New Baldy On Board Looking For A Hand To Hold

[Hairy bear]

Hey folks, just wanted to say hello and give a brief intro.
I've been balding since about 20, currently mid 40's I'm a new 6 maybe 5 ?

I've always really hated it, people don't understand how it affects your life and confidence.
I started shaving a few years back which is 'better' but not ideal, you still have contrast and aren't fooling anyone, more of a 'in bald accept it'. A few months ago I was considering a hair tattoo ( quoted 6 grand!)
Then a friend who I and everyone thought was a transplant, let me in on the secret of the systems! Initially I was 'stuff that! A wig...no way!' But his looks great! He let me get super close and touch it ( at that point I still thought it was a transplant!)

He's sent me a video of a guy getting a system fitted, and after him telling me how he feels, I'm SOLD!
I'm almost sure he maybe getting 'ripped off' ( no pun) though at $2000aud. For one system plus 75 cut in. The same guy wanted $6000 off me, which I almost went for, but the numbers didn't add up! Guy in video was getting a brand new one in England every couple of months for a few hundred pounds! And on all the web they are about the same!
I did my research and found a couple of local ladies that have sold me a 'good' system, lace for around $800 aud including my first fit! I jumped at it! And paid the 50% there and then, so I'm onboard and nervously waiting.
Full of questions and some worries, will the hair match? Will it look 'real' but mostly how will I do my reveal?! I've confided in a couple of people but only disclosed the actual method to my sister and another.( rest think like I did 'some transplant')
When I see the back of my head I REALLY WANT THAT SYSTEM but it is a worry. I'll share a story which had a massive impact on me a few years back; I dressed as a vampire at a fancy dress party. It was a really classy party so I hired a really classy outfit! I got treated like a PRINCE that night, dancing and getting on great with multiple chicks, but it went bad when they found out I was a 'baldy' one girl whom I'd been all over on the dance floor, hands everywhere ! I saw speaking to her friends...marched over...lifted the lid...and walked off! . Another was all over me! Practically begging me to be her B.F asking mutual friends about me etc.......as soon as she seen me 'wig less' she was off!
So that night was mixed emotions feeling like a star, and instantly back to normal 'shitty'. And people still say ' being bald doesn't matter....' Yeah right!!

Well done to anyone that stayed to the end! I'm in a show at Christmas, under spotlights. I'm using that as a good excuse for the system, and if it's good convincing it's back to the drawing board and maybe the tattoo

Thanks for any support or advice . I've already asked for a light density from lurking this forum.

Hairy

 

[Noah]

Welcome Bear

Wow, I think A$6000 (US$4500) may be a new record in barefaced extortion. Where on earth is your friend buying his units? I've got this chum who's a Nigerian prince who he ought to meet; he's got some interesting investment opportunities to discuss.

I enjoyed your story about the party. I think when it gets to point where you have to dress up like Count Dracula to get a cuddle from the ladies, it's time to take the plunge. A$800 is not too bad as salons in Australia go. It is not a country with a lot of choice in the hair replacement space, from what I understand.

I'm sure if you have read a few hairloss forums you will already have seen all the ideas about transitioning. Basically there are 4 themes - (1) cover up your head for a few weeks so that people forget you're bald (wear a baseball cap, bandana, convert to Hasidic Judaism etc); (2) create a distraction so that people attribute the change of appearance to something else (grow a moustache, beard, soul patch, get pink contact lenses or John Lennon glasses or a nose piercing etc.); (3) have a break (go on holiday, join the French Foreign Legion etc); and (4) minimise the change - bulk up your existing hair with lots of concealer, or get temporary extensions put in. You will be surprised at how unobservant many people are about your appearance - if you want to test this grow a moustache and shave it off, and see how many of your friends notice it. Still, realistically if you have been NW6 for several years it is going to be quite hard to make an imperceptible transition to a full head of hair without a significant break or move.

All the best with this anyway. Keep in touch and let us know how it goes.

Noah

 

[Hairy bear]

Welcome Bear

Wow, I think A$6000 (US$4500) may be a new record in barefaced extortion. Where on earth is your friend buying his units? I've got this chum who's a Nigerian prince who he ought to meet; he's got some interesting investment opportunities to discuss.

I enjoyed your story about the party. I think when it gets to point where you have to dress up like Count Dracula to get a cuddle from the ladies, it's time to take the plunge. A$800 is not too bad as salons in Australia go. It is not a country with a lot of choice in the hair replacement space, from what I understand.

I'm sure if you have read a few hairloss forums you will already have seen all the ideas about transitioning. Basically there are 4 themes - (1) cover up your head for a few weeks so that people forget you're bald (wear a baseball cap, bandana, convert to Hasidic Judaism etc); (2) create a distraction so that people attribute the change of appearance to something else (grow a moustache, beard, soul patch, get pink contact lenses or John Lennon glasses or a nose piercing etc.); (3) have a break (go on holiday, join the French Foreign Legion etc); and (4) minimise the change - bulk up your existing hair with lots of concealer, or get temporary extensions put in. You will be surprised at how unobservant many people are about your appearance - if you want to test this grow a moustache and shave it off, and see how many of your friends notice it. Still, realistically if you have been NW6 for several years it is going to be quite hard to make an imperceptible transition to a full head of hair without a significant break or move.

All the best with this anyway. Keep in touch and let us know how it goes.

Noah

Ha thanks Noah !
I'm currently sporting a nice green cap I bought from a surf shop I had a woolen hat prior to that which my 7 yr old kept ripping off my head 'you look like a robber daddy!'

Yup I'm also growing out my own hair ( as the ladies told me to for blending? ( if that's the term).
I've seen some excellent photos of systems online, but I hope I'm not the 1 percent that looks like I'm wearing a mop head I've actually got a bit more coming in on the front than I thought, recon it's worth while for dramatic effect sprinkling on some toppik as I'm about 3 weeks out from my first system I think.
But truthfully if wearing a system let's me feel normal again in most situations, people who know/suspect and piss take can go F themselves and I'm the type of personality to tell them that minus the sugar coating

A bit of ribbing no dramas, as a baldy I'm well used to being the butt of many a joke, but if 'friends' won't move on/support my move ( assuming it looks good/convincing) I guess they are toxic friends

Thanks Noah

 

[grincher]

Not sure what the AUD exchange rate is but you can get nice hair systems (that are durable) for $350-$450.

A little research and education goes a long way.

 

[Noah]

Good attitude Bear. Don't worry about mop syndrome - it's the result of bad choices rather than genetic predisposition. You'll be fine.

 

[Pants McGhee]

Hi Bear, I'm based in NSW, just north of Sydney, if the ladies you spoke to are in my area, would you mind sharing their details? either by post or PM. I'm about to buy my first system myself.

thanks.

 

[Hairy bear]

I wouldn't waste your time on either of those pants, superficial b****s!!'

The new you will be a 'player' for a while, not a 'settler'

Get started on the fish oil for those hips btw

 

[Jimbo5]

Do you know what you're getting into here, bear???

You say you weren't "fooling anyone" when you shaved. Do you really think you'll be able to fool people for very long with a wig glued to your head?

Sooner or later any serious girlfriend (assuming you're single) is bound to discover the brutal truth. Same with others who you spend a lot of time around.

And once people know you wear, you're still gunna be that "butt of many a joke" whether you realize it or not. And the party girls will still be running for the hills.

At the end of the day, you're probably gunna be better off buzzing or shaving (or perhaps getting a transplant if possible) and not trying to deceive people into thinking you have hair.

And you'll have a lot more loot in your wallet, to boot...

 

[Hairy bear]

Do you know what you're getting into here, bear???

You say you weren't "fooling anyone" when you shaved. Do you really think you'll be able to fool people for very long with a wig glued to your head?

Sooner or later any serious girlfriend (assuming you're single) is bound to discover the brutal truth. Same with others who you spend a lot of time around.

And once people know you wear, you're still gunna be that "butt of many a joke" whether you realize it or not. And the party girls will still be running for the hills.

At the end of the day, you're probably gunna be better off buzzing or shaving (or perhaps getting a transplant if possible) and not trying to deceive people into thinking you have hair.

And you'll have a lot more loot in your wallet, to boot...

Hi jimbo,
I absolutely DONT KNOW what I'm letting myself into . As for buzzed/shaved that's me! I've done that for years.
The thing about your opinion is I feel, based largely around granddad wig, which looked sh*t and could be spotted from across the street without trying! These modern ones are incredible, to the point of even if someone's basically telling you this is Fake! Your eyes and mind fill in the blanks! " donor hair... Non surgical bonding....hmmm this is some sort of new technology/transplant". And that sir, is based on actual recent experience, first hand!
I guy I know who's very skilled at a particular craft, always in the limelight, surrounded by glamours, best friends with all these hotties ! And if he is accepted! Who cares about me?
If my system looks sh*t, is unconvincing, and makes me unhappy or edgy all the time I guess it will be back to shaving in the shower again . But I have one show/performance ( think 'pantomime' I need it for good or bad, won't matter too much, which is a great 'get out if it isn't good. However! Should it look good, and makes me feel a whole lot better, is accepted after the curiosity dies down, then why not give it a go?!
The thing with me jimbo, is it's going from black to white, BANG! No skulking around or trying to be devious, I'll deliver the same donor hair line, and make it clear I'm not really wanting too much discussion of such a personal thing!

It either makes me look better and looks real or it doesn't PERIOD. How is it different to a chick with fake tits? She goes from a Lolly pop stick to hour glass over night! Looks great.... She says 'my tits are fake' and you do the bolt do you?!
Honestly if someone later were to react like that, I'm pretty sure that would be a blessing, getting rid of a superficial materialistic b**ch! As the only way I'm keeping it going is if it's 'undetectable' and I know they can be ! I've seen it!

Can I ask have you tried a modern system? Is this what your opinion is based on? The thing about the transplant or tattoo is its a massive gamble of irreversible procedure, I've seen some unimpressive stuff on this very board, a lot of Lolly for a few strands that they probably still fake up with concealer/ toppik, if it's remotely successful that is.
I'm not totally sold on this idea yet, I thought after looking right at ( and inch away) my friends hair, I was going to get some new 'sort of transplant' only later did I understand fully. Have you thought a CURE is around the corner, and it maybe unwise to have a plugged up head? Biding time with this method could be smart?

 

[Hairy bear]

Basically if I get this look, fake or not, I'm owning it!
Something either looks right or looks wrong, this looks right! Big time!
'Ha ha ha your hair looks great, ha ha ha look at this wig, look his hair looks better than mine! But it's fake everyone laugh'

I just can't see it, I believe they'd think it before they see it, but if it looks awesome and right at the exposed hairline, then 'reason' aside, that's it. I'm not 'desperate' and clutching at straws ( no pun) I'm just trying something new, if it isn't a go am I excommunicated from friends and family forever?! I'm not trying out being a mass murderer or pedophile, just a new look! Perspective*


Would any current wearers like to truthfully back up that assumption of mine with actual experience ?

 

[Pants McGhee]

Good on you Bear, do it for you. I'm in the exact same position and will be getting my first template done this coming Monday. In my situation, I'm already happily married and my wife supports my decision 100%
We (my wife and I) happen to work in the beauty industry, and the hair system is for me to feel an extra level of confidence in my appearance overall. Sadly, the clients we meet are somewhat superficial in judging people by their appearance (goes with the territory I guess) and I want to feel that extra level of confidence when dealing with them.
People swim with these systems, have active lifetstyles, and pretty much live their lives. Added to that, there is a wealth of information on how to look after your system, plus support from forums such as these.
The only pause I've had is that friends who've known me for years are going to notice for sure. But when they ask, I'll simply say; "I did it to feel good about myself" And I know, my true friends will understand. The others can go jump.

 

[Hairy bear]

Spot on! 'Donor hair' is all they're getting out of me!
I've spoken to my friend today who was 'taken'' for $2000, he is still extremely happy, has almost had a year out the system and is ready for a new unit. You may very well see him on monday
News paper with the eye holes in the waiting room

^ this guy above put the doubts in my head again.... My friend says the lace is so seamless you can 100 % not tell by looking! Unless nose is right up touching you! You CAN feel it a bit thought only at the transition points, so when giving a girl some massive head, it's best to 'top and tail' which is how you fellows should be doing it anyway if you know your craft!

I'm giving it a red hot go, what's the worst that can happen?! ask ANY CHICK which version of the guy in that video would prefer belting it into her and I'll say 100% all of them will say, hair! You need to be pretty intimate to be sprung and by that time an emotional connection will be happening, if not and they bolt it's still another notch on the headboard

 

[Jimbo5]

Jus tryin to make sure that you're mentally prepared for what you're getting yourself into, bear ... lots of maintenance, and the constant paranoia that comes with having a wig glued to your head.

My man shook went down this road not long ago ... and he couldn't handle those issues. I believe Fred said that his old man, a long-time wearer, has led a very restrictive life cuz of the piece. And there was a guy on here a few months ago who threw in the towel after wearing for a short time. He was trying to hawk his wig and accessories for a few hundred bucks.

If you want to spend the dough, and don't mind the embarrassment of having chicks glue a wig to your bald head in some salon (and probably laughing their asses off as soon as you walk out the door), that's your call, man. But, in my opinion, wigs aren't a viable, long-term solution for hair loss...

 

[Hairy bear]

Yup it's tough, at my initial consultation there were about 30-40 people that sit outside the place waiting to heckle folks, some even bring a thermos and deck chairs, one yelled out 'hey baldy! You getting a wig?!' ....but lucky I'd noticed a vet was in that same building and I was carrying a toy Guinea pig ( it makes noises if you squeeze it). I was 'no man! My pet is sick...'.
Phew that was close! Then as I approached the salon I heard the lady shout to her assistant 'where the hell is this chrome dome!?....ah it will be here, cut a bit off that dark brown rug and watch me pitch! Ha ha ha'
It's all a bit fuzzy from then but, I'm now on my own as my wife left me for a 'real man' ( I swear that bugger has had a plug job, but dam it looks slick). My kids have moved schools and don't talk to me, I've given up every interest I had ( well the folks said I wasn't allowed back) and I live alone .... But it's not all bad I've got a new BFF, Bob from Jims carpet cleaning comes to steam clean my rug once a week, and sometimes he talks to me! 'That's $250 you sad pathetic bald man'. He's always joking around is Bob....

Pros and cons, I still think how it makes me feel is worth a bit of inconvenience....

 

[Jimbo5]

Guinea pig, eh, bear.

Somehow that seems fitting to bring up in this particular thread ... lol.

At any rate, good to see that you have a fine sense of humor.

Should come in handy as you begin your wig-wearing adventures.

Let's hope your piece looks a little better than Fan's.

Uh, scratch that ... let's hope your piece looks a LOT better than Fan's ... lol.


By the way, sir, we expect nothing less than regular and highly detailed reports on your experiences as a new wearer ... including a full account of how those Christmas Party girls react when they see the new and 'improved' bear...

 

[Hairy bear]

No dramas, how are people liking your strands? $200 a hair is it? If you sell the family home, it could be enough to create a little tuft, sort of an oasis In the desert....a little tuft to be proud of that grows! Only problem being is if the chicks dig it, throw themselves on the bed, little Percy can't stand to attention and she's off put by the six toes!
They're no way to win eh Jimbo, except 'not to play'

 

[Hairy bear]

Well, again mr positivity made me question things !

My friend is booked into the same place as myself now he told me. After a year of wearing I asked; do you feel a fraud/nervous/always worried about being 'sprung'?
He knows a ton of absolute GLAMOURS being a professional performer.... 'How do they react? Do they know, think it's pathetic etc.?
What about your family ? Have they disowned you?

Are you happy and confident?


Answer...... 'I tell people, they DONT believe me! The girls think it looks great, I feel great, people can't 'eventually catch me out, as there is no secret... Best thing I've done!'

Sounds encouraging to me? And no dodgy medicines to take for life, can stil crack a fat one on call and no third nipple!

 

[Jimbo5]

Always good to question things, bear.

No sense running off half-cocked ... especially when you're about to get a rug glued to your head.


Your friend who wears ... is he married, or does he have a steady girlfriend?

Surely you know that even if a piece looks like sh*t, most chicks will say to the wearer's face that he looks great...

 

[Hairy bear]

Young guy early twenties, in and out relationships. 'Hipster' type.

Some people are nice, some nasty. If his 'rug' looked crap I wouldn't be doing it, and I'd hear all the negative talk behind his back.

Literally when he had it done. It was major discussion for two days, 'Freddie's' got hair!! Everyone assuming some unknown procedure, even though he said 'non surgical hair system'. Over the next few weeks I think the only person mentioning it was me, because I wanted it too!

It's a pretty small investment, $800 AUD. If I don't like it, I don't like it. I have an opportunity to test reactions abroad for a week, and some brutally honest friends.

Any reason you are so negative and discouraging about It ?

 

[Hairy bear]

Well the guy whom introduced me to this whole thing has just visited the salon I found, on my recommendation. He has been using a system almost a year, and absolutely loves it! No surprises, but the original place that charged him $2000 and wanted $6000 off me was ripping us off!
The recon his piece was a $500 unit, good but $1500 overcharged! He was fitted there and then with a new unit ( stock) for $500 all up! Went for thin skin this time. Says the ladies are awesome and it feels great!

I'm seeing him today, I'll give my impressions later.