I Feel I Have Been Robbed Of My Humanity...

[Dante92]

I think you ,me and fred should have an aggressive misery circle jerk slash heavy back patting session.... just to piss of hair loss. 20 other people liked this comment.

I've always thought that pissing H.L.off was the main hobby of many users here.

 

[FootyStar]

Do you go for therapy Dante? I've honestly had to see a psychologist due to the depression and anxiety hair loss has caused me.

It helps that my therapist is a younger guy in his late 30's who is a also a hairloss sufferer Norwood 5.

Keeps telling me there is more to life than looks and hair. And I agree to a point. But it doesn't make it any less devastating.

It's good that you managed to find someone to vent to - I may need a psychologist too in the future to deal with this problem. I mean the fact that we even have to see a psychologist to talk about something like hair loss (something that drastically changes our appearance for the worse) is what is really crazy about our situation.

I remember someone here mentioning that people seem to be scared of hair loss, but they desperately try to hide it. They send us away with platitudes like "just shave it" because they don't want to be reminded that it can happen to anyone at any age, even them. It's something completely out of their control, with limited ways to treat it, and people hate thinking about things that are out of their control.

I went from a NW2 to zero body hair within a month and the change in my appearance was like night and day. I didn't recognize myself at all, and neither did my friends - I was a new person to them. The looks of worry on their faces may have been out of concern for me, but I think it was also out fear: "How did this guy suddenly lose all his hair for no reason? Will that happen to me??".

This applies even more so to my relatives, all who share my genes. My condition may also occur in them too (one of my relatives has vitiligo which is linked to alopecia).

 

[EvilLocks]

Keeps telling me there is more to life than looks and hair. And I agree to a point. But it doesn't make it any less devastating.

That's what my therapist(s) keep telling me as well. But are they balding young? No? Then they don't know what they're talking about. In today's society looks (and hair) is incredibly important, and when your looks take a hit of course you're going to be unhappy. I think these therapists just tell you that because they don't know what else to say to you to make it better.

 

[I.D WALKER]

Unfortunately in this sh*t world we live in. People do judge a book by its cover.

Yes, and a lot of others, who will judge you while under the covers.

 

[Dante92]

Yes, and a lot of others, who will judge you while under the covers.

There is only one place where people are not going to judge us:

 

[I.D WALKER]

While we are ALL judged; fairness like hair is seldomly equally distributed.

 

[shookwun]

Without looks you will master bate yourself to sleep every night.

Only option is to make lots of money and marry a poor women who lives in a village within third world country.


Bald men are notorious for sex tourism.

 

[cocohot]

Couldn't you wear a wig and get some realistic stick on eyebrows? They must exist for women.

 

[CopeForLife]

I am with my NW3.5 considered a lucky one after I googled alopecia universalis

 

[DoctorHouse]

Does anyone else feel the same?

Maybe I’m a unique case since I have alopecia universalis, but when I first got this condition suddenly at 21, I was suddenly treated like a leper by everyone I know.

I am male, soon to be 28 and I have been unable to make a single friend or find a SO since then (all my friends dumped me immediately after they saw me without any hair). My family also treat me as if I have a disease (constant looks of worry on their faces, keeping their distance, etc). Don’t get me wrong, I still keep myself fit and try to “get out there”, but my self-esteem has taken a very steep nosedive over the past few years. As I approach 30 I find myself becoming more reclusive and alone as I don’t know anyone else who has this condition (or even hair loss at all since the vast majority of my relatives are NW2s at the most).

I know I’m not supposed to be here since I don’t have male pattern baldness (or maybe I do since my dad was an NW7 by 30), but I have gotten tired of the constant mantra on other alopecia forums of ‘bald is beautiful’ when peoples’ actions seem to strongly indicate otherwise.

The more realistic view of baldness here is very refreshing to be honest.

Welcome Footy, you definitely belong here. This place is like the Breakfast Club. We all suffer from insecurities due to all kinds of image problems. Hair loss is of course the number one reason most are here for. But this is a great place for group therapy too. So grab a seat and join in. Vent whatever you need to vent. You might find someone who will join the forum after they read your "story" and share a similar scenario so you can relate. For some, it can become "addicting" here. For now, we are your friends.

 

[EvilLocks]

Welcome Footy, you definitely belong here. This place is like the Breakfast Club. We all suffer from insecurities due to all kinds of image problems. Hair loss is of course the number one reason most are here for. But this is a great place for group therapy too. So grab a seat and join in. Vent whatever you need to vent. You might find someone who will join the forum after they read your "story" and share a similar scenario so you can relate. For some, it can become "addicting" here. For now, we are your friends.

Sweet post, DH. That's why I keep coming back to this place, because it feels like a family or a group of friends here. Of course not everyone is going to like or agree with everything I say, but I have grown found of this "gourmetstylewellness.com family" or whatever you want to call it. Even those who don't like me. And it surely feels like therapy posting here. I know I'm a bit of an imposter here as I'm a female in a male subforum, and I'm happy most of the guys here have accepted me into the group despite of this.

 

[kj6723]

Does anyone else feel the same?

Maybe I’m a unique case since I have alopecia universalis, but when I first got this condition suddenly at 21, I was suddenly treated like a leper by everyone I know.

I am male, soon to be 28 and I have been unable to make a single friend or find a SO since then (all my friends dumped me immediately after they saw me without any hair). My family also treat me as if I have a disease (constant looks of worry on their faces, keeping their distance, etc). Don’t get me wrong, I still keep myself fit and try to “get out there”, but my self-esteem has taken a very steep nosedive over the past few years. As I approach 30 I find myself becoming more reclusive and alone as I don’t know anyone else who has this condition (or even hair loss at all since the vast majority of my relatives are NW2s at the most).

I know I’m not supposed to be here since I don’t have male pattern baldness (or maybe I do since my dad was an NW7 by 30), but I have gotten tired of the constant mantra on other alopecia forums of ‘bald is beautiful’ when peoples’ actions seem to strongly indicate otherwise.

The more realistic view of baldness here is very refreshing to be honest.

Welcome. It seems you've got the most extreme version of what we all suffer from. We should all be groveling at your feet

It looks like this girl has the same condition as you. I noticed this post a while ago and that no one had responded:
https://www.gourmetstylewellness.com/intera...-here-is-my-story-a-little-bit-anyway.100179/

Maybe the two of you could connect? Doesn't look like she's logged on in a while though.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Sweet post, DH. That's why I keep coming back to this place, because it feels like a family or a group of friends here. Of course not everyone is going to like or agree with everything I say, but I have grown found of this "gourmetstylewellness.com family" or whatever you want to call it. Even those who don't like me. And it surely feels like therapy posting here. I know I'm a bit of an imposter here as I'm a female in a male subforum, and I'm happy most of the guys here have accepted me into the group despite of this.

I think even if they say they don't like you, deep down inside they do. Its just how love-hate works. You are not an imposter. You have definitely proven to be a genuine person in my eyes. I am glad you and Joan are here. Right, ID?

 

[kj6723]

That's what my therapist(s) keep telling me as well. But are they balding young? No? Then they don't know what they're talking about. In today's society looks (and hair) is incredibly important, and when your looks take a hit of course you're going to be unhappy. I think these therapists just tell you that because they don't know what else to say to you to make it better.

I'm considering seeing a therapist myself, specifically for my obsession with my hair loss, since I have no one to talk about it with in real life.

I'm concerned that they won't relate, or that I'll walk in and it'll be some dude balder than me, and it'll be awkward.

Still might give it a shot.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I'm considering seeing a therapist myself, specifically for my obsession with my hair loss, since I have no one to talk about it with in real life.

I'm concerned that they won't relate, or that I'll walk in and it'll be some dude balder than me, and it'll be awkward.

Still might give it a shot.

I did, and he asked me how much you think about it. Obviously it was not enough time, as he thought I did not need to be there for that. So make sure you say all the time.

 

[kj6723]

I did, and he asked me how much you think about it. Obviously it was not enough time, as he thought I did not need to be there for that. So make sure you say all the time.

Or imagine this scenerio: the therapist is an NW2 who doesn't realize he's balding....your visit might literally put the fear of God into this man and forever change his life

 

[DoctorHouse]

Or imagine this scenerio: the therapist is an NW2 who doesn't realize he's balding....your visit might literally put the fear of God into this man and forever change his life

In my case, I had a lot more hair than he did so it was hard to tell him.

 

[I.D WALKER]

I think even if they say they don't like you, deep down inside they do. Its just how love-hate works. You are not an imposter. You have definitely proven to be a genuine person in my eyes. I am glad you and Joan are here. Right, ID?

Beloved Doctor,
as I've iterated before, your astute powers of perception/intuition , self awareness, and moreover your genuine interest in the goodness of humanity may be unparalleled here at gourmetstylewellness.com.
In the future, you have my consent to speak more liberally on my behalf, whenever you deem it appropriate.

 

[FootyStar]

Welcome Footy, you definitely belong here. This place is like the Breakfast Club. We all suffer from insecurities due to all kinds of image problems. Hair loss is of course the number one reason most are here for. But this is a great place for group therapy too. So grab a seat and join in. Vent whatever you need to vent. You might find someone who will join the forum after they read your "story" and share a similar scenario so you can relate. For some, it can become "addicting" here. For now, we are your friends.

Thanks very much for the warm welcome! I've lurked here for a while and found this place to be much more understanding of the mental effects of hair loss than other forums.

Welcome. It seems you've got the most extreme version of what we all suffer from. We should all be groveling at your feet

It looks like this girl has the same condition as you. I noticed this post a while ago and that no one had responded:
https://www.gourmetstylewellness.com/intera...-here-is-my-story-a-little-bit-anyway.100179/

Maybe the two of you could connect? Doesn't look like she's logged on in a while though.

Thanks for the welcome! And no need to grovel - just a hairless guy trying to cope with his dilemma just like all of you

That girl's story looks interesting and I can relate to a lot of what she says. She may have moved on to alopeciaworld.com or heralopecia, which is more suited for women with hair loss. I may have even spoken to her while I was on those forums without knowing it!

Couldn't you wear a wig and get some realistic stick on eyebrows? They must exist for women.

Thanks for the advice! I've been looking at full caps and deciding whether to get one or not. I guess it depends on whether I can keep up the maintenance or not (and not get busted for wearing one).

I have been looking at fake eyebrows too and might give them a go too.

 

[Swoop]

Have you ever thought of taking immunomodulatory compounds to treat it?