Well...

[question7]

I realized today that people are able to tell I am loosing my hair. It wasn't too bad a while ago, but the corners of my hairline have receded quite a bit and the frontal area is getting quite thin; I can see scalp through it.

I used to just play it off that it was the lighting in the room, poorly styled or some other half heartened attempt at a rationalization. But no, the front of my hair is pretty thin.

I have been on Finasteride since October, so I have some hope that I have lost some density due to a shed, or that it could get better.

My mom got remarried when I was 16/17. We had these nice photos taken and there is one large photo in the living room of me and her. I often find myself looking at it saying "Man, look at that head of hair". I then laugh as that is something you would find an older person saying when reminiscing about their youth over an old photo. Laughter is followed by sadness as I recall that I am 19 and that the head of hair I am looking at was present two/two and a half year ago.

My life is full of other things but I still cannot help but think about hair loss. It is the first thing I think of when I get up and the last thing I think of before going to bed. I know "The Impact of Hair Loss" is full of posts like this but I believe for good reason. I confided in my mother about my insecurities regarding my hair loss and, needless to say, she didn't understand. She thought I was being overly sensitive. I believe some of the posters here will be able to relate and for that reason alone I give you my wall of text.

I wish you all luck. Going bald sucks.

 

[treeshrew]

you should post some pics, i bet it's not as bad as you think.

the propecia should definitely help. you're right around the time the shed is at it's worst, so over the next few months you should see a drastic improvement.

i'd consider adding minoxidil foam to the process too.

hairloss does suck, but you'll hopefully get over the initial "shock" with time, and hopefully the meds will do their thing.

 

[Koman]

I confided in my mother about my insecurities regarding my hair loss and, needless to say, she didn't understand. She thought I was being overly sensitive. I believe some of the posters here will be able to relate and for that reason alone I give you my wall of text.

I wish you all luck. Going bald sucks.

I also did this and my mother told me "So what? You will just cut all hair and be done with it. Nobody gives a crap!"

My mother doesn't care about men having hair/no hair, she always says how she wants her son to be a real man.

And real men don't give a crap about things they can't influence. Only weak men go into all this self-pitying game.

I kind of agree with her, so even if I lose my hair and become less attractive, I will at least have my personality,life accomplishments and other stuff to make up for it.

I actually think that if you don't have hair loss you can always find something else to obsess about and people usually do.

Only once you stop caring completely, you are free. And other people see this and see you as a great man.

 

[Boondock]

I can totally relate to this story. In probably an even more pitiful way, before I started university we had an ID card with our photos on it. I took mine when I was 18. We'd use that card for everything: to get meal discounts, to get into the library, to get into buildings after-hours. Every day I had a constant reminder of how good my hair used to look, and how much those looks were fading.

I'm a bit more over it now, and I think I've done the "grieving" for my hair. I'm at a stage now where the only feeling I have is being pissed off about it, not sad or wistful. My goals now are pretty limited: preserve enough hair for job interviews later this year, then give it up. I think once I've given up the ghost I'll think about it a lot less than I do now.