This life is completely useless.

[JZA70]

I wish I would get hit by a truck tomorrow. This gene should be a deadly virus that kills you within a matter of weeks.

Can someone tell me WTF is the point of living when you're suffering everyday ?

Every damn day. Never missing a day. Whether you're reminded by mirrors, wind, rain or just the way people look at you/treat you.

What are we supposed to do now ?? How do you guys deal with this sh1t ? Do you tell yourself that things will get better ?

 

[JZA70]

Fred, good advice as always though we shouldn't have to work on our sense of humour or play guitar or sports or any of that crap just to make it by.

How do you tell yourself, being in your early 20's, that you've already lived the best years of your life and that it's all downhill from here.

How can you accept that or be ok with that ? No more chasing girls, days of looking good are over even though you're supposedly in your prime.

Like WTF do we do now ? There's just no point to living anymore. That's the truth. Spencer Kobren is full of sh1t when he says there's life after hair loss.

I never knew something so simple as hair could really break a man down into pieces, but I guess that's what happens when you watch your identity and self worth get washed away slowly but surely while not being able to do a single f*cking thing about it. That my friends, is cruelty at its finest.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

JZA70, if you don't mind me asking. How bad is your hair loss? I started losing my hair in my early 20's. Was able to still pull of a decent hair style until my mid 20's. Since then I have been buzzing my hair. I definitely don't have the confidence I once had. It does suck having to go through life dealing with this crap.

 

[The Far Side]

Time for dutasteride and oral spironolactone?

 

[CaptainForehead]

In my 20s I was in denial, and thought once I was done with college/got some job I would get girls.
It was only in my 30s that I realized I will be incel for life. Quite a depressing time.

What keeps me going now is p**rn, and the expectation that I might visit escorts once or twice a year. Good food & TV is also nice.
Also, I have accepted the fact that one day if things get too difficult, I will kill myself. That makes things easier as it is up to me when I take that step.
This life is not a prison, I always have a way out, and it is up to me.

 

[The Far Side]

And a sex change?

Well judging by the tone of this thread, possibles sides might be a secondary concern compared to getting regrowth? There are people that care so much about the hair that they go to extremes with regimens, stuff like oral minoxidil. I don't want to encourage the OP to **** themselves up, but how much do they want hair? I sometimes feel the same, but I have a number of other factors contributing to the negativity (like chronic health issues...). I would have given up all my hair if I was able to continue playing sports like a normal person between the ages of 14 and 19 for example I also wonder what my friend from school with a brain tumor would think of this thread. I don't see the point in such negativity without having tried an aggressive regimen and a hairpiece and so on, and even then I struggle to do so. People are dealing with "real problems" that are far more impactful than this, and this is coming from someone on a hairloss forum who is preoccupied with hairloss and thinks it has ruined their looks...

I feel the negativity on this forum has gone a step beyond recently. The overall quality of posts seems to have gone done too. Perhaps I'm just jaded having been here a while but it just seems to be a bunch of NW1's posting pictures of their earthshatteringly bad aggressive "hairloss", or these "my life is over without hair" kind of posts. I almost miss the dermarolling optimism days.

 

[bald29]

This life is not a prison, I always have a way out, and it is up to me.

Actually, life is a prison but with the gates open

@JZA70: It's hard to say this, but I just accepted the fact that my life will have no women for now.

What keeps me going is doing stuff for myself, without relying on dating or sex for happiness. This is hard to accept at such a young age, but once you accept it, you'll see that life is a lot more than chasing women. I like to see it as something temporal though, I believe that a few years down the road there will be a cure or better treatments --although I also dream about finasteride and minoxidil doing wonders on my head and having all my hair back in 5 months -- The point is that I believe I will have hair again some day, and since I'm improving my life now that I don't date, I will have hair plus I will be a more developed person --depends on what you like, but this could be a combination of financial improvements, knowledge, better body, playing music instruments, etc--.

@CaptainForehead: About escorts, if you want to have sex with beautiful young girls, there is a point in life where you will have to resort to escorts if that's what you want. Unless you are Tom Cruise, it's hard to bang hot 19 year olds frequently when you are 50, even with a full head of hair.

 

[swingline747]

the one thing I am grateful for is my hair was decent enough until about 25 before it started REALLY becoming noticeable.
I at least had that time. But instead of enjoying it I wasted my time working, going to school, and having steady girls (mostly).

I learned my lessons but too late. My younger brother at least got to learn from my mistakes. What sucks is he will always be NW1 with zero grays while my shedding is so bad you can see my scalp through my hair with ease. My forehead is huge and honestly Im wondering if my FUE was worth it. Plus whats left is mostly gray now.

Him keeping his hair is like lifes final middle finger up my *** daily.

 

[bald29]

the one thing I am grateful for is my hair was decent enough until about 25 before it started REALLY becoming noticeable.
I at least had that time. But instead of enjoying it I wasted my time working, going to school, and having steady girls (mostly).

I learned my lessons but too late. My younger brother at least got to learn from my mistakes. What sucks is he will always be NW1 with zero grays while my shedding is so bad you can see my scalp through my hair with ease. My forehead is huge and honestly Im wondering if my FUE was worth it. Plus whats left is mostly gray now.

Him keeping his hair is like lifes final middle finger up my *** daily.

I don't think you wasted your time. If the world ended tomorrow, we could also say that we wasted our time working this year, instead of being drunk all day in some Caribbean island. But nobody knows what's going to happen, and certainly very few people can predict that by 25 they will be bald.

Also, I think that steady girls were the norm a few years ago. I was in that boat too. Today I think that people are more superficial and individualistic, and relationships have become less significant. This obviously is something bad for those with not great appearances, like us. In my opinion this is the worst time in history to be bald, because of how society responds to image.

 

[JZA70]

JZA70, if you don't mind me asking. How bad is your hair loss?

Diffuse thinning at 22. Still can pull off a decent head of hair for now. Depressing sh1t. What's terrible about diffusing which I'm sure some of you know is that you don't notice your hair is thinning until half or more is already gone. I was in denial for the longest time too. "No way this could happen to me, probably just a deficiency or something."

In my 20s I was in denial, and thought once I was done with college/got some job I would get girls.
It was only in my 30s that I realized I will be incel for life. Quite a depressing time.

What keeps me going now is p**rn, and the expectation that I might visit escorts once or twice a year. Good food & TV is also nice.
Also, I have accepted the fact that one day if things get too difficult, I will kill myself. That makes things easier as it is up to me when I take that step.
This life is not a prison, I always have a way out, and it is up to me.

Yeap, this is the life we have been given and at the end of the day, we ask ourselves, WTF did we do to deserve this.. :shakehead:

I almost miss the dermarolling optimism days.

You mean the false hope days ?

Actually, life is a prison but with the gates open

@JZA70: It's hard to say this, but I just accepted the fact that my life will have no women for now.

It's f*cked up how we just suddenly have to accept that we're going to be living half a life from here on out. Nope, cant ask that girl out because of my hair, oh cant go out right now its raining, cant go to the barber shop like every other 20 year old and get a cool haircut and feel great about myself. Nope. We literally just exist. I wonder if we could see into the future and if we could confirm that there wouldn't be any sort of help for another 30+ years, how many of us would just end it. I imagine a large majority of us still cling on to what little evidence we have that there will be better days ahead. I guess that's why we're on the forums everyday, waiting for that one thread to be posted that finally puts us out of our misery.

Him keeping his hair is like lifes final middle finger up my *** daily.

I can always relate to your story because I know of three brothers of Italian descent, two of them have ridiculously thick mops of hair but the third went completely bald still in his 20's, so when they take pictures together, it just looks so f*cked up. I wonder if people blessed with good hair genes wake up in the morning and realize just how lucky they are.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I wonder if we could see into the future and if we could confirm that there wouldn't be any sort of help for another 30+ years, how many of us would just end it. I imagine a large majority of us still cling on to what little evidence we have that there will be better days ahead. I guess that's why we're on the forums everyday, waiting for that one thread to be posted that finally puts us out of our misery.

I accepted a while ago that there is no hope.
This forum is like therapy. I cannot disclose how I feel or what I think about to anyone else.

 

[Exodus2011]

I accepted a while ago that there is no hope.
This forum is like therapy. I cannot disclose how I feel or what I think about to anyone else.

do you consider me as part of your official bald club now captain?

Btw to further cement my place, i've quit the big 3. altho i will take propecia until the end of the year just out of curiousity.

 

[swingline747]

do you consider me as part of your official bald club now captain?

Btw to further cement my place, i've quit the big 3. altho i will take propecia until the end of the year just out of curiousity.

Exodus how is your option at a hair transplant?

 

[Exodus2011]

Exodus how is your option at a hair transplant?

idk. i'd first have to **** out the money for it . i live in poverty lol, to add on to this misery

btw i'm not sure about my donor area, but at least i'm hairy with a lot of facial hair so maybe Body hair transplants will be an option

 

[SayifDoit]

Exodus you maybe the unluckiest person here, ****ing get no side effects from propecia but start it too late....
And only 21 ****

male pattern baldness is a disease.

 

[CaptainForehead]

I've got Exodus beat in the bad luck dept.

 

[JZA70]

I've got Exodus beat in the bad luck dept.

What's your current situation ?

 

[CaptainForehead]

Middle aged.
Not even a remote romantic encounter with a girl all my life.
Girly voice
NW6 since 22.
Feminine face.

 

[JZA70]

Middle aged.
Not even a remote encounter with a girl all my life.
Girly voice
NW6 since 22.
Feminine face.

 

[CaptainForehead]

Thank you, much appreciated, I have worked hard on this.

There are also other factors which make my situation even more worse, but I do not want to disclose them.