Guys I think im getting depressed. Im not one to cry about anything but im really down about this. I cant tolerate finasteride, minoxidil, RU, Eucapil, laser, top spironolactone etc. The only thing I can tolerate is Nizoral shampoo. I went to my derm, and he actually cares about hair unlike others, and he said he guesses I was just meant not to have hair. Im so upset because I have fought this battle so hard and have dealt with bad sides and contnued to pursue it but nothing to show except hardships and sides from these meds. I feel defeated. Im sorry guys but im kinda emotional right now. Im sorry
Think im getting depressed
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Lloyd Braun
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Well now, I understand the place that you are at. I go through those times when I feel absolutely despondent and the whole world seems different; mean, unfair, not meant for me. And it's all because of hair. Why why why can't I just have good hair genetics, I ask. It just isn't the same world that it would be if I did.
There's really no way any of us can help you. We can just offer kind words and assure you that we know the place you are at. I think many of us have been there. On that same note, what can't you tolerate about finasteride? Were you getting gyno or something? Or was it sexual side effects? You see it really sucks if you're going bald and you care about your sex drive. I can't even imagine if that was how I felt about it. That's a double whammy because of the nature of hair loss treatments today.
So what exactly is your hair problem. Do you have a receding hairline, crown thinning, or both? Never resign yourself to going bald because it doesn't have to happen even if you don't take treatments. The men on my father's side of the family, for example, get thin crowns and steep Norwood 2s but they don't go bald to the point where anyone would think of them as being bald. My maternal grandmother's brother died with a Norwood 2.5 and some crown thinning even though their father and brother were both bald as can be. Heck, I don't plan on going bald, even if I don't take treatments. Mind over matter, my friend.
There's really no way any of us can help you. We can just offer kind words and assure you that we know the place you are at. I think many of us have been there. On that same note, what can't you tolerate about finasteride? Were you getting gyno or something? Or was it sexual side effects? You see it really sucks if you're going bald and you care about your sex drive. I can't even imagine if that was how I felt about it. That's a double whammy because of the nature of hair loss treatments today.
So what exactly is your hair problem. Do you have a receding hairline, crown thinning, or both? Never resign yourself to going bald because it doesn't have to happen even if you don't take treatments. The men on my father's side of the family, for example, get thin crowns and steep Norwood 2s but they don't go bald to the point where anyone would think of them as being bald. My maternal grandmother's brother died with a Norwood 2.5 and some crown thinning even though their father and brother were both bald as can be. Heck, I don't plan on going bald, even if I don't take treatments. Mind over matter, my friend.
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Don't ever be sorry for being depressed... unless you have a full head of hair in which case apology accepted.
Don't feel sorry about it. 1/4 people will have a form of mental illness be it from minor depression/low feelings to schizophernia.
I too have felt with regards hair loss. When I was younger, I even avoided going to certain bars/clubs that I knew had bright lights or I would not be allowed in due to wearing a beanie or if I was having a 'bad hair day' I would cancel and not go out. Feeling miserable about not being able to go and have fun and cancelling over something which I knew was so stupid but still didn't want to.
Try different hairstyles. I am NW3 and I think a lot of my issues were that I tried to grow my hair too long like a Beatles hair cut and the first sight of wind it would blow all over the place etc. Try cutting it short at the sides and keeping some hair on top if it's receding.
If you are diffuse, you could try nanogen/dermatch. You don't need to plow the stuff on just where you notice a small thinning area - stick a few daps of it on and it can help improve your looks a lot.
Although I know that nanogen etc are only a stop gap and will not stop hair loss.
And finally you could try a wig. Some of them look fairly good from the pictures that I've seen and I think you need to be a certain type of person to wear them.
As tough as it sounds, even though I am trying to maintain my hair, I am also facing up to life with hairloss and work on other aspects of your life like getting in shape, your education, your working life and career and social life.
I felt low for a while and came to the conclusion that even if I don't look as great as I want to look - why should I not get full enjoyment out of life? At the end of life, I want to be able to sit back and say 'I tried that, I seen that, I did that'. Hair loss or no hair loss. We only get one bite at the cake.
Good luck to you.
I too have felt with regards hair loss. When I was younger, I even avoided going to certain bars/clubs that I knew had bright lights or I would not be allowed in due to wearing a beanie or if I was having a 'bad hair day' I would cancel and not go out. Feeling miserable about not being able to go and have fun and cancelling over something which I knew was so stupid but still didn't want to.
Try different hairstyles. I am NW3 and I think a lot of my issues were that I tried to grow my hair too long like a Beatles hair cut and the first sight of wind it would blow all over the place etc. Try cutting it short at the sides and keeping some hair on top if it's receding.
If you are diffuse, you could try nanogen/dermatch. You don't need to plow the stuff on just where you notice a small thinning area - stick a few daps of it on and it can help improve your looks a lot.
Although I know that nanogen etc are only a stop gap and will not stop hair loss.
And finally you could try a wig. Some of them look fairly good from the pictures that I've seen and I think you need to be a certain type of person to wear them.
As tough as it sounds, even though I am trying to maintain my hair, I am also facing up to life with hairloss and work on other aspects of your life like getting in shape, your education, your working life and career and social life.
I felt low for a while and came to the conclusion that even if I don't look as great as I want to look - why should I not get full enjoyment out of life? At the end of life, I want to be able to sit back and say 'I tried that, I seen that, I did that'. Hair loss or no hair loss. We only get one bite at the cake.
Good luck to you.
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uncomfortable man said:
If you are implying what I think you are, I totally agree. To me, there are plenty of other problems in life but none are like having male pattern baldness as a young man. Especially for me because of my autism and the fact that I fully expected to have my maternal grandfather's hair because my mom was taught in nursing school that men usually inherited their hair genes from their maternal grandfather. So she told me countless times that I was going to have good hair. I was consciously aware of how good his hair was, in fact, and I know I thought about that every time I saw him. She'd be combing his hair: "look ****y, see how pop-pop still has all of his hair. That means you will too." Although, he was a Norwood 2 by the time he was in his 70s so maybe...
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And why do you think your mother felt the need to constantly reassure you that you were safe? Like you said, because baldness at a young age is a unique problem. Of course there are worse things but the strangeness of baldness and of what people somehow think it represents makes it different in a bad way. Sorry, loosing articulation.