Relationships with females

[harlan1988]

It seems as if the vast majority of posters on this forum long for female attention. Just wondering how many guys on here have been secluded from any sexual female interaction and for how long? I am not a virgin but haven't gotten any since balding started(5 years ago). Seems like most of the guys here are in the same might be in the same boat?

 

[LooseItAll]

Never tasted it but I am not trying to save my hair because of women

 

[AnberlinFan84]

I've been with my current fiance for nearly 6 years. I am lucky in the since that I have already found my mate and look forward to spending many years together with her. My hair loss isn't that bad right now and I really feel for the younger guys especially that are in the market for a GF, it can be brutal out there.

 

[Captain Obvious]

I haven't had a girlfriend for 7 years and I've had sex once since then with a one night stand. Deep down I know that if I made a balls to the wall effort I could get a fair share of dates and sex. I know that the only reason I don't is because I have a shameful ego that wants girls to flock to me and do all of the work to make me feel like a big shot. That is not a rational desire, IMO. Also, I think that my standards are unrealistic as far as the types of girls I lust for and that I seem to be holding out for. I don't blame my hairloss for the lack of sex and relationships, that's my personalities fault. I do blame it for the lack of EASY sex and relationships, though.

 

[buckeyeblitz]

22 years old, norwood 3.

Been with girlfriend since March of last year, and although my hairloss was not to the extent that it is now (went from NW2 to 3 during our relationship), it was still noticeable, but didn't really have any impact on how she viewed me. Still today, she seems as attracted to me as ever, and despite my cynical attitude where I am waiting for her to become less attracted because of my hair loss, all of the evidence still points to the fact that she still finds me attractive. God knows I don't listen to her when she tells me it doesn't bother her, but I do notice that her actions are congruent with that, so hey, I'm happy.

Because of the fact that I'm in a relationship, it's tough to really understand how it will effect my sex life if I ever find myself single again. I will say that it has hurt my confidence slightly, particularly with the 18-20 year old crowd. On the other hand, I oddly seem to get more attention from girls 21-25. At parties when I am without my girlfriend, girls still introduce themselves, and I am able to get them laughing and for them to show interest. Whether or not that translates to sex is unknown, your guess is as good as mine.

But at least things look promising... it seems as though balding isn't the end of the road for dating, provided you are willing to put yourself in social settings and have a good attitude.

Then again, I'm only NW3, and I do admit that I worry if things will change when my hairloss has matured further. But hey, so far, so good. I think it's all about sort of playing into your hand and working on what you can control, and possibly making some adjustments to your personality and image.

 

[buckeyeblitz]

I haven't had a girlfriend for 7 years and I've had sex once since then with a one night stand. Deep down I know that if I made a balls to the wall effort I could get a fair share of dates and sex. I know that the only reason I don't is because I have a shameful ego that wants girls to flock to me and do all of the work to make me feel like a big shot. That is not a rational desire, IMO. Also, I think that my standards are unrealistic as far as the types of girls I lust for and that I seem to be holding out for. I don't blame my hairloss for the lack of sex and relationships, that's my personalities fault. I do blame it for the lack of EASY sex and relationships, though.

Such an insightful post. I can relate to how you feel quite a bit. Hair loss has definitely taken away the easiness factor that I at one point might have been accustomed to. I think you're right in your evaluation that if you made a concentrated effort to pick up girls, you would probably still do just fine. But that's never an easy thing to do, and I'm with you, I hate sticking my neck out because of my massive ego. It's like even if I know that the chances of a girl being receptive to me are favorable, I would still much prefer for her to come talk to me, rather than taking the small risk that it would blow up in my face, and then have to mentally deal with that failure.

Sounds kind of silly when you write it out like that, but I'm with you man, and those are definitely the messages I send myself, healthy or not.

 

[virtuality]

I finished it with my ex 7-8 months ago, and I haven't had sex since....

I don't think my hairloss is causing me any problems, I get enough attention, it's just that I don't do anything about it. I'm holding out for someone special, I don't want to play games anymore.

I went out with a female friend last night, I know she wants to be with me. But she's implied more than once that she's looking for a serious relationship and I don't want it with her. Obviously I haven't told her that I don't want a relationship with her, she's expecting something from me and I don't make the move. I'm hoping to have sex with her without getting into a relationship :whistle:

 

[Ori83]

Actually i lost my virginity *after* my hairloss kicked in (at 25.5, was nw2-2.5)
now at 28.5 and nw4+ and cant really tell when was the last time i had sex, i think more then 6 months tho.... :dunno:

 

[Ori83]

Around the 2 year mark, possibly longer.

I can't be arsed with a women right now though or many people for that matter. Feel pretty low about how I look and I'm in a good position where I don't really have to rely on anyone or do anything for anyone or conform to anyone unless I choose to, which I rarely do and it's quite comforting.

In fact I've stopped seeing most people most of the time other than at work and I never suffer lonelyiness. Weird!

I have a feeling this could be me forever!

Mont are you married? kids? is that something that you want or think of?

 

[virtuality]

Around the 2 year mark, possibly longer.

I can't be arsed with a women right now though or many people for that matter. Feel pretty low about how I look and I'm in a good position where I don't really have to rely on anyone or do anything for anyone or conform to anyone unless I choose to, which I rarely do and it's quite comforting.

In fact I've stopped seeing most people most of the time other than at work and I never suffer lonelyiness. Weird!

I have a feeling this could be me forever!

The same here... Most of the time I don't socilise and I don't have many friends. The few people that know me find it strange. I come across as a very outgoing person, but the reality is very different.

My last girlfriend sort of fell out of the sky, I wasn't looking for one. I met her in one of the few parties that I go to, she tried to chat me up and I wasn't very interested. A few months later, I bumped into her in a bar and we ended up having sex the same night.... Basically, I didn't pull but got pulled...

I'm trying to change my ways, I even went out with a girl last night. It's not that I feel lonely, I'm perfectly happy on my own, but I do miss the sex.. If it wasn't for sex, I wouldn't even think of the opposite sex.

 

[CaptainForehead]

In fact I've stopped seeing most people most of the time other than at work and I never suffer lonelyiness. Weird!

I have a feeling this could be me forever!

How do people find it lonely if they see people at work?

I need some me time, to unwind.

After work and household chores and gym, there is not much time left.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I bet you wouldn't be getting those impromtu blowjobs or getting pulled if you were bald. All these stories are coming from full heads. I don't see any of the bald guys here telling stories of being pulled into the womens bathroom for bjs. I'd love to hear some though if they're true.

Cue the chirping crickets.

 

[s.a.f]

I bet you wouldn't be getting those impromtu blowjobs or getting pulled if you were bald. All these stories are coming from full heads. I don't see any of the bald guys here telling stories of being pulled into the womens bathroom for bjs. I'd love to hear some though if they're true.

Did'nt you and your missus split up because of something like that?

But very few NW1's get impromptu BJ's either.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Your right Monty, I'm sorry. Disregard my stupid post please.

 

[ghg]

No relationships. Women have never shown any interest in me and I can't blame them. I wouldn't want to date someone this genetically fucked up either.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Thanks, we should all be on good terms. I recon we all suffer from this so in that sense we are all in the same boat, excluding Loyd Braun of course :whistle: .

 

[Nene]

I had dated several good looking ladies in my early 20s and late teens. Now I'm 27 and I just got laid a very good looking girl after a 3 year hiatus, first time since my hair loss became more obvious i.e. Norwood 3ish.

 

[Ori83]

Lol this sh*t sucks! meh... you know at least i have this forum and threads like this that tells me that at least my boat isnt empty, though im not happy for the other passengers :/

 

[CaptainForehead]

I failed to mention I also had 4% body fat, could bench 130k yada yada yada.

God damn man!
Are you a genetic freak or something?

With a body like that, how are you still not reeling in the chicks?


Oh, my female stats: never had any, and I mean any romantic contact with a girl (in mid 30s now). Not even a date. Or even holding hands.

Beat that

Balding by 13, missing front teeth (plural, birth defect), girly voice, introvert, glasses, round face, thin eyebrows, physically weak (too me years to bench 60kg), went into engineering (almost zero girls in engineering).

:innocent:

 

[Primo]

Hey any guy can get an impromptu blowjob!! I got one before from some horny girl! I had my NW3 status clearly on show for everyone to see! :woot: but she snatched me into the disabled toilet of the club... it was good!...jus proving ucman's point,