tempted to tell girl ive been dating that im on finasteride

[big_head]

guys i done ****ed up

-solid erection during makeout session.

- as soon as she whipped it out to suck it, started losing my erection

- she was embaressed and thought i wasnt physically attracted to her

-didnt know what to say so told her its prob performance anxiety.

- ended up telling her i tried my brothers propecia for a week this week because ill eventually have to consider it in the future.

- she looked at my head and said what are you even saying youre not losing your hair

- im an idiot because im pretty sure what i experienced is performance anxiety and not related to finasteride considering i still get frequent morning woods and jerk off 3-4 times a week.


final question, should i still pursue or just give this bish up? shes still into me and is more self conscious about the fact that she wasnt able to sexually stimulate me.

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p.s her head game was NOT on point. she kind of gave me a look of insecurity when she looked into my eyes and put her mouth on it, as if she was very nervous

LOL you went beta by trying to re-assure her. You should have just started eating her out or something man...look if you're attractive enough to get this girl, you're attractive enough to get other girls of her caliber. Start chatting up other women. Once you know you have options, your anxiety with this chick will fade.

You're anxious because you're putting all your eggs into one basket here.

 

[1knox1]

'Beta' what even is that? A girl either likes you or she doesn't.

 

[shookwun]

'Beta' what even is that? A girl either likes you or she doesn't.

She did like him, but the impression he left could mean she will go different ways. Some girls put high value on sexual experience, and that can be the deciding factor on whether they even want to see you again. But it varies, a lot of women are forgiving but the ones who are sexually active might not.

His behavior was beta meaning he needs to reassure her of his capabilities, and worth.

I lold at justifying yourself. Should of just pulled out, and carried on doing some thing else.

 

[abcdefg]

Why does she need to know if she never asked? Is it some critical issue she needs to know? she probably doesnt honestly care anyways its a guy problem

 

[wanderkid]

Honestly I can understand that intentions are good but I'm gonna go with what other people are saying and say keep your secrets. More bad things can come from telling her than if you waited long enough for her to notice (if it ever gets that bad)

 

[wblastyn]

It's none of her business. Not dating someone because they're bald seems a bit shallow tbh. However, she might not care if she gets to know you first.

 

[P_AC1999]

Maybe you should tell her. Trust me, it will really suck if she eventually discovers that you are balding and never told her anything (you said she'd never go for a balding guy). She just might not be the girl for you, and it might be really bad to hear that. She might be thinking that it's just a mature hairline for now since almost nobody gets to keep their juvenile hairline, but if she eventually sees your thin forelock you might be screwed.

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It's none of her business. Not dating someone because they're bald seems a bit shallow tbh. However, she might not care if she gets to know you first.

SHALLOW? Bald looks terrible in 90% of people, would you go for an ugly and obese girl? Of course you wouldn't, it's just nature. Don't you think being attracted by hot girls should be a bit shallow too? I'm sorry to say that but people have preferences, some people would never date a slightly overweight girl while some wouldn't mind. Hair shapes your face In a great way depending on your haircut, and it's one of the first things girls notice on a guy. Being bald is no different than being slightly overweight or having a bad nose... It just ****s up your face and sometimes it's really hard to tell how you would look if you still had hair.

 

[g.i joey]

Well she's slept over and seen my hair after a night of being in my bed... anyways were still talking I'm pretty sure she doesn't really care at this point because she's still texting me every day and trying to see me so I'm just gonna pretend like this never happened lol... and plus how stupid could someone be saying "I'm balding so you might wanna reconsider this.. I'm pretty sure she noticed I have a big forehead loll

 

[P_AC1999]

Well she's slept over and seen my hair after a night of being in my bed... anyways were still talking I'm pretty sure she doesn't really care at this point because she's still texting me every day and trying to see me so I'm just gonna pretend like this never happened lol... and plus how stupid could someone be saying "I'm balding so you might wanna reconsider this.. I'm pretty sure she noticed I have a big forehead loll

There might be no reason to tell her then...

 

[dr75]

Did you end up telling her? I'm facing a similar situation so other people's experiences might be useful.

 

[g.i joey]

Did you end up telling her? I'm facing a similar situation so other people's experiences might be useful.

I did and instantly regretted it, kept wondering if it changed her perception of me, but tbh from the way she acted it didnt seem like it did. Luckily the relationship lasted like 7 months and i just couldnt be dating someone at the time, kept harrassing me about our relationship "evolving" and i ended it with her.

My opinion based on experience, dont ever bring up treatment about hair loss, just brush it off if the subject is brought up.

 

[optimisttt]

Hey everybody, like always i just wanna add my opinion and experience; when i was 15 i took accutane, everybody knew it, nobody judged me for it, i had acne, i wanted to solve the problem so i took a pill, that's it, didn't even think about hiding it. we don't have to feel bad about it, actually everything we do with confidence, people will see it diferently than if we hide ourselves etc.. don't know how to explain, but life is like this, if we believe in ourselves, people will do too, if you hide to take your pill, most likely, and believe me it's true, they won't understand why, they would think, who is this creepy guy. again trust me, ONLY the guys with the same issues are gonna react differently.

I KNOOOOW it's hard when it comes to hairloss, we don't want people to know we lose our hair and might end up like bruce willis without money and fame. and i'm saying all this but i still strugle with it too, first i didn't want anybody to know, even my mom and now actually the people i don't want them to know are my friends i grew up with, i don't know why, but it will come eventually, that's the way i am.
But for everybody else i don't care, especially with girls, i travel a lot and meet a lot of people, i like to experiment and study my social interactions and sh*t, and when in a group of like 4 guys freshly met, hairloss come into the conversation and i say i lose mine, laughing about it and with confidence (even if it's not real confidence, it's gonna morph into real one) then i'm so liberate with them afterward and feel aven more confortable, just think about it, get out of your comfort zone of hiding everything and you'll feel even more confortable.

also as i read here, when you failed with your erection, you definitely should have eat the pussy like it was your last meal on earth, it's what i do, since i do have p**rn induced ED, 4 times on 5 i can't get erect, it will change when i'll stop p**rn, but damn it's hard.

But someone said p**rn induced ED is different from the erection problems that propecia could cause,so i'm going to start really soon.

Sorry for this loooong text, but i'm bored asf

 

[optimisttt]

and gi joe, don't think about how her perception might have change and sh*t, you missing the point right here, change your perception of yourself, people will adopt the same perception, just work on it.

 

[JohnOKelly]

What Goldee Lox said, never share your secrets with anyone; especially a girl.
Never ever appear insecure to your girlfriend, no matter what.
Seriously.
People tend to exploit your insecurities once they become aware of them.

You will never have a good relationship if you can't share something as simple as being concerned about balding and taking finasteride with your girlfriend. If it's someone you are just dating, then no, no reason to say anything, however someone you are actually in a relationship with... you need to be able to talk about anything and everything or it just won't work.

 

[optimisttt]

You will never have a good relationship if you can't share something as simple as being concerned about balding and taking finasteride with your girlfriend. If it's someone you are just dating, then no, no reason to say anything, however someone you are actually in a relationship with... you need to be able to talk about anything and everything or it just won't work.

Thank you

 

[Neverhadabuzzcut]

I think finasteride ED can often be psychological. The night I lost my virginity I was nervous and I couldn't get it up. We fell asleep and I woke up later with morning wood and our sex was fine. When I started taking finasteride, I was so worried about sides that I got ED after taking .3 mg a day for 3 days. I got scared and stopped. But a couple weeks later I quelled my anxieties by reading successful finasteride stories and now I've been taking it for 2 weeks with no sides whatsoever.

If she likes you she likes you. I'm not too good at girl advice haha but if she still talks to you and wants to feel attractive to you after telling her about taking Propecia then it's probably fine. If she judges and dislikes your insecurities about balding then there's not much you can do except find someone who does.

 

[Razzabo]

I think finasteride ED can often be psychological. The night I lost my virginity I was nervous and I couldn't get it up. We fell asleep and I woke up later with morning wood and our sex was fine. When I started taking finasteride, I was so worried about sides that I got ED after taking .3 mg a day for 3 days. I got scared and stopped. But a couple weeks later I quelled my anxieties by reading successful finasteride stories and now I've been taking it for 2 weeks with no sides whatsoever.

If she likes you she likes you. I'm not too good at girl advice haha but if she still talks to you and wants to feel attractive to you after telling her about taking Propecia then it's probably fine. If she judges and dislikes your insecurities about balding then there's not much you can do except find someone who does.

Psychological my ***.

 

[Trichosan]

Well she's slept over and seen my hair after a night of being in my bed... anyways were still talking I'm pretty sure she doesn't really care at this point because she's still texting me every day and trying to see me so I'm just gonna pretend like this never happened lol... and plus how stupid could someone be saying "I'm balding so you might wanna reconsider this.. I'm pretty sure she noticed I have a big forehead loll

Please post pictures of her, with or without clothes so the forum can properly advise you. All parameters have pretty much been exhausted until then. Thank You for sharing.