This is how I feel..

Dpunkz

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I swear to god, this will sound really really reallycocky but i dont really care, i need to let this all out somewhere..I just want to know if anyone else feels the same way about this...If I had a full head of hair i swear to god i could get any b**ch i wanted to...I'm not going to lie, i'm just one of those guys that looks really hott with a full head of hair like i had back in the day. The reason why I am saying this is becuase now with my shitty hair line, i probably would have no chance what so ever getting a even decent looking chick. That is how much this sh*t can affect you it is unbelivable! This is kind of hard to explain because lets just say if back in the day (2 years ago and beyond) i was not an attractive looking kid, then yeah, I really would not mind this whole hairloss thing THAT MUCH. but I am a kid that has alwyas been use to gettting soo many girls that it really makes me feel shitty everyday just thinking about how much better my life would be if I had decent hair!! THIS IS ONE f*****g DISASTER! can anyone relate to this at all? It just feels like i went from the top to the bottom over night...frikin sucks man....
 

Dakota

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I never had a problem getting women. Got em with hair got em without hair! It's all in the way you carry yourself. I don't think hair has anything to do with it.
 

Dpunkz

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Dakota i dont kno where you are from or what stage of balding you are in, but in this world you need to be good looking if you want a hott girlfriend, trust me, at least thats how it is hear in southern wisconsin
 

Gilgamesh

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i totally feel you

with my old hair, looked great
now, look like sh*t

people want to dismiss such thinking: i remember an old post that was great: someone photoshopped tom cruise bald and he looked like the vilest troll ever: no attraction left whatsoever: some guys like beckham look great bald or with hair: but some guys are totally dependent on the hair framing them

and yeah previous expectations and being habituated to a good lifestyle in the past does make it all the more difficult

also, you're narcissistic like me so nothing but perfection will satisfy you

good news is it gets easier: it really does: hair used to be my pride and joy: I would dye it all kinds of colors: spend absurd amounts of money for a male to see the best hair stylists: my hair was my identity: people knew me by my hair since it was always bright red or in some mohawk or something else fancy. people would refer to be by my hair styles rather than my name. nonetheless..thats in the past.

you will re-habituate and it won't sting nearly as much. if i can do it: ANYONE can. also there's hope in the future through surgery and such

try to maintain what you have and do research on the best transplant doctors. one day you can recapture your glory

in the meantime: the best strategy is to reconfigure your life pursuit from being a hot shot in the social scene: take your energy and put it into your career/future and pump all of your passion into this: if you had kept your wonderful hair you'd probably be too busy for this: so to make up for what you've lost, improve upon something else.

it will help your feeling of loss and create needed cognitive dissonance.

then once you can fix yourself up, you'll have a wonderful complete life and it will all be worth it
 

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I never dated a ugly girl in my life. Don't be so hard on yourself. Dude I have had this since 92 so I am no stranger to hair loss. I am a musician and had hair to my *** in the 80's. I freaked when I started losing it. I woke up one day and said what the hell i'm still me. Sure I would love to have hair like I did before. I'm telling you get a buzz cut and walk in a bar like you are the man. Walk up to the most beautiful woman and just be cool. Don't act like the world is over. Show that you are confident in yourself! Thats what they pick up on.
Shave your head or at least buzz it. If you are good looking with hair you will be without!!!!!
 

Dakota

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The part he played H.S.T. wasn't a good looking guy to begin with. If Johnny Depp shaved his head he would still be a nice looking guy because of the way he carries himself.
 

Gilgamesh

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the thing you have to realize about dpunkz (and a lot of other guys here including me) is that he's a narcissist

he wants to be that Johnny Depp type cool. the kind of guy who walks into a club and everyone turns their head.

sure you can look goodish bald: but you're just some guy: no one special

he wants to be special: and it's very hard for a narcissist to lose this need (impossible really)
 

Dakota

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Gilgamesh,
Thats all in your mind dude! I know how you feel. I have been there done it! I have had all the feelings you have had and probably more.I am telling you that the way you carry yourself means everything! Don't hide your life away in self pity. I tried that at first and almost went crazy!
Narcissist or not just try to keep your spirits up and just carry yourself like you are the best thing since sliced bread!
 

Gilgamesh

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i just think someone like dpunkz no matter what advice you can tell him needs time more than anything on his own before he can even begin to really move on
 

jfhawk06

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you're either attractive or you're not...that's the way it is. people with full heads of hair may not get chicks because they dont ATTRACT them. you can still get beautiful girls with thinning hair....it's cliche, but it's called confidence, you either have it or you don't. in my mind, there is a well-defined scale on which people are placed on, with or without hair. if you're intriguing to women, you are ATTRACTIVE to them. don't go out looking like you hate life and you're incredibly insecure and you will find women actually WANTING to engage in conversation, and the rest is up to you...the panties come off with the right approach
 

Gilgamesh

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is it really about women though? maybe it's just me, but woman eh. they're nice. but it's so much better to love yourself than have someone else love you.

id rather be a rat in the gutter with nice hair and no woman then unhappy with myself with the hottest chick in the world.

someone interviewed MOBY once and he said he'd trade all his fame and talent and success to be joe poor with a full head of hair.
moby must get plenty of b****s.

i understand what moby's saying.
 

jfhawk06

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self-perception and self-acceptance are entirely different topics than attracting women, of course. but if you have a positive self perception and love yourself, then it becomes evident to the people around you. it's all about being able to accept yourself hair or no hair. some people around here, if they had hair would be on some other discussion board complaining they have bad acne, scaly skin, or were too short or something ridiculous like that. i learned to look a little deeper and ask myself if hair was the only thing really affecting me, and it made me think about the way i treated people (sometimes negatively) and things of that nature...and it made me want to become a better person. people notice things about you that you wouldn't even think about. it's easy to tell when im talking to someone if they're uncomfortable with themselves or uncomfortable in certain social situations...and that comes off negatively. it all starts from the inside, but it becomes evident externally.

these are just my thoughts
 

Dakota

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jfhawk06,
You get it man! Couldn't have said it better.
AS FOR Moby. Glad he feels that way. Maybe when they find a cure he will give all of us poor people his money and he can go live in his gutter and be regular Joe.
The reason everyone feels this way is because it's something we can't control. If you had a head full of hair and your limbs started falling off would you trade your hair to get your limbs back?I doubt anyone would rather have hair. In other words it's not the end of the world unless you let it be! Hold your head up fellas!!!!!!
 
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Dpunkz said:
This is kind of hard to explain because lets just say if back in the day (2 years ago and beyond) i was not an attractive looking kid, then yeah, I really would not mind this whole hairloss thing THAT MUCH. but I am a kid that has alwyas been use to gettting soo many girls that it really makes me feel shitty everyday just thinking about how much better my life would be if I had decent hair!!
This statement annoys me.
 

wangho75

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hmm.. why doesn't Moby get a hair transplant?? Money is no obstacle for him. Maybe he thinks it's his identity now and would be too much a shock.
 

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I just have one thing to add.... If bald men can't get women, and baldness is hereditary, then how in the hell are there still so many bald dudes around?
 

Gilgamesh

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2young - males used to be cut a lot of slack in terms of being 'pretty'

but we're entering a post-post-modernity in which the bar has been raised and the male feminized
 

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Im only 21. Im mildly thinning in my front hairline. Guarunteed, that nobody would notice because of the way I style it. Hell, even on a bad hair day, it's not really noticable. But, Im my mind I make it the worst thing ever. Im young, but I've learned alot in the past 2 years. Looks are what they are. Your only as good looking as you present yourself. I may be going bald, but I still got these pretty green eyes that the ladies always love, and they arent going anywhere. So ya know what, youth is only going to last so long, when its over, your still the same person. If you dont have a chick, work out, eat right, shave your DOME! And move on. Thats it. I feel that when the propecia stops being effective lets say 5 years down the road, I'll be ready to lose it all. I don't think I'll care as much then as I do now. I'll shave it , and Know that I still look good. I get a lot of chicks too man, but I try to be humbled about it.
Being humbled doesn't mean think less of yourself , it just means think of yourself less.
 

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This thread made me miss my hair. :(
 
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