I have been reading about this since it happened and I finally found an article that deals with it in a way I consider thoughtful.
Most of the articles just go on and on about "misogyny" and offer nothing in terms of solutions for the direction society is going or how rampant this problem is becoming. The fact that "Chads and Staceys" and redpill ideology has pervaded every website (including this one) shows how far reaching it has become in our society. And generally, when something spreads this easily and massively it's probably because there's actually some truth to it.
Here are some basic facts that can't be overlooked:
- Men who are heavily rejected by women tend to get almost universally rejected (whether for looks or autism).
- Men who do well with women have enormous amounts of choice and sexual options (eg. Tinder).
- Online dating has amplified this polarization.
- Sex and relationships are important parts of maintaining a healthy mind. eg. Loneliness leads to premature death, incels go on murder sprees.
- You cannot mandate women date men they find unattractive.
- Some men will thus likely always be at the bottom of the heap and left largely "undatable".
If you acknowledge those basic points as true, then there are only a few measures which seem to make sense for dealing with this problem. You can try to mandate all incels get counselling to "cope" with their loneliness, but this is circuitous at best and likely wasteful. It won't fix the problem. eg. I could have gone to a thousand therapists about my giant forehead but the only thing that was going to change how I felt was getting it surgically corrected.
So this leaves:
- Make prostitution legal.
- Destigmatize prostitution by treating it as an act of compassion and not male dominance/abuse.
The article reviews it in more detail and very well. I am happy to see at least ONE voice that is attempting to deal with this in a mature way that doesn't try to brush it under the carpet but rather deal with it at its root.
https://www.thestranger.com/slog/20...l-deprivation-sex-workers-incels-and-violence
Adults who do sex work of their own free will shouldn’t be stigmatized (or treated like criminals) and adults who hire adults doing sex work of their own free will shouldn’t be stigmatized (or treated like criminals). The former cultural transformation will solve the “incel” problem; the latter will solve the problem of sexual deprivation, i.e. involuntary celibacy.
We are capable of recognizing the legitimacy of sex work—even the moral good of sex work—in certain cases. We see compassion, tenderness, and necessity in some commercial sex transactions. We recognize, for instance, the importance of touch and sexual release for the profoundly physically disabled. So when a mother hires a sex worker to meet the sexual needs of her profoundly disabled son, newspapers publish stories with headlines like “The sex workers giving disabled people a chance to live out their dreams”.
There are people who are so profoundly physically disabled that their chances of finding sex and/or romance the way the most people do—dating apps, social circles, chance meetings in bars and clubs or other venues—are slim to impossible. We see our way clear to allowing them to seek physical comfort and sexual release in the arms/between the legs of sex workers. Hollywood makes films that portray disabled people buying sex in a sympathetic light.
Well, there are men out there who are so profoundly socially disabled—so socially awkward or maladapted or damaged—that they just as incapable of finding finding sex and/or romance through “normal” channels as a quadriplegic confined to a bed in his mother’s home.
These are the guys who find their way to hateful, misogynistic online incel forums.
Stigmatizing men who pay for sex as losers and running emasculating PSA campaigns ("Real Men Don't Buy Girls ," “Cool Men Don’t Buy Sex”) makes it harder for men who may be profoundly socially disabled to access the sex they can actually have—paid sex—without feeling worse about themselves than they already did.
I really have no idea what outlawing prostitution is meant to accomplish. But I do know what legalizing it would be intended to accomplish. It's either that or sex robots, and the tech for that is nowhere near ready.
