Psychiatrits...

[omgstfuty]

I think I need one,

I have become one bitter, angry piece of work.
I have no intention of making friends, and any contact with a possible buddy, I feel paranoid, and end up wanting to rip them apart.
I no for a fact it stems from my hair thinning.I constanlty have this feeling in my heasd now,"what the f*** do they want?, are they trying to be paly, to make themselves feel better, or worse still make themselves seem better than myself?"
This attitude has lost me all of my dearest friends, I feel a little f*****g loser, however I have always been independant than the majority, I just feel like now , at this stage in my life, I am more than I should be, and the worrying thing is, I actually enjoy it.
I.E a f*****g loner in the making....

I dont want to be like that, sure I have my pals at the pub, however I have no pals, no real connections.(I used too)

Does any one find themselves , kinda fading away from hanging out from friends?Ive done it so, that they arent even friends any more.


Im sorry, I went on, I just wondered how many of you guys have had psychological help from a professional to guide you.?


Not just that though, help with dealing with problems that we cant be arsed saying to each other ( thats what we pay them for, to listen )

How much does it cost you guys per session?

Also do you think it helps you?

Thanks a lot.

 

[Guest]

Of course, I am seeing a psychiatrist, too. But I can´t say it is really beneficial. My ugliness, my hairloss or my personality disorders won´t disappear by just talking a little bit. I will never be a happy man.

Nevertheless I suggest you to see one. It definetly won´t do you no harm!

 

[DoctorHouse]

Taug, how is it going with the shrink. Is he helping you any? What techniques have they told you to use to help with your problem?

 

[Guest]

For being honest I didn´t even tell him about my ugliness (he can see it, but he probably doesn´t think it is such a big problem for me) or the hairloss. you know, I have so many problems in my life. When i am at the shrink i am only talking about the most urgent ones. Such as how to behave at my internship. I have learned to live with my ugliness, I don´t think anyone might help me about it.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Your right Taug, no one can help you with your problem except YOU! As far as your ugliness, maybe that was true when you were younger but I can honestly tell you that is not true now. You have heard dozens of people on here tell you that you have above average looks so the ugliness factor is really not an issue for you but I think the virgin factor is. I think you need to keep your virginity a secret to yourself and stop advertising it to everyone. You really do not have to disclose that information to anyone unless you find someone you want to have sex with but then again I would still not say anything even then. Some times little white lies in that case would be acceptable. There is plenty of p**rn on the web to tell you what to do. Besides you really do not need any instructions because its instinct what to do. You have always bragged about your tool so don't be a fool. Find yourself a nice girlfriend and play the field a little and start enjoying your blessings.

 

[Knendell]

It may take a month or two to really trust the person and open up. I talked about hairloss, being a virgin and of course my anxiety issues and how they developed. Screw talking about school or work. You know how to do that. Open up and get a real perspective from an impartial person. I think only then you will make some personal strides. Go for the deep stuff. Godd luck to you and me both.

 

[Guest]

Your right Taug, no one can help you with your problem except YOU! As far as your ugliness, maybe that was true when you were younger but I can honestly tell you that is not true now. You have heard dozens of people on here tell you that you have above average looks so the ugliness factor is really not an issue for you but I think the virgin factor is. I think you need to keep your virginity a secret to yourself and stop advertising it to everyone. You really do not have to disclose that information to anyone unless you find someone you want to have sex with but then again I would still not say anything even then. Some times little white lies in that case would be acceptable. There is plenty of p**rn on the web to tell you what to do. Besides you really do not need any instructions because its instinct what to do. You have always bragged about your tool so don't be a fool. Find yourself a nice girlfriend and play the field a little and start enjoying your blessings.

Oh, my virginity is my secret. I would be deadly ashamed to openly admit it in front of other people. But I don´t really care what people on hair loss forums think about me that´s why I am honest here.
I think once my shrink tried to find about how my love life looked like. I quickly changed the subject and I guess he realized what is going on so far.

 

[DoctorHouse]

Taug, have you told the shrink, you feel you are an ugly guy and will be lonely the rest of your life? And if so, what did he say?

 

[RaginDemon]

what/who is the shrink?

 

[DoctorHouse]

Well most of the time it's S.A.F. :jump:

 

[Guest]

Taug, have you told the shrink, you feel you are an ugly guy and will be lonely the rest of your life? And if so, what did he say?

If I told you him about my ugliness he probably say as well "you are not ugly". You know, most people consider only people such as Quasimodo as ugly. But to me ugly people are also those who are just far below average looking. Like me. my mother once said to me: "You are not ugly", I said: "if i am not ugly who else is?" She didn´t give me one name. it is just not politically correct to say that there are people who are ugly indeed. Just like it is non-pc to seriously call (not as an insult!!!) other people dumb even though it is quite logical that there are people who are of far above average intelligence and of far below intelligence.

But I don´t think I could talk about my loneliness. It is very hard to me to talk about my feelings. i would feel so weak and hurtable afterwards.

 

[s.a.f]

Taug if you are not willing to discuss real things that are bothering you with your shrink then you are just wasting your time.

You NEED to start telling him whats really bothering you believe me he will have heard much worse.
Your belief that you are ugly is due to some psychological reason. That is why you refuse to accept any other point of view despite an overwhelming majority of guys on here telling you otherwise.

If I told you him about my ugliness he probably say as well "you are not ugly".
(The psychiatrist would realise this and help you find the root cause of this).

But I don´t think I could talk about my loneliness. It is very hard to me to talk about my feelings. i would feel so weak and hurtable afterwards.

Yes it would be difficult to open up like this but what you are doing is a bit like going to hospital with a heart attack and telling the Dr you have a headache.

 

[Bald Dave]

Taug I don't think you're ugly dude! How tall are you? I remember you saying that you were over 6"0. If that is the case then you are lucky because women love tall guys and not short little runts like me! :shakehead:

 

[Maxpwr]

grrrr! Taug, if you want any benefits from psychiatrists or psychologists you need to tell them EXACTLY what's bothering you. Otherwise you are wasting your time and your money.

You NEED to discuss your "self portrayed ugliness" and your love life or lack therof. How do you expect to see any changes if you are not dealing with the problem areas?? It's like trying to fix a broken tv by changing the batteries in the remote - doesn't work!

When I went to a psyche I told him everything about everything... I told him exactly what I was going through, the way I dealt with situations, the drugs I was taking, the people I associated with, EVERYTHING! It hurt to bring up so much I had bottled up for so long... I walked out of there in tears numerous times. Other times I walked out of there so angry I could've screamed. I hated going there, I hated him and I had the impression he hated me being there.

After a while I started to notice that I felt better after going over certain things again from different perspectives. I realised my psyche was often putting on the same facade that I brought to him - stubborn and pessimistic and actually quite childish. I could see why I was so negative all the time and so hard to converse with. He made me appear so pathetic to myself, but in a way that I just HAD to change myself as soon as possible, more from a common sense point of view.

I noticed he would stop me while talking and make me backtrack and explain things more clearly. We would go over things numerous times until he'd gotten the full picture. Sometimes this was to make me reflect upon it... sometimes he just wanted to bring me to boiling point to test me or to show me something.

I owe a lot of who I am now to that therapy. The sheer brilliance of the way he did it too was impressive. The learning was rhetorical for me - it required no explanation or justification once I stopped going... Something you only notice when you think back to how f*cked in the head you were back then - or how fixated you were on something so minor.

....anyway *hehe* you don't need my life story - I just wanted to indicate the importance of telling it like it is when attending therapy. You have to - otherwise, f*cking go home and spend the money on something nice instead. It's not meant to be a walk in the park. Unless you are willing to be totally honest with your shrink and with yourself, don't bother... you won't have anything to show for it.

I also don't believe in the taking of anti-depressant drugs. In my opinion these are not part of the solution, they're part of the problem. You need to deal with problems without such influences or dependancies.

 

[antonio666]

shrinks won't do jack shiot for you they are parasites

 

[s.a.f]

Another of your opinions? Always so helpful, :thumbdown2: why dont you just keep them to yourself until you've grown up a bit. :jackit:

 

[RaginDemon]

Taug you are not ugly man

I will say you are above average. Your low self-confidence is pathetic however.

 

[s.a.f]

Its been said many times before and will be said many times again. But Taug will not accept any other view but his own. :dunno:

 

[barcafan]

Taug, its very possible you have hormonal imbalances that are basically causing you to feel like sh*t. Did you get your testosterone levels checked? Low levels can really cause severe depression among other problems. I suggest you get a COMPLETE hormone panel done, why feel this way if you dont have to.

 

[malibujoe]

Taug, its very possible you have hormonal imbalances that are basically causing you to feel like $#iT. Did you get your testosterone levels checked? Low levels can really cause severe depression among other problems. I suggest you get a COMPLETE hormone panel done, why feel this way if you dont have to.

hmmm?...someone's been on the propeciahelp.com site and is now 'educated' on hormones. rethinking the propecia usage now huh?