Understanding Why

[Why me?]

I dont want to be a whiner or anything but like in my previous posts I am new and never talked about my hairloss with anybody.

Now that I am in America and have a comp I feel comberfortable expressin whats on my mind to you guys and hope for some "GOOD" responses.

You know I have never been this depressed and I want opions why hairloss kills our confidense so much. When I was young I had acne and that didnt even affect me this way. Now I am thinning and I am shot/dont want to do anything.

I thought by having the "Perfect body" would overcome my depression but hairloss won that battle too. I would give up my 6pack for my hair anyday now. I got the job I wanted for a while and I finnaly got my boxing liscense but hairloss still got me all f*#$ up.

Any input would help.

Thank you

 

[Axon]

I dunno man, I can't relate. Hair loss just doesn't break me down like that. In some respects, I consider it a good thing because I was far too cocky before I started balding.

 

[Trent]

for me, its weird, for some reason I think despite loads of other qualities i KNOW are great attributes for a person to have, I always fell back on my appearance for the reason people/girls liked me and hung around me. I was able to act normally around people, be funny, etc. and thinking people really liked me for who i was, but in the back of my mind, I always thought (even before I noticed any hair loss) man what would this girl think of me if I was balding, thank god i have this norwood 0, she's gonna think i'm good for the long term since i don't even have a receeding hair line. Great husband material, med school guy with all his hair and not too bad looking either. Its so fucked up, but these are actually thoughts that i had even before hair loss was an issue. Then hairloss became an issue, and became a little noticable. I had NOTHING to fall back on. everything i had used as my confidence booster, my looks, were gone. Now everyone I saw i was sure hated me, was staring at my hair, thought i was a loser, thought i was ugly, thought i was old, thought i was a freak. This was my first two months of dealing with hairloss.

ON month five now, I still have bouts where I still think i am this huge loser and sometimes don't even deserve to live. I don't know why i think these thoughts, but honestly, i do. But most days now, i am able to act normal, and perhaps very very slowly i am become confident in other ways, through my personality. So perhaps its a growing experience. either way, i don't know if that's what you are going through, just wanted to let you know, dude, you're not the only one sitting in his room just hating himself. I know i have done it. all is can say is, its getting better, my treatments seem to be working pretty well, and i'm learning to find out, i'm a pretty good guy, even if I didn't have one goddamn hair on my head.

 

[pleasehelpme]

it's okay man... let it all out cuz keepin this sh*t inside is just going to worsen your situation by making you worry more and more..

i guess hairloss kills our confidence because people like to look good. that's the only reason why we want hair... to help out with our looks.

if you have a "perfect body", and a fair amount of hair left, you shouldn't have to worry. going to the gym constantly enough to build up the body that you want isn't an easy thing to do and congratulations to you on accomplishing that. i'm still in the process of achieving the body-type that i want.

one thing that took me a while to realize was that your hair right now is how it is... it ain't gonn magically thicken up and grow out again by you bitchin and cryin about it.

BUT with the right, positive attitude, and a good regimen, you can maintain what you have now and most likely grow some hair back!

i totally understand how you feel.. sh*t i'm 16 and hairloss has been fuckin up my life for the past few years but i'm glad i realized that worrying and bitching will just worsen it before it's too late... and even worse will consume you and f*** up your life.

i hope you get over this "worrying/complaining stage" asap. just start on a regiment.. and find the right one for you. stick with it and hope for the best. good luck

oh yeah and which exercises (i.e. bench, preacher curl, lat tower) do you/did you use to achieve and maintain that "perfect body"? thanks!

 

[smudge]

Before I started loosing my hair, I thought I was the best. I always had very good grades, good looks, and was reasonably good at sports. I knew that I wasn't perfect, but I believed all my short comings were correctible. Now that my hair is thinning, I can no longer strive for perfection. I feel inferior.

A lot of bald guys are afraid what people will think when their hairloss is noticed. I am since I know what I was like. I can remember thinking to myself in the middle of a conversation with a bald person, "Who cares what this guy says, he's bald". And now I am a victim of my own hatred... I know that I was a bad person, but I didn't care. I knew I was going to hell, if such a place exists. I just never expected hell to find me.

I don't know why I posted that or if has anything to do with this thread. It's just how I feel.

 

[hairface]

your opinion doesn't count if you are Norwood 3 +
That'S the bottom line.




















p.s: This is sarcasm.

 

[Temples]

I can totally relate. male pattern baldness has really taken the wind out of my sails.

All my life, I've been a "cute" type of guy. Not in a manly/handsome kind of way, but more of a "pretty boy". It's weird cuz I grew up in the ghettos of Cleveland and have a very street-wise mentality so it's deceptive. I have thin, blonde hair so it's much easier for someone to tell I'm thinning than someone with thick, dark hair. I always rocked funky feathers for my bangs but you can't pull that off if your hairline and temples are receeding.

It's totally destroyed my confidence. finasteride gave me horrible sides and I may have gyno. So basically 6 months have gone down the toilet as far as using the most statistically effective treatment goes.

Thank God for gourmetstylewellness.com. The boys here have really helped me relieve my anxiety and keep me in stitches. It helps to know that you're not alone, and so many of the things that go through your mind many others have felt too.

Just remember:

• Knowledge is power.

• Have patience.

• Be consistent.

• Do not give up!

Good luck with your treatments, Why me?

 

[Why me?]

Hey thanx guys your responses helped alot knowing I am not the only one feeling the way I do. I guess the real battle is accepting the fact it is happening and going on from there.

Problem I am having in America is girls here are more "JUDGMENTAL" then in Italy..... Everybody with a full head of hair think they have an answere foor you losing you hair but they aint got a clue.

Its like being the kid with acne. No fraeking crap I have zits i see myself every morning in the mirror it is the same for hairloss now. My skin cleared up now I got to deal with this. They are quick to point them kind of things out but then when they see you shirtless or shadow boxing or doing something you are good at they start hating on you.

Its like what are we supposed to do about hairloss? We are all trying everything to overshadow it.

Hey "Pleasehelpme" PM me if you want some input on a "NUTRTION PROGRAM/LIFTING PROGRAM" I will hook you up.

Once again thank guys

 

[Matgallis]

It's only frustrating to me because i can't stop it :evil:

 

[1979]

Honestly, I think the vast majority of men with hairloss are diappointed originally but learn to deal with it. What you see on this forum (and other hairloss forums) are those men that I would call metrosexuals and most likely better than average looking men who were used to being in the upper echelon of the gender esthetically. It is for that reason that we are all so afflicted psychologically by this.

One thing that has really helped me is the regimen. I'm not talking about results (although I have seen some, regrowth and all, and am relatively happy with them in what is now my 6th month), I'm talking about just attempting to do something about the hairloss. The way I figure is that I am doing all I can do for the moment. That is all you can ask. The rest is out of your control. And once hair cloning is available, I will try that as well. But I agree, I would trade in my six pack and my 5% body fat for a full head of hair.

 

[1979]

it's okay man... let it all out cuz keepin this sh*t inside is just going to worsen your situation by making you worry more and more..

i guess hairloss kills our confidence because people like to look good. that's the only reason why we want hair... to help out with our looks.

if you have a "perfect body", and a fair amount of hair left, you shouldn't have to worry. going to the gym constantly enough to build up the body that you want isn't an easy thing to do and congratulations to you on accomplishing that. i'm still in the process of achieving the body-type that i want.

one thing that took me a while to realize was that your hair right now is how it is... it ain't gonn magically thicken up and grow out again by you bitchin and cryin about it.

BUT with the right, positive attitude, and a good regimen, you can maintain what you have now and most likely grow some hair back!

i totally understand how you feel.. sh*t i'm 16 and hairloss has been fuckin up my life for the past few years but i'm glad i realized that worrying and bitching will just worsen it before it's too late... and even worse will consume you and f*** up your life.

i hope you get over this "worrying/complaining stage" asap. just start on a regiment.. and find the right one for you. stick with it and hope for the best. good luck

oh yeah and which exercises (i.e. bench, preacher curl, lat tower) do you/did you use to achieve and maintain that "perfect body"? thanks!

Buck up dude, although it seems atrocious that you're balding at the age of 16, look at it this way, you'll be in your early to mid 20s when cloning is available and will have the vast majority of your young life with many more hairs on your head. I'm 25, so I need this to happen within the next 5 years for it to have the kind of impact I'm looking for.

 

[jimmystanley]

i hope cloning is better than what some people are saying.

 

[1979]

i hope cloning is better than what some people are saying.

Why, what are some people saying?