How you deal with setbacks is what ....

[Oknow]

this is what i did and it badly backfired and left me traumatized for 2 years

When it comes to settling, wouldn’t do it how you did if she is a sl*t

Instead, probably just go for a less attractive woman that has her sh*t together

 

[Oknow]

Sometimes i still think about my ex and wonder about her is this normal?
someties i think mybe she wasn't that bad?
i guess its ust delusinal thinking right
she was very trashy

it’s normal because you haven’t met anyone new, hookers don’t count

when you do meet someone new, the feelings will significantly fade

 

[Feelsbadman]

When it comes to settling, wouldn’t do it how you did if she is a sl*t

Instead, probably just go for a less attractive woman that has her sh*t togethe

well yea I thought sh*t I only have once chance to be with a girl whose actually attrcactive and works out who cares if she's a HUGE slt probably has STDS lol
i learnt my lesson though

 

[DoctorHouse]

When it comes to settling, wouldn’t do it how you did if she is a sl*t

Instead, probably just go for a less attractive woman that has her sh*t together

And what happens a year later when you finally meet a women who fits into what you have been looking for all your life and she fancies you big time. Are you going to drop this person you settle with for her?

 

[Feelsbadman]

anyone else not even care about sex and rather a relationship?

 

[Oknow]

And what happens a year later when you finally meet a women who fits into what you have been looking for all your life and she fancies you big time. Are you going to drop this person you settle with for her?

you know, that’s a large reason why I haven’t settled, I’ve rejected so many women on the basis that there is someone better around the corner. Did this with the last lady I met

To answer your question - once I’ve made a decision I will stick to it

 

[Oknow]

well yea I thought sh*t I only have once chance to be with a girl whose actually attrcactive and works out who cares if she's a HUGE slt probably has STDS lol
i learnt my lesson though

yeah I hear you , consider yourself lucky you didn’t have kids with her. If you did, you would be totally fucked.

 

[Oknow]

anyone else not even care about sex and rather a relationship?

Deep down that’s what everyone wants, especially women

 

[Feelsbadman]

Deep down that’s what everyone wants, especially women

then why did my ex sleep around so easily? 3 men in 1 week

 

[DoctorHouse]

you know, that’s a large reason why I haven’t settled, I’ve rejected so many women on the basis that there is someone better around the corner. Did this with the last lady I met

To answer your question - once I’ve made a decision I will stick to it

But what if you can't stop thinking about her because you see her every day. And my biggest downfall was that type of thinking. That something better will be around the corner. And once you get stuck in that thought process your rejection rate skyrockets.

 

[Oknow]

But what if you can't stop thinking about her because you see her every day. And my biggest downfall was that type of thinking. That something better will be around the corner. And once you get stuck in that thought process your rejection rate skyrockets.

no idea , never been in this situation

 

[Feelsbadman]

then why did my ex sleep around so easily? 3 men in 1 week

bump

 

[Oknow]

then why did my ex sleep around so easily? 3 men in 1 week

probably one of those open relationship types, if you accepted her sleeping around, she would still probably be with you

I was in this exact situation back in Jan, told her to f*** off

 

[Feelsbadman]

probably one of those open relationship types, if you accepted her sleeping around, she would still probably be with you

I was in this exact situation back in Jan, told her to f*** off

yes i felt like a cuck being with her and that was before i found out
this girls' partner count would be well over 150 maybe even 200.

I felt like a cuckold taking her out treating her like a lady but i loved the idea of having a gf lol.

 

[DoctorHouse]

yes i felt like a cuck being with her and that was before i found out
this girls' partner count would be well over 150 maybe even 200.

I felt like a cuckold taking her out treating her like a lady but i loved the idea of having a gf lol.

For some guys their goal is to make huge amounts of money so they can surround themselves with women like that constantly. Charlie Sheen was like that.

 

[Oknow]

yes i felt like a cuck being with her and that was before i found out
this girls' partner count would be well over 150 maybe even 200.

I felt like a cuckold taking her out treating her like a lady but i loved the idea of having a gf lol.

the thing about women like this, they don’t ever want to be told what to do, they want to always have their cake and eat it.

so even if you put up with that bullshit, overtime she will start to try to control you in other ways where if you don’t play ball will leave you

it’s a lose-lose situation, and not a relationship built on trust or respect

 

[Feelsbadman]

For some guys their goal is to make huge amounts of money so they can surround themselves with women like that constantly. Charlie Sheen was like that.

yea but charlie sheen and these guys arean't taking them out and treating them like girlfriends, they are w****s...

 

[doubleindemnity]

he’s a fool, just goes to show his lack of experience

can’t believe he is disputing it

if there are two guys -

1) working for Google as a Senior xxxx

and

2) working as a janitor

Guy number 1 is going always going to be taken more seriously and seen as more attractive

I remember years ago when I was at the start of my career working in small unknown companies, went on a date with one person, after telling her where I worked she dismissively remarked ‘never heard of it’, now women are so different once I broke into an established company

I am only talking from my experience. My results did not change one bit from college student to employee. And yes the women who met me did think that I was in a good career area but the volume of dates didn't change and neither did the number of successes.

If we have guy 1 and guy 2 as completely identical then yes you're correct. But if they are identical except guy 2 was Norwood 1 and guy 1 was Norwood 6 it would be much much closer and I think that the janitor could well win out. These are just hypotheticals so we can't argue either way. But I am just basing it on my experiences. Now say that we go further and reduce guy 2 a little bit to working at Google but not as a senior and guy 2 as working in a white collar profession in a relatively unknown firm. This is the more realistic scenario and guy 2, the Norwood 1 white collar guy, will be more attractive every single time. Nothing that my constructed guy 1 does, except for sorting out his hair, will allow him to outcompete guy 2, even if he founded his own Google. Again these are hypotheticals based on my experiences.

yeah that is the argument you always go back to, since it is the most convenient...
correct me if i am wrong, but apparently you got a good job and enough money to retire early, so you got it better than most...

someone said you are actually decent looking (of course that is subjective, but that means you are not hideous)...

you did have a date...

you arent stupid...

and i bet if i met you, i would find some more positive points...

but whenever someone mentions a good point about you, you answer with “im bald”... i would pop finasteride and min and dutasteride and whatever like a motherfucker in your case... i would even ignore sides if baldness made me that depressed...

or get a system, if money is not the problem, you should be able to get a good one and then do it all again and see if you got more success... i certainly hope you do, but you cant complain about being bald and not doing anything...

I am looking into transplants and systems. It will probably be a transplant with crown left bald. My point is that no matter the positive qualities you build up in yourself and life, baldness destroys them all and my experiences are in full agreement with that. I didn't used to be miserable; I became miserable after lots of sad life moments and disappointments. Yes everybody on here says good things about me and say that I look fine bald when I show a photo, but that doesn't change anything, sadly.

One other factor is that @Oknow has experience dating in 30s while myself and @Feelsbadman have experience of failing at it in 20s. So maybe what I am saying is true for me and what @Oknow is saying is true for him.

 

[DoctorHouse]

yea but charlie sheen and these guys arean't taking them out and treating them like girlfriends, they are w****s...

According to them, he did.

 

[Feelsbadman]

the thing about women like this, they don’t ever want to be told what to do, they want to always have their cake and eat it.

so even if you put up with that bullshit, overtime she will start to try to control you in other ways where if you don’t play ball will leave you

it’s a lose-lose situation, and not a relationship built on trust or respect

wow well said
even in the short time we were togeher i felt like this
she was raging at me for not taking her out and treating her like a girlfriend but also desperate for attention and posting half naked pictures all over social media

she was pretty messed up