and then refusing to get a system...
makes everything they say an empty complaint and nothing more...

I take finasteride
I have a degree a good degree as well
I earn average income at 27 but if i work hard I should be earning good money by 30
I workout 5 x a week (weights and cardio)
I'm low body fat with visible abs

how much more 'sh*t' do i need to do?

Maybe i just need to earn 80k instead of 60k and the women will ocme and life willbe good?
or if i finally get to 100kg on my bench press instead of 90k maybe that' the trick?
Or maybe i just need to spend more hours swiping right on girls maybe i just have been 'unlucky'

lol please

the truth is the game was rigged from the start.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

I take finasteride
I have a degree a good degree as well
I earn average income at 27 but if i work hard I should be earning good money by 30
I workout 5 x a week (weights and cardio)
I'm low body fat with visible abs

how much more 'sh*t' do i need to do?

Maybe i just need to earn 80k instead of 60k and the women will ocme and life willbe good?
or if i finally get to 100kg on my bench press instead of 90k maybe that' the trick?
Or maybe i just need to spend more hours swiping right on girls maybe i just have been 'unlucky'

lol please

the truth is the game was rigged from the start.

Smart. Don't get suckered into the need to improve yourself in spite of yourself. Only do what makes you happy. If you need to remake your whole personality just so you can sniff some drilled out kunt, will that make you happy?

 

[vondoom]

I take finasteride
I have a degree a good degree as well
I earn average income at 27 but if i work hard I should be earning good money by 30
I workout 5 x a week (weights and cardio)
I'm low body fat with visible abs

how much more 'sh*t' do i need to do?

Maybe i just need to earn 80k instead of 60k and the women will ocme and life willbe good?
or if i finally get to 100kg on my bench press instead of 90k maybe that' the trick?
Or maybe i just need to spend more hours swiping right on girls maybe i just have been 'unlucky'

lol please

the truth is the game was rigged from the start.

yeah that wasnt pointed at you.

 

[DoctorHouse]

@Oknow, be careful now. You are starting to hang around here way too much. Giving advice can be very addictive( trust me unfortunately it's my downfall and I am trying to "quit it") but this forum is way too toxic now to even bother. Let misery love their company. Better to just PM people who appreciate you.

 

[Oknow]

I take finasteride
I have a degree a good degree as well
I earn average income at 27 but if i work hard I should be earning good money by 30
I workout 5 x a week (weights and cardio)
I'm low body fat with visible abs

how much more 'sh*t' do i need to do?

Maybe i just need to earn 80k instead of 60k and the women will ocme and life willbe good?
or if i finally get to 100kg on my bench press instead of 90k maybe that' the trick?
Or maybe i just need to spend more hours swiping right on girls maybe i just have been 'unlucky'

lol please

the truth is the game was rigged from the start.

Keep on trying, that’s all

find it hard to believe that you get zero matches, I’m not ripped and I have over 150 matches in 3 months

 

[Oknow]

@Oknow, be careful now. You are starting to hang around here way too much. Giving advice can be very addictive( trust me unfortunately it's my downfall and I am trying to "quit it") but this forum is way too toxic now to even bother. Let misery love their company. Better to just PM people who appreciate you.

very sad to see to be honest

 

[Oknow]

Smart. Don't get suckered into the need to improve yourself in spite of yourself. Only do what makes you happy. If you need to remake your whole personality just so you can sniff some drilled out kunt, will that make you happy?

his mindset is very negative

even if he went on a date women will be able to sense it

 

[DoctorHouse]

very sad to see to be honest

Look at least you tried. You can't save those who don't want to be saved.

 

[Feelsbadman]

Smart. Don't get suckered into the need to improve yourself in spite of yourself. Only do what makes you happy. If you need to remake your whole personality just so you can sniff some drilled out kunt, will that make you happy?

after all these years i realised self improvement is so overrated its like a meme. Doing all this crap you don't even enjoy just to self improve bro.

https://cdn.quotesgram.com/img/0/27/1950744869-self-improvement-fight-club-gif1.gif

it's like this never ending cycle if only i reach this level then my life will be better

 

[DoctorHouse]

after all these years i realised self improvement is so overrated its like a meme. Doing all this crap you don't even enjoy just to self improve bro.

https://cdn.quotesgram.com/img/0/27/1950744869-self-improvement-fight-club-gif1.gif

View attachment 166896

it's like this never ending cycle if only i reach this level then my life will be better

@Descending Dog

 

[Oknow]

That's a beautiful sentiment but you know as well as I that life doesn't work that way.

You create with the tools you have been given.

And, evidently, not everyone has equal tools. Some people don't have what is required to succeed in certain aspects of life. I'm always baffled why this is commonly accepted when it comes to sports, art or science, but when one does not have the required gifts and skills to succeed in dating it's suddenly taboo and you yourself should shoulder all the blame for your failures.

You can develop skill, but if you're profoundly ungifted in something, you will still fail despite improving yourself. For example I always wanted to be a mathematician when I was young. I excelled above all my peers in school, but then when I went to uni I got instantly humbled and was forced to come to terms with the fact that, in all likelihood, like the vast majority of mathematicians, I wasn't going to contribute anything meaningful to the field that I love.

With dating it's the same. Sure the requirements, depending on your preferences and appearance, aren't as strict, but regardless some people will never make the cut. And passively putting all the blame on them by flaunting your succes, most likely has zero positive effect

bullshit

it’s not that simple with dating, people can improve their dating life by working on themselves mentally and physically

I’m much more comfortable in my own skin now, by that have a stronger sense of self worth, and generally know how to chat women up better from having better social skills, than in my 20s when I went on zero dates from 25-29

if I thought that way.I would still be a virgin at 35 from crippling confidence

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

@Oknow, be careful now. You are starting to hang around here way too much. Giving advice can be very addictive( trust me unfortunately it's my downfall and I am trying to "quit it") but this forum is way too toxic now to even bother. Let misery love their company. Better to just PM people who appreciate you.

This forum is just a reflection of the current state of society. The level of superficiality is mind-boggling when you reflect on it for a second. As is the pressure put on young people, while they constantly get bombared with beautiful people living an impossible dream, trying to sell that dream to them. You're a little more mature and not of our generation, so you don't get to bear the brunt of it, but believe me it is hellish. Underneath I barely meet any happy people

 

[Oknow]

after all these years i realised self improvement is so overrated its like a meme. Doing all this crap you don't even enjoy just to self improve bro.

https://cdn.quotesgram.com/img/0/27/1950744869-self-improvement-fight-club-gif1.gif

View attachment 166896

it's like this never ending cycle if only i reach this level then my life will be better

you don’t get it, do you

self improvement is not for others, it’s for you

you will never be everybody’s type even if you had the perfect hair, the whole idea is to find people who find you attractive

statistically the odds are in your favour, there are lots of women out there, that are attracted to different types of people

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

bullshit

it’s not that simple with dating, people can improve their dating life by working on themselves mentally and physically

I’m much more comfortable in my own skin now, by that have a stronger sense of self worth, and generally know how to chat women up better from having better social skills, than in my 20s when I went on zero dates from 25-29

if I thought that way.I would still be a virgin at 35 from crippling confidence

That only means you had a decent base in the first place; unlocked potential, waiting for you to put the work in. Add to that the fact women's standards drop as they age ( which isn't meant as an insult btw) , and you have the perfect storm for late-life succes. I'm not debating against self-improvement, I'm only saying your genetic base is more important than the time you spend unlocking it

For some reason you don't want to recognize that, perhaps because you think it diminishes your achievements. It doesn't.

 

[Feelsbadman]

That only means you had a decent base in the first place; unlocked potential, waiting for you to put the work in. Add to that the fact women's standards drop as they age ( which isn't meant as an insult btw) , and you have the perfect storm for late-life succes. I'm not debating against self-improvement, I'm only saying your genetic base is more important than the time you spend unlocking it

For some reason you don't want to recognize that, perhaps because you think it diminishes your achievements. It doesn't.

this!!!!!

 

[Oknow]

That only means you had a decent base in the first place; unlocked potential, waiting for you to put the work in. Add to that the fact women's standards drop as they age ( which isn't meant as an insult btw) , and you have the perfect storm for late-life succes. I'm not debating against self-improvement, I'm only saying your genetic base is more important than the time you spend unlocking it

For some reason you don't want to recognize that, perhaps because you think it diminishes your achievements. It doesn't.

actually find older women harder to pull, and if that’s true why isn’t @Feelsbadman targeting them?

 

[DoctorHouse]

This forum is just a reflection of the current state of society. The level of superficiality is mind-boggling when you reflect on it for a second. As is the pressure put on young people, while they constantly get bombared with beautiful people living an impossible dream, trying to sell that dream to them. You're a little more mature and not of our generation, so you don't get to bear the brunt of it, but believe me it is hellish. Underneath I barely meet any happy people

Unfortunately, I represent what happens when you have a condition that you never outgrow. Social media only flamed "my fire". I think some people just never outgrow certain mental conditions but at the same have no choice but to move on with their life the best way they can. And I totally agree with you. Depression and anxiety is on the rise. Suicide is on the rise. And the reason is because our self worth is based on looks because of movies, social media, and Hollywood have brainwashed us into believing looks do matter. Of course they matter. Beauty is in the eye of the holder but everyone prefers beauty to ugliness. It is innate instinct to want the best of the best. It's just sometime people will settle only to confirm with the norm of what society expects us to do. I am the outsider who didn't conform. No one has to conform but most people will because they want to be a part of the norm.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

actually find older women harder to pull, and if that’s true why isn’t @Feelsbadman targeting them?

A small percentage are. Career women who get very picky because they think men value the same thing as they value in men. While they actually just desire youth, beauty and innocence.

I don't think he has a thing for older women tbh. He seems to me more like a depressed romantic who longs for young, untouched love