Realizations that I just had re: hairloss and getting women

[recboi]

This good friend of mine from HS is totally bald, but he married a hot girl. His hairloss never bothered him, or at least he never expressed it. Though he looked better with hair, i think his lack of concern helped him out. See, women are repulsed by anything that reminds them of themselves. They have very low self esteem (by their own actions) and are very self conscious. They view these as femine traits, and straight women want men, not a woman. That's why if you are concerned with your appearance, your hair, that reminds them of themselves, and then they get repelled by it.

 

[roki]

correct

 

[So]

Very true

 

[CCS]

your guess is as good as mine. Most women will lie till they die.

 

[Guest]

Recboi,

I find your ideas fascinating, and I would like to subscribe to your newsletter.

 

[The Gardener]

I think what recboi says is pretty much true.

Women go for that "alpha male" characteristic in men. If you are balding and act like you think you are worthy of climbing into a closet and dying, you'll be seen like a baldy who wants to climb into a closet and die.

If you are balding, and act like a man who has his act together and goes out and does the things in life that he wants to do, then women will flock to you.

Women are into that stuff. They are into men who inspire them, but it doesn't have to be looks alone that do it. They find inspiration and attraction in men who might even be slick bald, but have that certain zest for life and personality that excites them.

 

[recboi]

I think what recboi says is pretty much true.

Women go for that "alpha male" characteristic in men. If you are balding and act like you think you are worthy of climbing into a closet and dying, you'll be seen like a baldy who wants to climb into a closet and die.

If you are balding, and act like a man who has his act together and goes out and does the things in life that he wants to do, then women will flock to you.

Women are into that stuff. They are into men who inspire them, but it doesn't have to be looks alone that do it. They find inspiration and attraction in men who might even be slick bald, but have that certain zest for life and personality that excites them.

They'll respect you more if you don't show that it bugs you. But keep in mind, they won't necessarily be attracted to you. Take the concept of confidence vs. creepy when it comes to women.

If a guy is decent looking and comes up and introduces himself and takes a risk of rejection, women view it as confidence.

If a guy isn't attractive (could be for many reasons such as age, ugliness, or hairloss) and he comes up and introduces himself and risks rejection, women view it as him being "creepy".

They are both the same acts, the only difference is the appearance of the guy. There are plenty of good looking guys who come up to women and say vulgar things and women will in most cases view it as confidence, whereas definetely if it were a less attractive guy who says they should screw, she'll view it as creepy. Even if it's just benign conversation, if you don't look good, you are creepy to her.

Same thing with sexual harassment. It's only sexual harassment if she isn't attracted. A female coworker that I fooled around with told me this. If you guys (especially non americans) wanna see something funny, watch on youtube the Saturday Night Live skit with Tom Brady called "Sexual harassment and you"

 

[H/B]

well said Gardener

 

[scientist]

hairloss definitely killed my confidence

and girls are attracted to confidence

someone that becomes more confident in spite of their hairloss will be very successful

focus on your positive qualities

body and mind

s

 

[recboi]

hairloss definitely killed my confidence

and girls are attracted to confidence

someone that becomes more confident in spite of their hairloss will be very successful

focus on your positive qualities

body and mind

s

I think you guys need to change your venues then. Go to places where your male competition is older than you, or fat, or something.. One has to rebuild confidence, and I guess you can do that in small steps. I used to go to fancy bars, etc, that had large beer selections. But it would also attract trendy/attractive people and I felt I had absolutely no chance in hell with women. So i started hanging out in blue collar bars that serve nothing but budweiser. I probably have the only full set of teeth there, but you know what? I have a much better time there. They're there to have fun, not to show off. I don't think I'd ever go back to the other places. But maybe that's my lack of confidence. If you want to feel like sh*t, seriously, go to a club. But also enough time has passed where I realize I don't have a chance in bars, so I never go expecting to meet women. The last time I went to bar, i was talking to some german guys, and when I started walking out, some girl grabbed me and told me I couldn't leave and sat me down next to her. I wanted to leave on a positive note, so I snuck out, as I was drunk and woul dhave only made a fool of myself by being stupid, but I have a positive memory now..

 

[s.a.f]

Wasted oppurtunity!! That seems like you passed up a definate ride. :freaked:

 

[recboi]

Wasted oppurtunity!! That seems like you passed up a definate ride. :freaked:

Nah, I'm not very charming when I'm wasted. I know when I need to leave, so I left. don't need any more bad memories of screwing up. I'd rather not know and wonder what might have happened, then to strike out with someone who was obviously interested. Had I not drank so much with the germans I would have probably stayed..

 

[Guest]

Wasted oppurtunity!! That seems like you passed up a definate ride. :freaked:

trust this american, you don't want to bring home a girl from a blue collar american bar hahaha. you don't know what std's she could be carrying.

 

[messmorph]

Just so you guys know. I have been single for a few weeks now. I went out Fri night and hooked up, again on Saturday and Sunday.

That was 3 different (and hot) girls over 3 different nights. And yes my hair is falling out. The girls on Sunday actualy commented on it. One of them said his hair is receeding and the other was like no its not (they couldnt really tell if it was or not). I said it probably is but who gives a f*** and we carried on during the night.


The moral of my little rant is its not just about the hair boys. Take care of your skin, goto the gym, get a tan, whiten your teeth. The last thing the girls will care about is your hair.

 

[Far Too Young]

Re: Realizations that I just had re: hairloss and getting wo

See, women are repulsed by anything that reminds them of themselves. They have very low self esteem (by their own actions) and are very self conscious. They view these as femine traits, and straight women want men, not a woman. That's why if you are concerned with your appearance, your hair, that reminds them of themselves, and then they get repelled by it.

Umm, maybe we should hold off on characterizing all women as having low esteem. I know quite a few who are rather obnoxiously confident.

That said, I don't think balding is going to help your chances with the ladies in any respect. The point of this discussion seems to be that if your hair's shitty, don't let your personality be shitty. You've gotta have something.

 

[recboi]

Re: Realizations that I just had re: hairloss and getting wo

See, women are repulsed by anything that reminds them of themselves. They have very low self esteem (by their own actions) and are very self conscious. They view these as femine traits, and straight women want men, not a woman. That's why if you are concerned with your appearance, your hair, that reminds them of themselves, and then they get repelled by it.

Umm, maybe we should hold off on characterizing all women as having low esteem. I know quite a few who are rather obnoxiously confident.

That said, I don't think balding is going to help your chances with the ladies in any respect. The point of this discussion seems to be that if your hair's shitty, don't let your personality be shitty. You've gotta have something.

It's a facade, believe me. Even really hot women, that know they're hot, still constantly need reassurances and attention. You're confusing having high standards with having high self esteem. only in women can you can someone with low self esteem that feels entitled to perfection. Men with low self esteem are the opposite and think they'r enot worthy of having anyone.

 

[iostream71]

i don't want hair for women, believe it or not. i'm single and like it. what bothers me about losing hair is the fact that i'm being forced into being "old"

 

[The Gardener]

Re: Realizations that I just had re: hairloss and getting wo

Even really hot women, that know they're hot, still constantly need reassurances and attention.

So do men.

I don't know how many guys I have heard get all bent out of shape because their girl was not paying enough attention to THEM while at a bar or club. "Were you flirting with him?"... "Do you know him from somewhere?"... blah blah blah. The main difference is that women usually have the confidence to come out and SAY IT openly and honestly to a man, wheras men typically just try to hold it in, to "act macho", and they just stew in it. Usually men adopt a "bad mood", in hopes the girl will notice and say oooooh, poor baby, I admit it, I was bad at the party and I was wrong, and now you are in a bad mood and I miss my baby, oooooh. Or, sometimes men just hold it in until some other event happens, usually something rather immaterial and minor, and use that event as an excuse to completely blow up at the woman and give her a good chewing out to let out all the pent-up bruising from the insecurity.

Women are no less insecure than men are. I think that men are MORE insecure, but they are too insecure to express their insecurities, because it isn't "macho" to do so.

 

[Guest]

i don't want hair for women, believe it or not. i'm single and like it. what bothers me about losing hair is the fact that i'm being forced into being "old"

I couldn´t agree more.....

 

[CCS]

Wasted oppurtunity!! That seems like you passed up a definate ride. :freaked:

trust this american, you don't want to bring home a girl from a blue collar american bar hahaha. you don't know what std's she could be carrying.

yeah, only do that at white collar bars. Those pretty rich women are cleaner.