The Girl Of My Dreams Dumped Me...a Wake Up Call To Get On The Big 3

[Marky]

@PappinAce , @Marky , about a year and a half. Maybe I did project some insecurity unknowingly, for instance whenever we would watch a movie I would always be sure to get up at the same time she did so she couldn't see the top of my head...I would say I need to go to the bathroom or some stupid excuse like that.

I also wouldn't really let her touch my head, obviously to disrattle the "illusion" of my ever increasing combover...but again these things were subtle and besides that I didn't do anything different.

So I agree, some of it was my fault I guess, overall it is just a terrible situation.

The fact that you felt you had to act like that to hide it tells me the relationship was not solid.

If you are good at reading people sometimes their eyes give them away, even if there words say one thing, body language can say another, but the eyes are really hard to hide how you feel.

 

[Bigbone]

I'm not saying it's not beacuse of the hair. But honestly, nothing lasts forever. I've done the same thing, I had the most beautifull girl, I still think shes a 10/10. But after 4 years together I got tierd of it, everybody will. After a while It's all habits and good friendship especially if you're young. Shes still the only girls I've ever loved and still it didn't last.
Like i said, it might be your hair but I know that everyone that sticks around this forum blames everything on the hair, and i mean everything possible. Even the guys who never even touched a girl before baldness.

 

[Bigbone]

I missed the joke. Bruv, explain please.

 

[Marky]

I'm not saying it's not beacuse of the hair. But honestly, nothing lasts forever. I've done the same thing, I had the most beautifull girl, I still think shes a 10/10. But after 4 years together I got tierd of it, everybody will. After a while It's all habits and good friendship especially if you're young. Shes still the only girls I've ever loved and still it didn't last.
Like i said, it might be your hair but I know that everyone that sticks around this forum blames everything on the hair, and i mean everything possible. Even the guys who never even touched a girl before baldness.

Yep the longevity factor is a biggie - and the hair just compounds it. Seems like best way to do things is be in your late 20's early 30's find someone you like, date 1-2 years, get married and have a family right away to hold you guys together.

Everything before that, and without the intention of that - is just relationship foreplay that doesn't lead to anything except wasting your time and setting yourself up for the dropping of the proverbial hammer. Timing in life is everything.

 

[shookwun]

It's the hair. Stop being in denial @Bigbone

He's 6'5, in good shape, Educated, has a decent job I am assuming, and is relatively handsome



OH DERP, I wonder what it is, must be his lack of confidence, and ambitions.



Time to get ripped, visit turkey for a transplant & take frequent trips to Thailand for sight seeing interests.

 

[whatintheworld]

I've read some of the posts from that Fred guy that looks are of utmost importance...I'm starting to think he was on to something. Even if I was "good-looking", hair just creates such a halo effect that it over matches a lot of other things.

A good haircut can make a huge difference. I feel like if any guy in the world gets that undercut pompadour haircut, he can instantly be good looking haha (maybe that's my inherent jealousy now saying this...).

I mean, to be honest, if I wasn't physically attracted to this girl I wouldn't have been with her, so as much as it pains me to admit, I understand why her attraction could have fell because of this.

 

[Bigbone]

Yep the longevity factor is a biggie - and the hair just compounds it. Seems like best way to do things is be in your late 20's early 30's find someone you like, date 1-2 years, get married and have a family right away to hold you guys together.

Everything before that, and without the intention of that - is just relationship foreplay that doesn't lead to anything except wasting your time and setting yourself up for the dropping of the proverbial hammer. Timing in life is everything.

It's not a waste of time. The first two years of the relationship are the best of my life so far. But there is no point in trying to chase those times again, beacuse it's not going to happen. I'll rather keep it as a memory.

It's the hair. Stop being in denial @Bigbone

He's 6'5, in good shape, Educated, has a decent job I am assuming, and is relatively handsome



OH DERP, I wonder what it is, must be his lack of confidence, and ambitions.



Time to get ripped, visit turkey for a transplant & take frequent trips to Thailand for sight seeing interests.

How am i in denial? I unlike most people here know about the importance of looks. Thats why I'm promoting hair systems for advanced balders, beacuse all that matters is how you look, how people treat you and the thought of that girls wants to f*** you. What I'm saying is that most people here claim that hair loss is their only issue when it's not. Give them hair they still wont get laid.

 

[FootyStar]

Even if I was "good-looking", hair just creates such a halo effect that it over matches a lot of other things.

A good haircut can make a huge difference. I feel like if any guy in the world gets that undercut pompadour haircut, he can instantly be good looking haha (maybe that's my inherent jealousy now saying this...).

It's true that the halo effect of hair is extremely powerful and good work tackling it ASAP.

As much as people like to deny it, people love and worship hair as it is a sign of youth and good health. If you manage to maintain a full head of hair, you will look good for the vast majority of your life.

 

[shookwun]

I've read some of the posts from that Fred guy that looks are of utmost importance...I'm starting to think he was on to something. Even if I was "good-looking", hair just creates such a halo effect that it over matches a lot of other things.

A good haircut can make a huge difference. I feel like if any guy in the world gets that undercut pompadour haircut, he can instantly be good looking haha (maybe that's my inherent jealousy now saying this...).

I mean, to be honest, if I wasn't physically attracted to this girl I wouldn't have been with her, so as much as it pains me to admit, I understand why her attraction could have fell because of this.

It's the hair bro,


Hair creates such a massive halo effect on your attractiveness. The right style can easily boost you by 25-50%


I see a lot of good looking guys in my gym. Typical balding-hat type prisoners. With a hat on they look amazing, without you wouldn't even notice them. Despite having a great physique, it becomes irrelevant.

Hair is the reason. I wouldn't try to dellude yourself into thinking other reasons. Like you said, you have everything else going for you on a moderate to upper end scale.


Focus on yourself, get ripped, and get a transplant. Then pull, and slay.

 

[Jimbo5]

A smart 6-5 broad-shouldered hunk couldn't lock down a lil hottie, eh.

Do you realize what you're doing to some of the members here, whatintheworld??? lol

 

[hairblues]

It's the hair. Stop being in denial @Bigbone

He's 6'5, in good shape, Educated, has a decent job I am assuming, and is relatively handsome



OH DERP, I wonder what it is, must be his lack of confidence, and ambitions.



Time to get ripped, visit turkey for a transplant & take frequent trips to Thailand for sight seeing interests.

It could be the hair....

but also he's 24 i assume shes around same age--you just can go off people in your 20s for no real significant reason...weather its hair or you sneezed wrong. Does not matter you can be deeply in love and wake up and just not feel it and that grows.

You don't normally marry the person you are going out with and in love with in very early 20s.

I mean you can but most likely it won't last.

 

[whatintheworld]

Haha guys, like I said, I only mentioned the other things about me because I wanted to emphasize that they don't matter. The guy in my avatar, manu ginobili, is a pro basketball player and I pretty much looked like a brown-haired young version of him.

That thick pompadour haircut simply beats out any other positive attribute a person can have (looks wise).

 

[blackg]

There must've been some signs you noticed leading up to the break up.

Even subtle changes in her rhythm or behavior that raised red flags. How long were you dating?

Yeah, I agree. How was the sex before she left you, whatintheworld?

 

[F2005]

To the OP: you said that you believed in ideals over reality and that came back to bite you. I am really sorry that your girlfriend broke up with you. Lots of people who have never experienced hair loss will do the same. They'll think in idealistic terms, believing that a person's' heart is the most important thing in attracting a mate. It sounds all flowery and full of wisdom, but in today's extremely visually-conscious world, absolutely nothing could be further from reality or the truth. Outer looks really are the most important thing, and by far. You don't know how many times I've seen attractive people exhibit insane behavior and talk out of their asses. Yet they still are never lonely and can always get attractive mates, who will put up with their bad behavior, all because they are extremely attractive people. This phenomena is even more pronounced with women because of guys' insatiable desire to get laid. Buckthorn once said: Women's possession of a vagina + guys craving vagina more than anything in this world = women's ability to manipulate. Lots of women know that they can get away with absolutely crazy behavior because their men will stay with them, all due to the anatomical structure they've got between their legs. (sorry to be so vulgar)

 

[whatintheworld]

I mean the point is, I'm feeling like *** because I invested in this girl and it fell apart...and moreso because I feel at fault because I didn't use meds early on enough, I should have known it would have mattered.

 

[F2005]

To the OP, try not to be too hard on yourself. I should've used meds much sooner but since I never really obsessed about any aspect of my looks, I really didn't notice the slightest hair loss. But I wouldn't have been able to stay on finasteride consistently due to side effects. Hopefully you won't get any side effects, many people don't.

 

[F2005]

Fred, I agree with the 3rd paragraph. Every positivity post that I see on here comes from someone who isn't even close to being bald. And the fact that they are on a hair loss forum despite having virtually all of their hair, goes to illustrate how scared they are of becoming bald, even though they aren't saying it.

Although it is far from the norm, I do see some bald, muscular guys with decent-looking girlfriends. If they came on here and preached acceptance and positivity, I'd listen to them with all ears. But not from people who have virtually no hair loss, have no idea what it is like to be bald, yet still try to preach about something that they know nothing about. Not to mention, they could probably never practice what they preach.

 

[buckthorn]

Don't worry OP, you can still get plenty of casual sex and short-term relationships. But forget about anything solid until you get that hair transplant. No hair, no love.

he;s 6'5", with a broad, muscular build and a good facial structure and you say, "no hair no love"... bullshit. just lower your standards dude. you're very, very, very, very, very lucky you're not like 5'4" or something.

 

[shookwun]

Sorry this happened to you. It was happening to me every two months when I was slick bald: "Sorry I don't want to be with anyone right now / We're too different / You're too selfish, you don't do enough for me, you don't text me enough."

Of course it was the hair.

I wonder if one day, a NW6 guy will come to this section to tell us that he's in shock after what he read on this forum, and that for him, everything is the same with or without hair. You just never see that.

All I see on other forums or reddit are massive copes that balding guys develop: "Then I shaved my head and didn't give a damn anymore, felt good, women started giving me way more signs of interest!" *Eludes the fact that he hasn't got laid once since he started shaving his head*

Hair is everything if you want love and loyalty. If you want your girlfriend to feel lucky (this is crucial in my opinion) and afraid that she might lose you.

Don't worry OP, you can still get plenty of casual sex and short-term relationships. But forget about anything solid until you get that hair transplant. No hair, no love.

Sad but true.

With todays networking, connections and social media it's more important then ever to be the better looking person in a relationship. Not so sound to 'gamish', but demonstrating higher value is a real thing. If you make more money then her, are better looking and have a good social circle (status) then she will be the on edge, not you.

But when you're balding, it's almost impossible to be that guy.

 

[shookwun]

he;s 6'5", with a broad, muscular build and a good facial structure and you say, "no hair no love"... bullshit. just lower your standards dude. you're very, very, very, very, very lucky you're not like 5'4" or something.

This is absolute bullshit the whole lower your standard theory, and believing

Nameless had the right idea. Once you get used to being with beautiful women you entire life, it's never the same.

Would rather be alone then be with someone you're not truly into. He said that himself, and I am starting to feel the same way. I dont need a women in my life for the sake of being with someone, that whole being dependent on someone for emotion is not me. If I am going to be with someone, it's a women I am crazy for.


Having sex with a women your barely into is boring, I would rather jerk off. All though when you truly like the person you're with, it's like fire works going off in bed. Sex is just awesome.