Over 10+ years as a balding young man...my take on it...

[Brent27]

Hello all, I have been a frequent observer of these boards over the years and I finally decided to give you guys my background as a balding individual and to give some of you guys some incite as a 10+ year balding sufferer. I started balding when I was only 16 starting with a rapidly receding hairline. I did not start any kind of treatments until I was 19-20. By then, my hairline had receded pretty significantly and people made sure I knew it on a daily basis. I was very depressed because of this and felt less than human. Well I started using Revivogen at first because I do not like the idea of using propecia and I still don't. I used Revivogen for sometime and I feel like it helps a little bit but I had to stop because i was sick of my scalp being brown and yellow...so by the time I quit Revivogen I was 22. My hair had started to become thinner and less healthy by this time so I decided to start 2% minoxidil and I have been using only that until I turned 25, and I decided I needed something more potent because I was starting to lose rapidly at the crown area so I started using 5% minoxidil. I have been using only the 5% until recently because my hair has been rapidly getting worst...I am now 27 and I am somewhere between a NW3.5 and NW4. I am now on the current regime:

- Morning: Tricomin Conditioning Shampoo and Spectral DNC nano spray with minoxidil 5%, copper peptides and other beneficial ingredients
- Night: Regenpure DR followed by the NT
- Before bed: 5% generic minoxidil

I have just started this regime and I feel like my hair has gotten worst very rapidly...I am hoping it is just a bad shed but at the rate my hair has been changing I really can't be sure.

Now that I have given you guys a brief overview of my hairloss history, the point of my post is to provide some incite to all the guys who are just starting to lose their hair but specifically the guys who are losing it at a very young age like I did. I can tell you that yes, I feel like the best years of my life have been robbed from me in someways. I used to have many girlfriends until I turned 21 and my hairloss was very noticeable. Women that tell you they do not care if you are balding are lying to you...I know that's harsh but it is the truth. I have had dates and fooled around with a couple women since I was 21 but I have not been able to date any of them long term because a guy with a full head of hair would come into the picture everytime. The fact is women especially in their 20s are going to prefer the man with hair because there are more guys with hair than without in their 20s. I have been an avid fitness guru for the past 10 years, in fact, I have a bachelors degree in nutrition so I am a pretty fit and healthy guy (5'10 183lbs bodyfat around 10%). I can tell you that being fit will help you feel better because of the endorphins and it will help your confidence, but I will tell you from experience a good body and muscles do not matter that much to women unless you have the face and hair to match it. They do care most about the face and hair...again harsh, but it is the truth. However, I still definitely recommend working out just for the benefits of health and I firmly believe it helped me get through some harsh bouts of depression. Plus, it certainly is not a negative.

Now you are probably thinking I am being very negative and yes in someways I am, but you need to know the truth because I have been battling this for over 10 years. So how is my life now? Well, I am in my final semester of my Master's degree and I hopefully have a good paying job lined up in the near future. I have started a sport supplement company in the past year that is doing well and expanding. I have not given up on working out and do it for myself because I like going to the gym and being healthy. I have developed many friendships through the gym, my business and in my personal life. I have just recently decided that I need to stop focusing on the negatives and the belief that I will never find a woman or be happy, so I joined a dating site. I have been talking with a few girls on there and believe it or not, the girl I have been talking to the most too is only 21! I am still holding my breath because she is an attractive young women that is in nursing school, but I did post a photo of myself without a hat so she knows I have a receding hairline and she has seen me in person so I am trying to not sell myself short and you should not do this either. Well, sorry for the rambling but the moral I wanted to get across is yes balding sucks and it will reduce your overall quality of life, but I have finally realized that its not the end of all things. It took me over 10 years to realize this, but it finally happened. I have kept trying to advance myself and improve my self-image and even though my hair is the worst it has ever been, I feel like my life may finally be taking some positive turns. So for all of you young balding guys out there, keep pushing forward and advancing yourselves...things will get better! I promise!

 

[BrightonBaldy]

not much you can say to that really.

i first started to notice my hair falling out when i was 24, so ive been at this for 6 years now, full on NW5 now.

women do lie, it does affect your life, it changes you as a person.. all of these things are undeniable.

good luck with your business man

 

[gravesen]

Each story is unique.

So your experience isn't worth $hit, sorry.

Good luck with your life though.

 

[resu]

It's a valid viewpoint because the same could happen to any of us, I know without hair I'm pretty much done socially. Regarding your regime without an anti-androgen like finasteride you'll keep losing hair at a fast rate.

 

[DannyBoyy]

I think people just take losing hairloss way to serious i mean is it a b**ch? yes did it bother me? yes it sure did once upon a time and will others take the piss? off course but thats life had it anyway...but i seriously think we are making it ALOT worse then we should be i know i been ALOT happier when i just thought **** it and got on with life...but hey what do i know ay?

 

[BlackSheep]

Thanks for sharing your story. I think it raises the salient points with regard to what effect hair loss may have on an individual. Rather than simply being negative about it, you've obviously gone out and strove to improve your life in other ways. Continue being great at the things you do and women will appreciate that confidence. Even that has the power to overcome the negatives of male pattern balding. A strong man is an appealing man.

 

[HairPieceMan]

I think we need to clarify if he really has very noticeable hairloss first.

what Norwood are you? 2.5?

this "receding line" you have, is it like this?

 

[talmoode]

Thank you for sharing your story. Hope you do well with this new girl and good luck with you business!!!

 

[BrightonBaldy]

I think people just take losing hairloss way to serious i mean is it a b**ch? yes did it bother me? yes it sure did once upon a time and will others take the piss? off course but thats life had it anyway...but i seriously think we are making it ALOT worse then we should be i know i been ALOT happier when i just thought **** it and got on with life...but hey what do i know ay?

lol

theres a good queston at the end DB.

sounds like youre trying to convince yourself more than anybody on here.

the internetis full of liars, people lie to themselves online everyday, go on any website where people can post thoughts (facebook, youtube, here etc) and you'll always find at least one person claiming to be above whatever is being talked about.]

so Danny comes on a hairloss impact forum every dayand makes hundreds of posts, but hey its no big deal right? what are you guys worrying about?

if theres a youtube video about dating, theres always some stud in the comments with better advice. on videos about bad teeth, every second comment is about how disgusting the person is. if theres a video about somebody trying to lose weight, people call them fat bastards.

same on dating websites, almost nobody admits they are lonely and feel they are missing out.

on a hairloss forum, youve got to expect people to come on and claim its no big deal.

the obvious question has to be - what were you searching for when you found this place to begin with?

i think we all know the truth.

DB. hairloss is a massive life changing issue, the only way somebody could ever overcome it is to first accept that as a fact, dismissing it is living in denial. dismissing it to look cool on here is living on another planet, nobody is fooled by it, post us up some pictures of you out with your girlfriend living life to the full, start logging in once or twice a year (as some do), give yourself some credibility.

 

[Primo]

Great Post OP!

I can tell you that being fit will help you feel better because of the endorphins and it will help your confidence, but I will tell you from experience a good body and muscles do not matter that much to women unless you have the face and hair to match it. They do care most about the face and hair...again harsh, but it is the truth. However, I still definitely recommend working out just for the benefits of health and I firmly believe it helped me get through some harsh bouts of depression. Plus, it certainly is not a negative.

I agree women definitely care about face most of all, but having a good body can be a useful deal breaker if a woman is say, sitting on the fence deicision-wise about whether go out with a balding guy... Also women definitely prefer having sex with strong, muscly guys than, scrawny guys or fat guys that's for sure.

But quite apart from the whole women aspect, like you said going to gym is great for confidence and probably THE BEST anti-depressant out there check this quote from Henry Rollins' The Iron sums up perfectly the main reasons I go to the gym...

"I believe that when the body is strong, the mind thinks strong thoughts. Time spent away from the Iron makes my mind degenerate. I wallow in a thick depression. My body shuts down my mind.

The Iron is the best antidepressant I have ever found. There is no better way to fight weakness than with strength. Once the mind and body have been awakened to their true potential, it's impossible to turn back.

The Iron never lies to you. You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk, get told that you're a god or a total bastard. The Iron will always kick you the real deal. The Iron is the great reference point, the all-knowing perspective giver. Always there like a beacon in the pitch black. I have found the Iron to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is always two hundred pounds. "

I wanted to get across is yes balding sucks and it will reduce your overall quality of life, but I have finally realized that its not the end of all things. It took me over 10 years to realize this, but it finally happened. I have kept trying to advance myself and improve my self-image and even though my hair is the worst it has ever been, I feel like my life may finally be taking some positive turns. So for all of you young balding guys out there, keep pushing forward and advancing yourselves...things will get better! I promise!

I agree, it sucks but there are still plenty of positive things to be had out of life, that will bring us the happiness we crave and we must pursue them instead of pointlessly concentrating solely on the things we can't change.

 

[Quantum Cat]

I presume by Iron, he's not referring to the thing you press your shirts with?


stay away from dating sites - nothing good will come of them. Look for people in the real world

 

[hairplz]

Good body is cheating for ugly guys. It's kind of overcompensation really. It's actually pathetic.

"Look at me, I will work hard in gym to make up for my inferior genetics, busted face and receding hairline"

Yeah, like any woman is going to buy into that BS cheat. If your genes are sh!t, you don't make up for them and trick women into sleeping with you. You just don't do that. Help the human race by castrating yourself and never reproducing.

 

[Jockson]

Yeah, and plastic surgeries or hair transplanted from the back of your scalp, or worse, your *** or something is not "cheating".

 

[hairplz]

I know I am cheating, but I won't be having any children.

I repeat, I will not be having any children.

 

[Quantum Cat]

I know I am cheating, but I won't be having any children.

I repeat, I will not be having any children.

you'll be doing the next generations a favour

 

[hairplz]

I know.

 

[Admin]

And the conversation takes a skydive in quality again. Hairplz .... you've got a talent for this.

 

[CaptainForehead]

DannyBoy, what Norwood are you?

 

[DannyBoyy]

lol

theres a good queston at the end DB.

sounds like youre trying to convince yourself more than anybody on here.

the internetis full of liars, people lie to themselves online everyday, go on any website where people can post thoughts (facebook, youtube, here etc) and you'll always find at least one person claiming to be above whatever is being talked about.]

so Danny comes on a hairloss impact forum every dayand makes hundreds of posts, but hey its no big deal right? what are you guys worrying about?

if theres a youtube video about dating, theres always some stud in the comments with better advice. on videos about bad teeth, every second comment is about how disgusting the person is. if theres a video about somebody trying to lose weight, people call them fat bastards.

same on dating websites, almost nobody admits they are lonely and feel they are missing out.

on a hairloss forum, youve got to expect people to come on and claim its no big deal.

the obvious question has to be - what were you searching for when you found this place to begin with?

i think we all know the truth.

DB. hairloss is a massive life changing issue, the only way somebody could ever overcome it is to first accept that as a fact, dismissing it is living in denial. dismissing it to look cool on here is living on another planet, nobody is fooled by it, post us up some pictures of you out with your girlfriend living life to the full, start logging in once or twice a year (as some do), give yourself some credibility.

Damn brighton you know me so..so..well its like you been there with me through it all >__>...why i would lie in a place like this is beyond me i would admit if anything not like i have anything to be shamed off we all in the same vote now...but if you want to think im lying then i will say i am to to make yourself feel better...but i just LOVE how you think you got me figured out but boy...you couldnt be more wrong brighton you couldnt be more god damn wrong...and come on everyday day making posts? funny i thought i skipped days this last week an not post anything at all...maybe im in denial about that to yeah thats it i must be im in denial yeah it makes sense >__>


Just one more thing please dont go round thinking you know what i been through trying to act all smart with your posts like you know me...there WAS a time an place i told you this that i use to worry and i be DAMNED that i go through it again if for some reason you cant accept that im fine with it then thats your problem...

Oh and the obvious question what was i looking for when i found this? ok then i answer it...round about the time when i found this site i was on youtube looking at hairloss videos seeing people what went through the same stuff i did (worrying about it etc etc) i was interested in how others dealt with it how they over come it like i did but off course there was some vids off people who wasnt quite there yet sadly...then i found this site (i went on to google looking up more stuff about what i searched on youtube) and then i went on my "denial" "100 posts a day" saying well you know the rest.

 

[BlackSheep]

I never enjoyed the chase because it always felt unbecoming of my character as a young man.

Perhaps this is your indication that, right now, it just isn't working out.

Doesn't mean it'll always be that way, however.

It sounds like you're trying too hard, and women aren't stupid. They can tell a "trier" from a mile away. Ironically, as many men are constantly "trying", you're not showing your good qualities by melding yourself into that generic herd.

Strive to do **** that'll make you feel great about yourself in a personal development POV. Chasing girls just serves a higher-level biological function. Take up old hobbies again, or find new ones. Learn a new craft. Enrol in some classes. You'll meet more people, enrich yourself as a person, and network properly. You'll feel good about yourself. Humans are social positive-leaning animals by instinct.

And along the way, you'll find a girl alright. Best of luck on the journey, man.