Yeah, I know. Both are shitty situations. I think the important thing is that we keep in mind and clear what is most vital to us and what we are willing to risk. I hope that the side effects are not so terrible but for now I try not to draw conclusions in advance, but it is a latent fear especially when one listens and reads certain experiences that look like horror movies (although there are others that give me a little hope). It's a shitty situation but something has to be done.
Either we don't do anything or we risk something. For me, hair is important, and what I'm sure of is that I don't want to be bald and if that happens (I hope it doesn't obviously) remain with a clear conscience that I did everything I could to avoid it. For now I have been using some vitamins and natural topicals, oils, etc that have controlled a little my loss (it's not as terrible as it was before) but they are not enough. I keep losing hair. I'm going to try finasteride, at least a few months and see how I react, I don't expect magical results I must say, and from then on I'll try maybe with dutasteride and later spironolactone (if all the above fails).
My father is the same age and has no problem with his hair. Nothing.