Realizations that I just had re: hairloss and getting women

[Guest]

Wasted oppurtunity!! That seems like you passed up a definate ride. :freaked:

trust this american, you don't want to bring home a girl from a blue collar american bar hahaha. you don't know what std's she could be carrying.

yeah, only do that at white collar bars. Those pretty rich women are cleaner.

a little bit. not all are pretty.

 

[CCS]

Re: Realizations that I just had re: hairloss and getting wo

I think that men are MORE insecure, but they are too insecure to express their insecurities, because it isn't "macho" to do so.

I think plenty of women are guilty of pouting too. It just depends on the person and often their status in the relationship, not so much the sex of the person.

 

[The Gardener]

Very true. Good point.

 

[recboi]

Wasted oppurtunity!! That seems like you passed up a definate ride. :freaked:

trust this american, you don't want to bring home a girl from a blue collar american bar hahaha. you don't know what std's she could be carrying.

yeah, only do that at white collar bars. Those pretty rich women are cleaner.

a little bit. not all are pretty.

Dunno where you guys live, but where I live the "professional" "I have a graduate degree" women are very promiscuous so I would presume they have their fair share of STDs also.. I know chicks who have had sex with 8 guys in one week, yes, that's right... meaning in one day she had sex with two different guys........

 

[Far Too Young]

Re: Realizations that I just had re: hairloss and getting wo

Even really hot women, that know they're hot, still constantly need reassurances and attention.

So do men.

I don't know how many guys I have heard get all bent out of shape because their girl was not paying enough attention to THEM while at a bar or club. "Were you flirting with him?"... "Do you know him from somewhere?"... blah blah blah. The main difference is that women usually have the confidence to come out and SAY IT openly and honestly to a man, wheras men typically just try to hold it in, to "act macho", and they just stew in it. Usually men adopt a "bad mood", in hopes the girl will notice and say oooooh, poor baby, I admit it, I was bad at the party and I was wrong, and now you are in a bad mood and I miss my baby, oooooh. Or, sometimes men just hold it in until some other event happens, usually something rather immaterial and minor, and use that event as an excuse to completely blow up at the woman and give her a good chewing out to let out all the pent-up bruising from the insecurity.

Women are no less insecure than men are. I think that men are MORE insecure, but they are too insecure to express their insecurities, because it isn't "macho" to do so.

Yes, it sounds like a bitchy little attention mechanism. But I have a friend who uses it all the time, and you would not BELIEVE how often it works for him. Ugly fellow, too. In fact, the ONLY thing he has going for him is his nice head of auburn hair. Otherwise it's a two mile nose, beady eyes, and poor proportions. But I'll tell you what, once he puts on that sulky act around a girl, they always fall for it. I'd like to try it out myself, I'm just a little too enthusiastic. I tend to get quality over his quantity, though, even with my thinning hair.

 

[klink]

I'm 39, happily married (2nd marriage), and have been in a lot of relationships since I was 17. Women don't fixate on hair. Women look at personality much more than man do. Men are much more visual, might be due to society but it is what is it is.

If you are losing hair, make sure that you are fit because looking fit will go a lot farther than you realize. Even after I noticed I was losing hair I still did very well with women, but I am pretty confident and I'm fun to be around.

I'm a big believer in a person taking direct responsibility for their personal happiness. If you tend to have a negative outlook, your social life will suffer. You need to enjoy life right now, and actively work on being a positive person. You might have to force yourself to exercise, or buy new clothes, well just do it.

 

[blackg]

This good friend of mine from HS is totally bald, but he married a hot girl. His hairloss never bothered him, or at least he never expressed it. Though he looked better with hair, i think his lack of concern helped him out. See, women are repulsed by anything that reminds them of themselves. They have very low self esteem (by their own actions) and are very self conscious. They view these as femine traits, and straight women want men, not a woman. That's why if you are concerned with your appearance, your hair, that reminds them of themselves, and then they get repelled by it.

There is a little bit of truth to this statement.

 

[hair_nag]

They'll respect you more if you don't show that it bugs you. But keep in mind, they won't necessarily be attracted to you. Take the concept of confidence vs. creepy when it comes to women.

If a guy is decent looking and comes up and introduces himself and takes a risk of rejection, women view it as confidence.

If a guy isn't attractive (could be for many reasons such as age, ugliness, or hairloss) and he comes up and introduces himself and risks rejection, women view it as him being "creepy".

They are both the same acts, the only difference is the appearance of the guy. There are plenty of good looking guys who come up to women and say vulgar things and women will in most cases view it as confidence, whereas definetely if it were a less attractive guy who says they should screw, she'll view it as creepy. Even if it's just benign conversation, if you don't look good, you are creepy to her.

Same thing with sexual harassment. It's only sexual harassment if she isn't attracted. A female coworker that I fooled around with told me this. If you guys (especially non americans) wanna see something funny, watch on youtube the Saturday Night Live skit with Tom Brady called "Sexual harassment and you"

but that's kinda true for men too. Lots of guys let a girl walk all over them if she's attractive but if she's fat or unattractive then they might mistreat her even if she's friendly.