life is over :[

Gboy2k8

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I'm 21
never had a g/f
never been with any1 actually
always was a shy guy
just when things started to improve male pattern baldness started , and fast
I look really bad :(

I go out to places and can't think of anything else but my hair distroying my life
and looking at other people's hair

my brother's 35,
he has a full dark hair,
I don't understand why it happend to me :(
I used to have a full hair just a year ago, with tempales I used to lived with,
and in a few months things got real worse :(

somebody shoot me . :shakehead:
fuckin' life it just doesnt worth it.
 

Gboy2k8

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dudemon said:
I've been there. I've been bald(ing) for 20 years. You're not alone. Every guy with male pattern baldness has the same feelings you do at first. Are you sure you're really thinning? It's normal to lose a little in your temple areas when your body makes a transition from your teenage stage into adulthood. Sounds like that may be all it is. If so, you may not lose any more and you don't have to worry. If your biological brother is 35 and has a full head of hair, then you should as well - although not always.

But, if you are going bald there are things you can do to handle it. There is no cure for male pattern baldness, but finasteride and minoxidil can slow it down - even stop the loss and bring a little back if it hasn't been that long since you lost it.

Who knows, by the time your hair actually gets noticeably thin, hair multiplication may be available. But, don't get your hopes up on that - as many of us have been waiting for it for a decade now.

Anyways, cutting your hair very short - like #1 or #2 will do a good job of masking any baldness you might have. It sounds contradictory, but shorter truly is the way to go as a bald guy. I've had 3 hair transplant's and I still do a #2/2.5 all the way around.
It was just with the temples, and I didn't care much. I actually liked it and found it unique,
learned to live with it even though I got some comments about my "big forehead".

My brother has actually a bigger forhead but his hair is full and thick.
I always looked at him and thought it's just me growing up, and I'll end up like him so I didn't care much.
His hair doesnt look bad at all.

The main problem started 6 months ago when the entire front of my hair started thinning,
also the sides.
I got lots of comments of me going bald, I just thought it was the regular people commenting about my temples but in a closer look I saw that I'm actually loosing hair @ the frontal-top.

I couldn't live with it, I always rised-up my hair and it made me feel half confident about the way I look.
I had to buzz-cut it immidietly,
and started getting DAILY comments about my hair


women were never attracted to me, I never found myself in an intimate position with a woman in my entire life
I had gyno for many years, since I was 13 or so as a chubby kid and couldn't get rid of it,
I was always dreaming of the day I could complete a surgery to complete it , so I'll feel confident enough to try my luck with women.
Just as I had the time and money to do that male pattern baldness started,
Now I have no reason to do the surgery at all.

It just won't change a thing.
a waste of time

I just wanna die :\
 

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I remember how hard it was for me around your age to loose my virginity. It seemed like everyone was getting it but me and it drove me crazy, wondering what was wrong with me. But really, twenty one is not uncommon to still be a virgin. I know you must feel like there is something wrong with you, but at least you have time on your side. You still have hair that can be saved along with the chance to stabilize your situation to ensure your chances of getting what you want in the near future.
 

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uncomfortable man said:
I remember how hard it was for me around your age to loose my virginity. It seemed like everyone was getting it but me and it drove me crazy, wondering what was wrong with me. But really, twenty one is not uncommon to still be a virgin. I know you must feel like there is something wrong with you, but at least you have time on your side. You still have hair that can be saved along with the chance to stabilize your situation to ensure your chances of getting what you want in the near future.

only time will tell :(
 

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btw
started minoxidil foam 1.5 months ago
propecia 3 weeks ago + msm to speed things up


I swear to god
if Ill just be able not to be ashamed of my hair anymore and treatments will work,
im a new person :(
I know the chances are so low but that's all ive got left
 

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Cant really see the point in MSM, it has not effect of combating M.P.B.
 

mj9

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why dont you post a pic?

I just get a feeling you are over reacting!
 

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Gboy2k8 said:
I'm 21
never had a g/f
never been with any1 actually
always was a shy guy
just when things started to improve male pattern baldness started , and fast
I look really bad :(

I go out to places and can't think of anything else but my hair distroying my life
and looking at other people's hair

my brother's 35,
he has a full dark hair,
I don't understand why it happend to me :(
I used to have a full hair just a year ago, with tempales I used to lived with,
and in a few months things got real worse :(

somebody shoot me . :shakehead:
fuckin' life it just doesnt worth it.

I felt your way at 21. Now I'm 28. Still never been with anyone, except a few minor encounters. Get a hair piece, but design it right. Don't just get a stock topper. Get a custom one with temple flaps if you need them. Don't fail any classes designing it either. Take time off school, deliver pizza, pay your bills, and design it in your spare time. When you see how good you can look again, your depression will end. When you make more than minimum wage and can buy a used car, your depression will end. Watch movies too, they are fun. Don't worry about women too much right now.

I'm telling you: once you know you can look good when you want, you won't need to even wear the piece to feel good about life. Sure you'll wish you could look good without the glue hassle, but you will be able to focus on working out and making money or doing school, and won't be as depressed or concerned about dating. You are young. Just try not to age too much until you can afford lots of pieces. Exercise, sleep 8 hours, eat right, stay out of the sun, you'll get there, and the women will come.

If shyness is your only problem, you might be able to get women now. Post a pic. Tell us more about yourself so we can tell you how to use your strengths or where you need to improve.
 

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dudemon said:
There is no cure for male pattern baldness, but finasteride and minoxidil can slow it down - even stop the loss and bring a little back if it hasn't been that long since you lost it.

Minoxidil does not slow down male pattern baldness. Only finasteride (propecia, proscar) does. Minoxidil is good for regrowth while you are using it, but unless you are on finasteride too, you will continue to get thinner after the minoxidil peaks.
 

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ask your doctor about putting andractim (dht gel) on your gyno. It could get rid of it cheaply and save you the surgery. DHT is quickly broken down in the blood, and should not affect your male pattern baldness. The DHT that hurts your hair is primarily made in the follicle.

Also use Nizoral 1% shampoo twice a week. I agree about dropping the MSM. Only vegitarians deficient in sulfur would benefit from it. Your hair is not failing from lack of sulfur, but from genetics.
 

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ok
I dont have a camera right now

but since some dont believe me - this is my balding progress:

Age 18
looking at photo albums, I had noticeable temples since about age 17.5,
I didn't care much and so learned to live with them.
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temples at age 18:
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this is a pic I found of me @ age 19.2~
hairline receeded, hair is strong :
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1 year ago
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Just 5 months ago,
on a trip with my friends (sorry for the quality, these are the best I have).
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noticeable receeding in temples, so as in total front.

Now take a look at the following pic, taken from the same trip:
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My sides seem thin because of the haircut, but it's not !!!
I shaved my had and buzz-cut it several times even to level 0 and they are still fuckin thin !
Same - shaped.

OK
pics from almost a month ago =\
life is over :|
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You can see my oily scalp and its relection in the front clearly, so for the receeding temples.
Also total thinning in front in the first pic.
I just can't believe how in 4.5 months I look again at my brother after for years I was praying to god not to turn out like him and finally my situation got even worse.

my thinning pattern - marked in red :
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Dude. based on these pics, I think you'll look awesome if you shaved your head. You've got a really nice shape for your head; so I think you've got the most important thing down: how you will look if you lose this battle. And I have to say it looks great; I'd keep it like that, were I you.

That being said, the rest is up to you about how you're going to go about dealing with it.
 

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Dude your hair loss isn't supposed to thin on the sides like the way you have it in the picture

you seem pretty decent with a buzz cut, i don't think you should worry too much
 

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To the original Poster...

Hey Buddy

I lost my virginity on my 21st birthday. The girl had obviously done it several times before and wanted to make it good for me, so she focused entirely on me! So, good things come to those who wait.

I know how you feel otherwise...all I have to say is, confidence is everything with girls and with life. If you don't have confidence because of your body, then work on it. Get into the gym, start running. If the Gyno is truly bad, get the surgery. Don't tell yourself it isn't worth it now because you are balding. If it was worth it before, then it is worth it now my friend. That will help out your confidence and help you out in life. Just continue to improve, that is all you can do. Wallowing in self pity will get you nowhere. I used to be fat, hairy, sweaty, akward, shy. Never got any attention from girls. Then I started balding and I thought it was over. But what happened is I focused on improving myself as much as I could. Starting working out, reading, working hard in school, got a good job, some good friends, some nice clothes, and confidence came. Yes I am still balding an it sucks, but I live a normal and fun life otherwise. I still do have many insecurities still, but everybody does, even the beautiful people.

You are young, start as soon as you can to become someone you like. Start right now!

You can do it!
 

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Dude your hairloss isn't even that bad. Also you have the head shape to pull off a shaved head well if you have to go that route.

Posts like these make me realize that most people would kill themselves if they were in my situation.
 

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Needless to tell my story :( . I get sad when i read users younger than me lost their virginity.

Start the meds right now instead of crying. Get on Propecia, nizoral and minoxidil. It works. You're young so the chances for you to recover are very good.
 

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i will also chime in and say you have an excellent head shape for a buzz cut, and a strong jaw.

my face is long and very narrow, when i get to the shave point, god help me.

if you buzz it low, get a nice tan - who will even notice or care.

i also agree you should keep with finasteride and minoxidil daily, might as well.
 

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man from the photos you look like a good looking guy so chill out, get on the big 3 and go out and meet some women!

peace
 

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I agree with the previous post. Although the photos are censored, you look like a decent looking guy.

I don't think your hair has anything to do with you not having a girlfriend. It might be a factor in your mind and eventually it probably affects your overall confidence, but someone meeting you for the first time wouldn't think of you as bald or balding.
 

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dudemon said:
I chose to go to a prostitute when I was 15. But, then a few years later, when I did it with my G/F at the time - it wasn't as good as the hooker! Hookers are better anyways - since that's all I have nowdays.

This is a bit off topic???

TBH, when I was a teenager I couldn't get rid off it fast enough. I was prepared to give it to the first girl that would get in bed with me. I sympathise with people that are looking for someone special, but I've never met anyone that made me feel like I want to marry her. If I waited for the special person, I still would be a virgin.
 
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