Hey guys, I have to say as a fellow young male pattern baldness sufferer, this forum is very interesting. This forum is like a mirror into my own subconscious. It is a cesspool of negativity where everything society refuses to (openly) acknowledge about baldness festers like a pile of rotting pig fetuses. I started losing my hair at 14 and now I will be turning 22 and have had basically a NW5 for a couple years that I buzz with no guard about once a week. Along with a whole bunch of personality problems, low self esteem, laziness, etc, I have felt really *****y about being bald (although no where near the extent as many of you). I can say at least that I am finally starting to get a hold of my mental state and I am getting on track to improve my social life.
I've come to realize that the one big, real and painful negative of being bald that really hurts is that your ability to get hookups is limited unless you have other major things going for you. Unless you look great otherwise or have an amazing personality or are really good at something, girls just won't think of you as a hot guy that they want to impregnate them. Honestly, even most guys with hair can't do this. 20% of the men have 80% of the sex and sperm is cheap, so unless you are superior in some way, you're not going to fare too well in the polygamy game, especially if you have really high standards. It sucks, but is this really the end of the world? Is having a relatively normal looking girlfriend that you find attractive and makes you happy really that horrible of a thing?
The thing that I have realized recently is what confidence actually is. It is not just some made up concept made to make miserable c*nts like us feel completely worthless, like we want to be this way, but it is the ability to do what you want to do, when you want to do it. It is the ability to face extreme fear when others cower and run. It is the ability to put in the work every day to build something great. It is the ability to not care if some people judge you and talk to people with charm regardless of some harsh comments. It is really the most important trait of being a man, and although I know it doesn't seem that way, it is infinitely more valuable than having hair.
What really bothers me is that you all act like a bunch of pathetic women. You act like the only point of your life is the sit around an be pretty and have women come choose you because you are hot. We are men. We evolved to hunt and make inventions and kill each other. You treat your looks as important as if we are girls. But really the problem is with your pathetic personalities. I think deep down we all know this, but obsessing over baldness is sort of an excuse to be a complete failure at life.
I know this is kind of a rant and I am writing this mostly for myself, but I hope I can reach some of you guys to stop feeling sorry for yourselves and realize that this isn't that big a deal. I saw one of you say that you are now over 40, but that you have been "40 since you were 17". This is so sad and pathetic, it pains me for anyone to go through life like that. Come on, you still have your youth, you can still learn and play sports and build an amazing company and even have genuine success with women if you manage to really put your mind to it. I know that I have a long way to go and that it's hard, but really you are the reason that baldness is so hated and demeaned by society.
We are men, and it is okay to be an ugly man if you are good at something, have a lot of money, are fun to be around or provide value in some meaningful way. Look at baldness as a motivation to work on yourself. And seriously it's not that big a deal. We aren't ugly fat chicks, we aren't paraplegics, we don't have downsyndrome. That would be the end of the world. So stop wasting your lives and talents and get to work.
I've come to realize that the one big, real and painful negative of being bald that really hurts is that your ability to get hookups is limited unless you have other major things going for you. Unless you look great otherwise or have an amazing personality or are really good at something, girls just won't think of you as a hot guy that they want to impregnate them. Honestly, even most guys with hair can't do this. 20% of the men have 80% of the sex and sperm is cheap, so unless you are superior in some way, you're not going to fare too well in the polygamy game, especially if you have really high standards. It sucks, but is this really the end of the world? Is having a relatively normal looking girlfriend that you find attractive and makes you happy really that horrible of a thing?
The thing that I have realized recently is what confidence actually is. It is not just some made up concept made to make miserable c*nts like us feel completely worthless, like we want to be this way, but it is the ability to do what you want to do, when you want to do it. It is the ability to face extreme fear when others cower and run. It is the ability to put in the work every day to build something great. It is the ability to not care if some people judge you and talk to people with charm regardless of some harsh comments. It is really the most important trait of being a man, and although I know it doesn't seem that way, it is infinitely more valuable than having hair.
What really bothers me is that you all act like a bunch of pathetic women. You act like the only point of your life is the sit around an be pretty and have women come choose you because you are hot. We are men. We evolved to hunt and make inventions and kill each other. You treat your looks as important as if we are girls. But really the problem is with your pathetic personalities. I think deep down we all know this, but obsessing over baldness is sort of an excuse to be a complete failure at life.
I know this is kind of a rant and I am writing this mostly for myself, but I hope I can reach some of you guys to stop feeling sorry for yourselves and realize that this isn't that big a deal. I saw one of you say that you are now over 40, but that you have been "40 since you were 17". This is so sad and pathetic, it pains me for anyone to go through life like that. Come on, you still have your youth, you can still learn and play sports and build an amazing company and even have genuine success with women if you manage to really put your mind to it. I know that I have a long way to go and that it's hard, but really you are the reason that baldness is so hated and demeaned by society.
We are men, and it is okay to be an ugly man if you are good at something, have a lot of money, are fun to be around or provide value in some meaningful way. Look at baldness as a motivation to work on yourself. And seriously it's not that big a deal. We aren't ugly fat chicks, we aren't paraplegics, we don't have downsyndrome. That would be the end of the world. So stop wasting your lives and talents and get to work.
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And that was happening when I had thick hair as well as later too, with thin hair. That just means that hair is definately not a remedy.