Revelation Regarding Getting a Woman

[Scarred4Life]

I just had a revelation over the past few days. Although my thing with a woman didn't work out (see my post "I Have it Worse Than All of You") I was thinking that maybe with the next woman it would.

Then I have a revelation, ie even if the next woman was the most beautiful woman in the world, she would have to be pretty effed up, or have something seriously wrong with her to want to date, or be with me, so why would I want her?

If I was a girl friend of hers and knew she was dating a guy like me, I would tell her "there are billions of guys in the world, I am sure you can find one like him but without the hair loss and scars".

I have no desire to be with a fat or unattractive woman, yet I wouldn't want to be with a beautiful one because I know she would have to have something wrong with her to want to date me.

So there you have it. Either way you stay single or setttle. You settle for a fat ugly chick or an attractive one who is really effed up in the head. I'd rather stay single.

Kind of like the saying "Any club that would have me as a member isn't worth joining".

 

[Beingbaldsucksass]

Really? 50 years old guy with no wife and kids? Dosent it bother you?

 

[antman]

i've read through studies that men in a given community will be attracted to very similar features. Women however, are quite different, they have a much wider range of features they are attracted to. In Australia there used to be a beer add - 'A beer to all the men who pull above their weight' - and the tv would show a parade of men who look terrible but have beautiful partners. There will be a percentage of those women who 'settled for less' but it is improbable, given the studies regarding of what female's are attracted to, that all of them 'settled for less'. You may get lucky and meet one of those women who are attracted to something different.

I do, however accept the possibility that you are entirely correct.

 

[DannyBoyy]

This thread is so bull**** lmao.

 

[Mercury]

i am at a point now where having a beautiful women in my life is inconceivable. unless i am insanely unaware of some great qualities or attributes of mine, it just doesnt seem natural that a hot chick would even consider me. i actually dont even get aroused by very pretty girls anymore, i need to fantasize about ugly ones just to get off because anything more is just too unrealistic, even for fantasy.

 

[slipy]

i need to fantasize about ugly ones just to get off because anything more is just too unrealistic, even for fantasy.

same here.

i often find myself fantasizing about middle age 5/10 women doing me for the same reason. :freak:

 

[Scarred4Life]

it just doesnt seem natural that a hot chick would even consider me.

Exactly! I feel the same. What the eff would be wrong with her to consider us, and why would we want someone so effed up? I am even coming to realize that the ugly ones wouldn't want us either.

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Really? 50 years old guy with no wife and kids? Dosent it bother you?

Nope. It's not like I an do anything about it. Most of us here were destined to be alone and we were given our hair loss to make sure we stayed alone.

At least I don't have that much longer to live. You on the other hand are just starting out and have years of rejection ahead of you as you go balder and balder.

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This thread is so bull**** lmao.

The truth does hurt. Tell me where I am wrong.

 

[Beingbaldsucksass]

Our generation don't need to go balder and balder now with propecia.

I will give every inch of my body to fight it.

 

[Scarred4Life]

Our generation don't need to go balder and balder now with propecia.

Been there done that. Poor half asssed results. Plus it is not known if it works for a receding hairline which is going to affect your looks. Alos, the claim of the sexual side effects only affecting 2% is bogus.

 

[DannyBoyy]

The reason i said its bull**** is cause you think "attractive" girls who like you are effed up in the head maybe they just LIKE YOU...and you calling the girls you dont like fat UGLY chicks who are you to go round judging Women? if you dont like being judged for YOUR looks dont judge others for theirs it works both ways.

 

[Beingbaldsucksass]

Been there done that. Poor half asssed results. Plus it is not known if it works for a receding hairline which is going to affect your looks. Alos, the claim of the sexual side effects only affecting 2% is bogus.

4 months on it and not one side effect

finasteride is for preventing and not to restore, my temples are ok with minoxidil

Dont try to depress me

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The reason i said its bull**** is cause you think "attractive" girls who like you are effed up in the head maybe they just LIKE YOU...and you calling the girls you dont like fat UGLY chicks who are you to go round judging Women? if you dont like being judged for YOUR looks dont judge others for theirs it works both ways.

If il be bald il compleatly understand why woman will not attract to me, because bald guys look ugly and old.

If you can just accept the fact the looks is what mattered (and it is) you can finally live in peace with yourself

At least for a bald guy being alone is not his fault, no one can peach to the reason your alone, unlike fat guys who are just lazy

 

[DannyBoyy]

*Sigh* im not even gonna go there i said it time an time again...i cant be arsed to say it again....*sigh*

 

[Beingbaldsucksass]

What you said is bull****

 

[DannyBoyy]

What you said is bull****

I could say the same back but whats the point?

 

[Mens Rea]

OP - your revelation is based on false premises.

In short - you're wrong.

Girls aren't all like that. When you get to know a girl you'll often find they are much less superficial that you thought. That's been my experience with girls worth knowing, anyhow.

Your negative assumptions are indicative of your low confidence and lack of self value. Those things are significantly more unattractive than baldness to any girl (or male).

Many of the best alphas i know (in business and in the dating game) are ugly.

It's hard for us baldies, especially if you're not naturally a strong personality. I reckon baldness is "fight or flight" in that you can either become a winner or whittle away and let it define you. The sad thing is, IMO, that most of the guys who "whittle" away would have been losers with or without hair. That weakness would have held them back elsewhere..

Know who you are. Strong personality. Good dress sense. In shape and well educated. Develop good taste. Get a magnetic personality. You'll be absolutely shocked at the results.

I'm 26 and been losing my hair aggressively for 10 years. It's been obvious since ive been 18, probably less. Yet i've pulled loads of girls way beyond my league (physically) and currently have a gorgeous girlfriend who is a complete 10/10 person (i.e. good job, educated, well really ground, no history, popular and stable etc). I'm no Don Juan, im just a normal guy who doesn't feel inferior because of my hair follicles or lack thereof. I can joke about it and not take it personal. If someone mentions it im comfortable to talk about it. I don't revel it and tbh id love a full head of hair but it is what it is.

Spend some time on YOURSELF, and you'll be shocked how people gravitate to someone who is comfortable in their own skin. Would you be attracted to someone who isn't? Isn't it peturbing - someone who clearly isn't comfortably in themselves? Even just in a general sense - how can someone be comfortable with someone who isn't comfortable themselves? It's not cool and women hate wimps. Women want a man who is assertive and knows who is he, what he likes and what is doesn't.

See to it man. YOLO

 

[DannyBoyy]

OP - your revelation is based on false premises.

In short - you're wrong.

Girls aren't all like that. When you get to know a girl you'll often find they are much less superficial that you thought. That's been my experience with girls worth knowing, anyhow.

Your negative assumptions are indicative of your low confidence and lack of self value. Those things are significantly more unattractive than baldness to any girl (or male).

Many of the best alphas i know (in business and in the dating game) are ugly.

It's hard for us baldies, especially if you're not naturally a strong personality. I reckon baldness is "fight or flight" in that you can either become a winner or whittle away and let it define you. The sad thing is, IMO, that most of the guys who "whittle" away would have been losers with or without hair. That weakness would have held them back elsewhere..

Know who you are. Strong personality. Good dress sense. In shape and well educated. Develop good taste. Get a magnetic personality. You'll be absolutely shocked at the results.

I'm 26 and been losing my hair aggressively for 10 years. It's been obvious since ive been 18, probably less. Yet i've pulled loads of girls way beyond my league (physically) and currently have a gorgeous girlfriend who is a complete 10/10 person (i.e. good job, educated, well really ground, no history, popular and stable etc). I'm no Don Juan, im just a normal guy who doesn't feel inferior because of my hair follicles or lack thereof. I can joke about it and not take it personal. If someone mentions it im comfortable to talk about it. I don't revel it and tbh id love a full head of hair but it is what it is.

Spend some time on YOURSELF, and you'll be shocked how people gravitate to someone who is comfortable in their own skin. Would you be attracted to someone who isn't? Isn't it peturbing - someone who clearly isn't comfortably in themselves? Even just in a general sense - how can someone be comfortable with someone who isn't comfortable themselves? It's not cool and women hate wimps. Women want a man who is assertive and knows who is he, what he likes and what is doesn't.

See to it man. YOLO

EXACTLY dude couldnt off said it better but most here are to far gone to be reasoned with if you try you are a troll like i have been called couple off times you cant win they keep bringing other stuff into like maybe you are not short or the women you get are "ugly" etc etc its just negative negative negative from most off them...its quite pathetic really.

 

[resu]

Good luck getting a "magnetic personality", you are what you are.

 

[DannyBoyy]

"You are what you are." yep shame most cant see that here though they are to busy caring what others thinks and feeling sorry for themselves and being depressed as if its gonna change things...shame really.

 

[Scarred4Life]

The reason i said its bull**** is cause you think "attractive" girls who like you are effed up in the head maybe they just LIKE YOU...and you calling the girls you dont like fat UGLY chicks who are you to go round judging Women? if you dont like being judged for YOUR looks dont judge others for theirs it works both ways.

Welcome to Fantasy Island. Sure a girl may like you. That's what's called a friend. Being bald is what is going to keep you as a friend and nothing more.

I can judge fat ugly chicks because that is how I see them. Telling myself they aren't fat or ugly when they are doesn't change it. You prove my point. I don't want a fat or ugly chick, so I completely understand why a hot chick wouldn't want me. I am willing to accept that. I know I am judged based on my lack or hair and that is the way it is. Me not judging others isn't going to change that.

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"You are what you are." yep shame most cant see that here though they are to busy caring what others thinks and feeling sorry for themselves and being depressed as if its gonna change things...shame really.

Just like the bald guys yelling "bald is beautiful" when they are the only ones who think it is. They are delusional. They are fooling themselves. Hot women don't want them and them thinking they are beautiful isn't going to change that. It is one thing to have self confidence. It is another to kid yourself.

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OP - your revelation is based on false premises.

In short - you're wrong.

Girls aren't all like that. When you get to know a girl you'll often find they are much less superficial that you thought. That's been my experience with girls worth knowing, anyhow.

Bull, girls are exactly like that. They want attractive guys. Look at any forum polls that ask women if they want a bald guy. The vast majority will say they don't. A few will say they will tolerate or accept it. None say bald is beautiful.

I'm 26 and been losing my hair aggressively for 10 years. It's been obvious since ive been 18, probably less. Yet i've pulled loads of girls way beyond my league (physically) and currently have a gorgeous girlfriend who is a complete 10/10 person (i.e. good job, educated, well really ground, no history, popular and stable etc).

Why is it the guys who claim hair loss doesn't affect them getting women always have had "loads of them". If they thought anything of you, then why are they leaving? Why are you constantly having to replace them?
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[Night]

I went out with a girl today and there was a NW5v dude in front of use with his girlfriend. Good looking girl and the dude just had his hair buzzed. Just living life. Sorta made me feel ****ty being depressed about some thinning hair when this guy is farther gone then me.

As far as hair getting women... I think I have to work on getting in shape and actually being good talking to women... I don't think hair matters to them as much as we all think, but it DOES matter to me. I like my hair. So I'm saving it for myself, not some stupid b**ch at a club.