Should you just give up on dating as an ugly/bald/short male?

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I had a girlfriend a few years ago. looks wise she was average one could even say ugly (my friends said she was)
she cheated on me then monkey branched to a super chad NW1.
I think something in me died that day.
even having a below average gf didnt stop her from leaving me for a really good looking guy who just wanted some fun for a while


since then ive been using dating apps on and off results arent great due to my looks.
it just doesnt seem worth it anymore
spending so much time and energy swiping and talking to girls
trying to make myseld and hair look goood
for a small chance to get laid or anything.

whats the point?
 
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Answer me this, what exactly does a short, bald, ugly male want? Suppose you want love, why should anyone sacrifice their happiness staring at your grotesque hairline every morning when she could wake up to a full head of hair beside her? No, that is not something you should want for another human being.

You should think back to the olden times, what did the average Norwood do back in the old western working days? He'd lay with a working woman. So follow their footsteps, pay for your pleasure and seek other forms of happiness. You suffer because in these times everyone has their own main character syndrome. You want the pretty lady and a good life - and not just any pretty lady, but an ever-loving one. You don't DESERVE that because of your genetics, know your place. You aren't the main character, hell, nobody is.

And ditch dating apps, I don't even know how man can fall so low as to need to use that. Your whole face (and hairline) and life swatted away like a fly by so many girls. Where's your honor boy, you shedding your hair doesn't mean you should shed your pride too
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Thanks for the non bullshit/straight up answer.

The problem is a few years ago I experienced a relationship. I got to experience the love, sex and dating experience I've only ever seen in movies or seen my friends/family members do. I was heart broken for a very long time because there were so many things I wish I did with her before it ended. Due to my horrible genetics I don't think this will ever happen again.

I know women don't want to be with someone with my awful genetics. I've been with working women and it's ok but it's not even close to want I used to have and it makes me feel bad thinking about that after.

Also when I was having a relationship I seemed to just feel better overall. I know I don't deserve a pretty lady and the good life, but I can't turn off human nature and desire ? I want what I used to have but at the same time i know my chances of that happening again are 0. So i'm at the point of just giving up and accepting it. What more can I do?

Yea i'll delete dating apps just makes me depressed
 
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I miss the better days too. In fact I never thought I'd ever get as far in life as to experience diffuse to the point where I'm uncomfortable having longer hair than 6". My hair WAS me, I WAS my hair. And with that raven black mane I experienced nothing short of a dream. Yeah I had fun with a few gorgeous girls, but that's not what I really miss, what I miss is that one real relationship I had. The one that laid down with me under the moonlight and we'd just stare at the swaying branches. I miss how sensitive my scalp was when she'd run her hand through my hair. Yes, I miss having someone to make beautiful memories with. It will never happen again, not because of my volume loss, but because I'm older now and it's not possible to feel the same. I think we just miss our youth, and it's a senseless thing to do.

Time just has a way of watering your spirit down, like the frog in boiling water experiment. It doesn't notice how bad things are because the temperature rises slowly, the frog just keeps adapting. Temperatures that would have bewildered it at the beginning are accepted now because it just kept getting used to small changes. I certainly thought I'd be dead before I lost my glorious mane, but here I am, because when you're at the precipice of death you realize how much you value the little things in life.
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too many feels in one post
 
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Bro, at this point I think your problem is not your baldness, its your f*****g dogshit ex whom you can't get over.
But I agree with you.
Dating as a bald guy is like going to war with a slingshot.
 
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Feelsbadman said:
i am over her i domt care but if ur very ugly and bald it was like a once in a lifetime thing so naturally you think about it
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Bro, I went from prettyface popular highschool/uni dude with shitload of woman attention (but with approach anxiety and shyness issues) to "guy who looks like a dickhead" who barely can make a whale interested in him. Imagine how its for me.
At least I enjoyed it a bit while it lasted.
Imagine I even had the option to reject women that I didn't like.
We're in this miserable dogshit life together.
 
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UnLuckyLuciano said:
Bro, I went from prettyface popular highschool/uni dude with shitload of woman attention (but with approach anxiety and shyness issues) to "guy who looks like a dickhead". Imagine how its for me.
At least I enjoyed it a bit while it lasted.
Imagine I even had the option to reject women that I didn't like.
We're in this miserable dogshit life together.
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how do you cope?
 
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@Feelsbadman no matter how ugly you are, a good haircut, some nice clothes and getting in shape can get you an above average girl.

Assuming you actually have a job and some financial means.

I have seen some short, ugly guys get good women because they had a nice button down shirt, pants, everything proportioned, and that slick hair style with the sides short and the top longer. Of course the hairline has to be on point for this. And of course you can't be socially inept, need to learn some how to be witty/tell some jokes.

I'm diffuse enough that I can sport nothing but a buzzcut. My hairline is see through, and my crown is heavily balding...I don't think anyone has seen your hair so they can't comment on what it is.

How much have you paid for a haircut in the past? Go to a proper barber and pay for a good haircut. Save up for a transplant if your hairline is an island and Norwood 3 or worse.

If you are a Norwood 2, you have no excuse except laziness.
 
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whatintheworld said:
@Feelsbadman no matter how ugly you are, a good haircut, some nice clothes and getting in shape can get you an above average girl.

Assuming you actually have a job and some financial means.

I have seen some short, ugly guys get good women because they had a nice button down shirt, pants, everything proportioned, and that slick hair style with the sides short and the top longer. Of course the hairline has to be on point for this. And of course you can't be socially inept, need to learn some how to be witty/tell some jokes.

I'm diffuse enough that I can sport nothing but a buzzcut. My hairline is see through, and my crown is heavily balding...I don't think anyone has seen your hair so they can't comment on what it is.

How much have you paid for a haircut in the past? Go to a proper barber and pay for a good haircut. Save up for a transplant if your hairline is an island and Norwood 3 or worse.

If you are a Norwood 2, you have no excuse except laziness.
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Im NW6 since 25 years old and I cant afford (probably) 2 transplants that will probably cost me around 10-12k euros.
Apart from rope, what can I do ?
 
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whatintheworld said:
@Feelsbadman no matter how ugly you are, a good haircut, some nice clothes and getting in shape can get you an above average girl.

Assuming you actually have a job and some financial means.

I have seen some short, ugly guys get good women because they had a nice button down shirt, pants, everything proportioned, and that slick hair style with the sides short and the top longer. Of course the hairline has to be on point for this. And of course you can't be socially inept, need to learn some how to be witty/tell some jokes.

I'm diffuse enough that I can sport nothing but a buzzcut. My hairline is see through, and my crown is heavily balding...I don't think anyone has seen your hair so they can't comment on what it is.

How much have you paid for a haircut in the past? Go to a proper barber and pay for a good haircut. Save up for a transplant if your hairline is an island and Norwood 3 or worse.

If you are a Norwood 2, you have no excuse except laziness.
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this is good in theory but not real life a haircut and being in shape doesnt change height and face
 
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Feelsbadman said:
this is good in theory but not real life a haircut and being in shape doesnt change height and face
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Actually it does quite a bit. Stop being a cheapass and get a good haircut, and instead of bitching all the time here lets see your hair so we can know what you actually present yourself with in public.

Good hair creates a halo effect which makes your other facial attributes look better. The same principle applies for women that have nice hair.
 
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