Question to all of my friends at gourmetstylewellness.com

[Nicky]

I usually do not bring my personal problems to the boards of HairLossScene, because I really do not expect the posters here to give me the serious answers I need to live my life. That being said, I am facing an issue right now which may result in an E.R visit at my local hospital, because surgeons may indeed be removing my fist from a mans skull. Since this is a hairloss forum, and hairloss fighting is a type of hand to hand combat, I will give it a try.

Ok, just recently I have started seeing a girl, no problems here so far. However, she used to date a kid who I never met, but he apparently has some issues with me for seeing the said girl. He was bothering he and I intervined, and gave him a bit of a warning, well instead of backing down as I figured he would, this dude questioned my character and began to insult me via the internet, obviously I was quite frightened. Well I then decided, this really has nothing to do with this chick anymore, and now I'm going to have knock this kid out, and teach him a lesson about sh*t talking.

Sounds like an easy solution for an everyday problem right? Not exactly...

I am now 21 years old, and the said sh*t talker, is a 19 year old. I do think a 2 year difference shouldn't save him from the *** kicking I plan on delivering, but if I would be in trouble for assaulting a minor, I don't want it to effect my career in the criminal justice field. However, I am a very aggressive individual, and it's going to have to take everything I have not to punish this guys face.

I'd like to see what you all have to say here, discuss.

 

[cuebald]

Sounds to me like you should have a smoke and calm down, will smacking some cheeky kid really be worth the criminal record? Especially if you want to go into Law?

He'll be having the last laugh, and besides, not many girls I know would be too impressed if I hit some kid two years younger than me.

Peace

Hey, this is out of left field here, but does anyone know if Finasteride could dampen aggression levels?

 

[ClayShaw]

You definitely would not be assaulting a minor. 18 is the age of majority.
Sometimes you gotta kick a little ***. No big deal. If you dont want to get into too much trouble, make him throw the first punch, and don't take it too far. Don't curb the motherfucker. Don't kick him when he's down.
Cuebald, the 2 years thing might make a difference if the ages were, say, 12 and 14, or something like that, but 19 and 21 are pretty much the same, physically.

 

[HughJass]

He was bothering he and I intervined,

when you say he was bothering her (is that right?) what exactly was he doing?


If he isn't going to harm her and it's all verbal then I'd let I'd just let it go. What is your gf going to respect more- a guy who can deal with things in a civilized manner or a reactionary type who resorts to violence at the drop of a hat? This chap is obviously still smarting over being dumped by her and is dealing with it the only way he knows how, instead of threatening him perhaps you could be a little more reasonable with him- try something like 'everybody knows what it's like to be dumped, it sucks, but hassling her is not cool and if you really cared about her you wouldn't do it and you'd respect her decision and allow her to see whoever she wants'. You'll be able to defuse the situation a lot quicker by appealing to a more reasonable side of him. Unless he doesn't have one.


If he was threatening her physically or he did harm her then that's a job for the police (not the pop group) and if they don't do anything about it then I guess you would be within in your right to dance on his face and play in his blood.

Just my 2c

 

[s.a.f]

I dont want to live in a world where a man cant dish out a good slap to some twat when they're asking for it.
Its a lesson than some people need to learn dont mouth off, if you cant handle the consequences.

 

[ali777]

21 and 19... I predict a fist fight :smack: ...

However, if you are asking my advice, I'd say talk to the guy and let him know that he doesn't have a business with her anymore.

 

[The Gardener]

21 and 19... I predict a fist fight :smack: ...

However, if you are asking my advice, I'd say talk to the guy and let him know that he doesn't have a business with her anymore.

I agree with this. You need to have a FIRMLY worded "come to Jesus" talk with him.

 

[Nicky]

First off i just wanna say thank you for all the help,


He talks a big game, but he knows about my experience with the Army, so I don't think he's going to try to do anything. I really thought turning 21 was going to be cool as hell, but all it does is **** me over. If a girl is 19 it's not allowed because i'm 21, but when I was 19 and she was 17 it wasn't all that weird. And now, same kids I would have kicked their *** when I was 18 or 19 I can't because of this age thing, there should be some type of exception, like a 2 or 3 year grace thing. It's just retarded.

Ok so here it goes, just recently I have started seeing a girl. To cut to the chase, I want to know how other guys out there would react to another guy trying blatanly to steal their girls. She goes to the same college with a guy who has liked her for the last year (during this whole time she's been with me). Over the past few weeks or so, he's been making his move. By bothering i mean that he is always willing to help her out with what ever she needs. He's extremely bold, and she tells me everything that he says to her. These amount to things like "You're So Damn Hot," and "I want you to be with me." He's done other things that seem unbelievable to me, knowing as he does that she has been with me. He asks her out on dates, and, most ridiculously, has tried to hold her hand in the college.
She thinks he's a nice enough guy, and admits that she is charmed a bit when someone is that passionate towards her. But she isn't attracted to him, and would never go for him--and it's true, he's not her type.
Now, in my opinion, any guy who is trying to hold the hand of another guy's girl etc., is asking for trouble. He makes me extremely angry because his actions are pretty disrespectful toward me. I'm pretty sure most guys would not tolerate another guy acting like this. Nevertheless, I'm thinking about doing something dramatic , considering he goes to the same college as this girl. But what planet is this guy living on?
The said girl has indeed told him that they are just friends. He said he understood that, but it would be hard. Then he texts her this morning telling her that he's hurting so bad over this that he's crying.


A lot of guys think they are players and badmans, especially when its concerning girls but they just need to be put back into their place....
Personally if someone talks sh*t about me I don't give them a warning I just **** them up, but if you warned him like you said, and he is still talking, he deserves an asswhooping.

 

[s.a.f]

The guy is making himself look more like a dick than you.
It seems your g/f is getting some kind of thrill from his attentions, she should be the one to put him in his place and make him understand that she's not available.
Tell her either she puts the guy straight and tells him to stop or you'll look elsewhere. How would she feel if some girl were all over you?
You cant stop guys from hitting on or liking your g/f but if he's doing it blatantly and knows that its pissing you off then you need to act.
The fact that you've not got physical is probably the reason he's still trying.
Man up and go sort this guy out, the age difference is no excuse 19 and 21 is practicly the same you're both legally adults.

 

[neis]

Tough situation.

That's such a fine line, damn. I dunno what to tell ya, man. Sounds like a real thorn in your side, but there are some pretty serious repercussions for you if you take it to a physical level. And the way it sounds, he knows it too.
I think it's your girlfriend who needs to take action here, not you. Your girl may not like him, but she's clearly enjoying the attention she's getting from this guy. Only speaking for myself, to me, nothing in the world is more annoying and unattractive than some guy you have made clear you are not interested in who keeps hitting on you and hitting on you. I think if she really didn't enjoy his attentions on some level, she would have told him to get bent by now. I'm wondering what she's getting out of telling you every single move this guy makes, yet she still hangs around him, still goes to the movies where he is included in the group, etc.

If I were you, I would not give her an ultimatum, and I would NOT tell her what to do or what she should do, but I would make it clear that you are extremely hurt and frustrated at dating a woman who has another man pawing at her all the time. You didn't sign up for that, and you don't want to feel like you're competing for her. I think I would ask her, NOT accusingly, but calmly and plainly ask her why she still hangs around him, and why she has never told this guy "I'd appreciate it if you would stop making romantic overtures toward me. If you cannot keep our relationship on a platonic level, then we cannot have any relationship at all." IF she doesn't want to hurt his feelings, well, why are his feelings more important to her than yours? There comes a time when you have to stand up for your relationship, and her time is now.

Some guys like this guy that regard themselves as the sweet ones, actually have a sense and ego of entitlement---he is so confident that he is a sweetie and better than other guys that he actually DESERVES this girl, that he deserves her and you don't. Guys like that think they aren't doing any wrong because they are so sweet, that they'd be doing her a favor to mess up the relationship so she could be with a sweet guy--- nice guy wants to rescue the beautiful princess.
whip his ***.if your a civil human being and most people see you that way they'll see you've got a reason.i think karmic retribution is in order.

 

[Nicky]

Tough situation.

That's such a fine line, damn. I dunno what to tell ya, man. Sounds like a real thorn in your side, but there are some pretty serious repercussions for you if you take it to a physical level. And the way it sounds, he knows it too.
I think it's your girlfriend who needs to take action here, not you. Your girl may not like him, but she's clearly enjoying the attention she's getting from this guy. Only speaking for myself, to me, nothing in the world is more annoying and unattractive than some guy you have made clear you are not interested in who keeps hitting on you and hitting on you. I think if she really didn't enjoy his attentions on some level, she would have told him to get bent by now. I'm wondering what she's getting out of telling you every single move this guy makes, yet she still hangs around him, still goes to the movies where he is included in the group, etc.

If I were you, I would not give her an ultimatum, and I would NOT tell her what to do or what she should do, but I would make it clear that you are extremely hurt and frustrated at dating a woman who has another man pawing at her all the time. You didn't sign up for that, and you don't want to feel like you're competing for her. I think I would ask her, NOT accusingly, but calmly and plainly ask her why she still hangs around him, and why she has never told this guy "I'd appreciate it if you would stop making romantic overtures toward me. If you cannot keep our relationship on a platonic level, then we cannot have any relationship at all." IF she doesn't want to hurt his feelings, well, why are his feelings more important to her than yours? There comes a time when you have to stand up for your relationship, and her time is now.

Some guys like this guy that regard themselves as the sweet ones, actually have a sense and ego of entitlement---he is so confident that he is a sweetie and better than other guys that he actually DESERVES this girl, that he deserves her and you don't. Guys like that think they aren't doing any wrong because they are so sweet, that they'd be doing her a favor to mess up the relationship so she could be with a sweet guy--- nice guy wants to rescue the beautiful princess.
whip his ***.if your a civil human being and most people see you that way they'll see you've got a reason.i think karmic retribution is in order.

Thanks alot man, I really appreciate the advice.

It's all still continuing. He continues to text her, and the other night he called her and talked to her on the phone from 11:00 pm to 2:00 am, and she told me he continues to tell her she's beautiful, smart, sexy, everything he wants, etc. And now, he's trying to set up a night to go over and watch an archeaology documentary with her. She lives with a roommate in a house and the only DVD player is in her room, and so of course they would be sitting/laying back there in her bedroom, on her bed, with the door closed. This from a guy who's already kissed her on the lips and tried to hold her hand. She said she didn't think it was a good idea for now, as I would feel uncomfortable with this.....Well, yeah, obviously I'd be uncomfortable. I want to say to her, "Why did you have to come and run this by me first before nixing the idea? Were you actually considering doing this?"

But it's getting to the point where I'm becoming just as angry with her--though I still get fits of rage at this guy's lack of respect, too.

I want her to tell this guy to stop trying to get with her, stop calling her late at night, stop texting her, stop everything. And I want her to do it because the guy's being a general inconsiderate jerk and showing no respect for our relationship, and not because I would "find it uncomfortable" if she watched a movie with someone she considers a "friend."

 

[Nicky]

The guy is making himself look more like a dick than you.
It seems your g/f is getting some kind of thrill from his attentions, she should be the one to put him in his place and make him understand that she's not available.
Tell her either she puts the guy straight and tells him to stop or you'll look elsewhere. How would she feel if some girl were all over you?
You cant stop guys from hitting on or liking your g/f but if he's doing it blatantly and knows that its pissing you off then you need to act.
The fact that you've not got physical is probably the reason he's still trying.
Man up and go sort this guy out, the age difference is no excuse 19 and 21 is practicly the same you're both legally adults.

I'm going to go up to him and scare the piss out of him, as soon as he sees me and my boy he's going to piss his pants. I'm going to say "i'm here now let's talk" and if he starts to talk sh*t after that, I'm going to knock his teeth down his throat.

 

[Guest]

if your worried about your future, get some of your boys to handle it....just make sure they dont have a future....those types give the best beats.

 

[Smooth]

I'd f*** him up, and if he went to the police, id f*** him up even more... but here.... well they dont do anything if you kick someones *** unless you killed him.... so..... i guess if your at the US get somone else do the beatings for you, i've been to this road a few times in my short life time and they never learn unless they get some severe head beating.