I Have it Worse Than All of You

[LooseItAll]

Don't text her anything. Just do not contact with her.

 

[Beingbaldsucksass]

Man the hairpiece and scars will be like dropping a bomb on her

No way you can continue the same after that

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

This might be naive of me, but could you explain the scars away by saying you had operations when younger and just leave it being vague? I think you're doing the right thing by writing this woman off as a loss. I'm surprised the forum police haven't told you that you're too old to be posting in this forum, as I was told by one such member that this forum is for the under 35s! Anyway best of luck mate

 

[slipy]

I'm surprised the forum police haven't told you that you're too old to be posting in this forum, as I was told by one such member that this forum is for the under 35s! Anyway best of luck mate

it's not so much about the current age of the poster, what matters is whether he started balding young or not. the op been loosing hair since his 20's. you on the other hand can't take pride in being a young balding guy, in fact it doesn't look like you're balding at all even now. i took a look in the thread you made with the pics, your hair line looks the same as it did in the picture of 17 yo you.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

That would be because treatment has worked for me. I've never said I was severely balding or anything of the sort. The picture of me at 17 doesn't show my hairline in any great detail anyway. But thank you for your kind words.

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PS have posted some pictures for you to look at on my Tell Your Story Thread, so I don't spam this chaps thread any more.

 

[slipy]

actually

it was kind of intended with an bitter/angry/resentful undertone rather than with a kind one. :/

i guess i didn't make it obvious enough.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

actually

it was kind of intended with an bitter/angry/resentful undertone rather than with a kind one. :/

i guess i didn't make it obvious enough.

It was perfectly obvious thanks. I chose not to rise to the bait. Quite why you would be bitter or angry towards me is odd. Anyway let's leave this blokes thread. You can discuss this with me elsewhere if you like

 

[Scarred4Life]

Don't text her anything. Just do not contact with her.

Yeah, I am leaning toward that. If she isn't interested, it will be a relief for her just not to hear from me.

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Man the hairpiece and scars will be like dropping a bomb on her

No way you can continue the same after that

I don't have a hairpiece so I think you have me confused with someone else.

 

[Scarred4Life]

Don't text her anything. Just do not contact with her.

Well I didn't text or call. I just vanished.

The day of our date came and went and I didn't hear anything from her. I thought if she really wanted to go she would have texted asking what happened or telling me I was a jerk for blowing her off, but she didn't.

So tonight, 9 days after the day we were supposed to go out, my phone rings and I look to see who is calling. It is her. I was shocked.

I don't know if she was calling to see what's up or to chew my *** so I let it go to voicemail. I haven't listened to it yet. Kind of thought she might follow up with a text but she hasn't.

Like I mentioned before, she is very attractive and could probably get any guy she wants so don't know why she would be calling after me disappearing.

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Don't text her anything. Just do not contact with her.

Well I didn't text or call. I just vanished.

The day of our date came and went and I didn't hear anything from her. I thought if she really wanted to go she would have texted asking what happened or telling me I was a jerk for blowing her off, but she didn't.

So tonight, 9 days after the day we were supposed to go out, my phone rings and I look to see who is calling. It is her. I was shocked.

I don't know if she was calling to see what's up or to chew my *** so I let it go to voicemail. I haven't listened to it yet. Kind of thought she might follow up with a text but she hasn't.

Like I mentioned before, she is very attractive and could probably get any guy she wants so don't know why she would be calling after me disappearing.

 

[Michael84]

It would be interesting to read the end of this story. I bet on a sad ending.
And for some reason I felt an urge to listen to Beatles - Yesterday while reading...

 

[HairGuru22]

S4l, you are an idiot, just go out with her man and forget about your imperfections, she clearly has an interest. Why are you cockblocking yourself?

 

[Scarred4Life]

It would be interesting to read the end of this story. I bet on a sad ending.

Maybe for her. Since yesterday she has called 3 times, left two voice mails, and sent three text messages.

The problem I have is knowing whether she is really interested , or is her ego just wounded and she is trying to prove to herself she can get me.

So far I have ignored everything. Not sure what to do or if I want to pursue it.

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S4l, you are an idiot, just go out with her man and forget about your imperfections, she clearly has an interest. Why are you cockblocking yourself?

You're right, I am an idiot. Why would she want to go out with an idiot? I will delete texts and messages and block her. Thnaks for the help. I appreciate it.

 

[DannyBoyy]

Maybe for her. Since yesterday she has called 3 times, left two voice mails, and sent three text messages.

The problem I have is knowing whether she is really interested , or is her ego just wounded and she is trying to prove to herself she can get me.

So far I have ignored everything. Not sure what to do or if I want to pursue it.

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You're right, I am an idiot. Why would she want to go out with an idiot? I will delete texts and messages and block her. Thnaks for the help. I appreciate it.

No you are an idiot for thinking what you are thinking you got a woman who obviously likes YOU and wants to get to know you more and you are just pushing her away...stop it and go for it before it becomes a "what if" moment.

 

[Michael84]

It is rediculous. You went on a hunt, found a victim that probably is very interested in you, and now you give up? You should have stayed at home from the very beginning then.
You don't know what was happening in her life before that. Maybe she had a reason for not calling you. Maybe someone of her family died and she was busy to go with you or call you and think of you. And you start to think "her ego just wounded and she is trying to prove to herself she can get me." :thumbdown2: You can loose a big chance in your life.

 

[997]

Dude, buy a bottle of vodka, drink half for courage then check your voicemail and messages. You can finish the bottle afterwards.

Three missed calls and 2 voicemail messages, that's way better than my situation. I managed to pull 8/10 woman at the club I work in, french kissing in my car (a serious breach of fraternisation policy, she's a customer) and no texts or anything since Wednesday...

 

[Scarred4Life]

No you are an idiot for thinking what you are thinking you got a woman who obviously likes YOU and wants to get to know you more and you are just pushing her away...stop it and go for it before it becomes a "what if" moment.

But remember, there is still a big secret she doesn't know about which would surely be a deal breaker. I'd rather wonder "what if" than know for sure I was rejected for looking like a freak without hair concealers.

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I And you start to think "her ego just wounded and she is trying to prove to herself she can get me." :thumbdown2:

Yep girls are like that and so are guys. They want what they can't have. She has probably never been blown off like that before. She wasn't interested enough to call me or text me after our first date. She didn't seem that interested to go on our second date. However, as soon as I blow her off, she is calling and texting me.

It's not about me, it's about her ego. She has probably been with some really hot guys, and to have an ugly guy reject her would be a big blow to her ego.

Let's face it, even if you are an average guy and get rejected by a 9 or 10, you can uunderstand that. But if you get rejected by a fat 2 or 3, then your ego really takes a hit.

 

[gravesen]

Why would you stop using your hair concealer ? It just takes 1 minute a day.

 

[meetjoeblack]

I started losing my hair at 20 (am 50 now). I had bad transplants done and scalp reductions done in my twenties.

The donor area has a large 1/2" wide scar (was 1 inch but had the extra skin painfully removed), but the real problem is the top of my head with the scars from the scalp reductions. Picture a 'T' with the top of the 'T' at the crown of my head and this top of the 'T' being about 4 inches long and 3/4 inch wide. Plus the hair on the top of my head continued to thin so it is not like I have hair except for the 'T' scars. It is all very thin along with the reduction scars, which makes the transplants in the front very obvious. I don't have enough donor hair to cover the scars or fill in the transplants.

I had the transplants and reductions done while married and my wife accepted it, but the marriage ended and we are now divorced.

I use Toppik and Couvre which gives me what appears to be a pretty full head of hair, and minoxidil to keep the little hair I have left for the Toppiks to cling to. When I started using Toppiks,at first I felt my self confidence come back, but after a couple months I just feel like a fake and phony. However, it gets me through my work day without feeling like a freak. (Prior to this I always had jobs where I could wear a cap).

I recently met a very attractive woman and went out on a date. She really seems into me and wants to go out again but I feel I am hiding this terrible secret. On one hand she deserves to know what I look like without my "fake" hair so she can decide if it is a deal breaker. On the other hand, I can't bear the thought of being rejected because I look like a freak.

Of course just bringing up my scars and hair loss, and the fact that I am hiding them with Toppiks, is going to scream "Insecure" and "no self confidence" big time, which is probably just going to make her lose any attraction she has for me.

Another problem is I have to use minoxidil daily to keep what hair I have, so every night I have to remove the Toppiks to put on the minoxidil at which time she would always see me at my worst.

Also, when I do go without putting on minoxidil, I wake up the next morning and the Toppiks and Courve has come off the reduction scars. The contrast between the rest of my hair with Toppiks and the white scars is even worse than having no Toppiks or Courve on at all, so I couldn't even sleep over and skip the minoxidil once in a while without her finding out about my secret.

So unlike anyone else who can "just shave it all off", I can't. For all the women who think "bald is sexy" or who don't mind thinning hair, I haven't seen any that say thinning hair with scars is sexy.

I told the woman I would call her back but don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel she might accept me with my scars but then I look in the mirror and think why the hell should she? She is so attractive that she could certainly get any other guy 99.9999999999% of which don't have scars on their thinning head.

The thought of being alone for the rest of my life sucks but I seriously wonder if it is better to wonder if someone would have accepted me than to take a chance and know for sure they wouldn't.

Thoughts?

I am less then half your age. Try a series of life issues. Where to start? Acne before puberty, up to my early 20s despite holistic nutrition, diet, exercise, organics, proactive, topical gels. Still my skin breaks out and happy bday cystic pimple and pock mark for life. I am depressed. I get put on accutane. Thinking life cannot get worse I lose my dad and sis in a accident due to drink driver before accutane hair loss.

I contemplated grey goose vodka and sleeping pills. What stopped me is I am the man of the house. Some has to answer the bell. You need to shave away the excuses.

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I started losing my hair at 20 (am 50 now). I had bad transplants done and scalp reductions done in my twenties.

The donor area has a large 1/2" wide scar (was 1 inch but had the extra skin painfully removed), but the real problem is the top of my head with the scars from the scalp reductions. Picture a 'T' with the top of the 'T' at the crown of my head and this top of the 'T' being about 4 inches long and 3/4 inch wide. Plus the hair on the top of my head continued to thin so it is not like I have hair except for the 'T' scars. It is all very thin along with the reduction scars, which makes the transplants in the front very obvious. I don't have enough donor hair to cover the scars or fill in the transplants.

I had the transplants and reductions done while married and my wife accepted it, but the marriage ended and we are now divorced.

I use Toppik and Couvre which gives me what appears to be a pretty full head of hair, and minoxidil to keep the little hair I have left for the Toppiks to cling to. When I started using Toppiks,at first I felt my self confidence come back, but after a couple months I just feel like a fake and phony. However, it gets me through my work day without feeling like a freak. (Prior to this I always had jobs where I could wear a cap).

I recently met a very attractive woman and went out on a date. She really seems into me and wants to go out again but I feel I am hiding this terrible secret. On one hand she deserves to know what I look like without my "fake" hair so she can decide if it is a deal breaker. On the other hand, I can't bear the thought of being rejected because I look like a freak.

Of course just bringing up my scars and hair loss, and the fact that I am hiding them with Toppiks, is going to scream "Insecure" and "no self confidence" big time, which is probably just going to make her lose any attraction she has for me.

Another problem is I have to use minoxidil daily to keep what hair I have, so every night I have to remove the Toppiks to put on the minoxidil at which time she would always see me at my worst.

Also, when I do go without putting on minoxidil, I wake up the next morning and the Toppiks and Courve has come off the reduction scars. The contrast between the rest of my hair with Toppiks and the white scars is even worse than having no Toppiks or Courve on at all, so I couldn't even sleep over and skip the minoxidil once in a while without her finding out about my secret.

So unlike anyone else who can "just shave it all off", I can't. For all the women who think "bald is sexy" or who don't mind thinning hair, I haven't seen any that say thinning hair with scars is sexy.

I told the woman I would call her back but don't know what to do. Sometimes I feel she might accept me with my scars but then I look in the mirror and think why the hell should she? She is so attractive that she could certainly get any other guy 99.9999999999% of which don't have scars on their thinning head.

The thought of being alone for the rest of my life sucks but I seriously wonder if it is better to wonder if someone would have accepted me than to take a chance and know for sure they wouldn't.

Thoughts?

I am less then half your age. Try a series of life issues. Where to start? Acne before puberty, up to my early 20s despite holistic nutrition, diet, exercise, organics, proactive, topical gels. Still my skin breaks out and happy bday cystic pimple and pock mark for life. I am depressed. I get put on accutane. Thinking life cannot get worse I lose my dad and sis in a accident due to drink driver before accutane hair loss.

I contemplated grey goose vodka and sleeping pills. What stopped me is I am the man of the house. Some has to answer the bell. You need to shave away the excuses. You can't be half a gangster. Give your life purpose. Find hobbies. Practice cold approach. I post on a forum nights out. I share success stories too. Its not easy but, if there is a way you must persevere.

To answer your question, I am numb to pain at this point so, I want to know. If she is not interested someone else will be. By the way, during a recent experience during cold approaach, a girl told me she likes scars. It is rugged, manly, and it turns her on. Think about that.

 

[Scarred4Life]

So I sent a reply to her texts. A day later no reply from her. So I sent another text. A day later I got a short couple word reply. So I sent a text asking her a question. Two days later and no reply.

All the sudden phone calls, voicemails, and texts like some big emergency and as soon as I reply she goes cold. No explanation of what she wanted or why she is calling.

I told you it was all about ego. If I wouldn't have replied, she would probably still be trying to reach me. As soon as I reply, she disses me.

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Why would you stop using your hair concealer ? It just takes 1 minute a day.

I wouldn't stop using it.

The point is if she knows I use concealer, it would be a deal breaker. Plus I have to use minoxidil to try to keep the fine hairs that the concealer clings too which means washing out the conceler every day. She would see me without it and that would be the end of things.

 

[997]

So I sent a reply to her texts. A day later no reply from her. So I sent another text. A day later I got a short couple word reply. So I sent a text asking her a question. Two days later and no reply.

All the sudden phone calls, voicemails, and texts like some big emergency and as soon as I reply she goes cold. No explanation of what she wanted or why she is calling. (...) As soon as I reply, she disses me.

Just some sick game on her side. Pull the plug.