Jesus guys. Come on I made a pretty specific topic, not just another forum for you guys to bloat about and express your internalized sorrows from hairloss.
I felt the same way balding early. I didn't want to come back and see old friends looking like I had aged 20 years. Balding just didn't seem age appropriate and I think we can all relate on how it feels to be that guy that stands out in the crowd. Be it a black guy in a small farm town, or slick bald biker at a feminist rally, you just don't fit in every situation and people look at you different. Try being a NW4 college student in a hippy town where everyone grows out there hair and at least 1/10 white guys has dreads. Try going to a party looking like me and try to fit in. And I thought the same about high school reunions and just seeing old friends/family in general. I thought if I went bald I would look COMPLETELY different.
Now I'm coming to the realization that it is not so. I will still have my same face and body and mannerisms as I did before and any girl that isn't superficial or shallow will look past a little hair. Yes I would like to have my hair, but like the topic of the thread, I just could not stand going completely bald. That would just shatter my confidence to keep my head up high and display my features and personality, but as long as I can have some hair I think I will be alright. Maybe one day I will be able to cope with letting it go, but 22 was not the time and finasteride has saved me a LOT of time.
And do your research on this **** guys. Don't just think you were handed the ugly stick and are inferior to everyone. I see life as a game of trade offs, and ya we were handed balding which unfortunately is nearly disdained by society now, but there are positives to it too. DHT is the molecule that gives us our secondary sexual characteristics. And ya I got the "Whoa, your only 20? You look like such a, uh... man" comments too Fred. But premature hairloss is why I think I developed such masculine characteristics. I have prominent cheek bones, a sharp jaw line, broad shoulders, a strong brow, and a good looking c***. Lol 5AR deficiency leads to a micropenis. Thats the clinical term. Look it up and thats why I think most of us premature balders are pretty well off in the trunk trouser department. Now those are features NO ONE can ever take from me that many man would admire. Now hair can be fixed, although not completely, but science may bring us a full head one day, but like I said at least I don't look like a low testosterone softy back up bass guitarist hippy.
So I am very grateful that we have a drug that can keep our hair around, because I noticed all the same negative reactions by people as soon as my hair started falling and I held the "ooo he's going bald" appearance. Well now after treatment most of my hairs seem to be in the growth or at least stabilized phase and I don't have the "bald" appearance much anymore, just thin hair with a high hairline. I started treatment in college and got results over the summer and the girls that once despised me and turned me down would do anything to get with me. But you know what, **** 'em. I'm doing my own thing and working my *** off to get into med school. Hey I turned to the books when social life took a dive in the toilet, but I realized life isn't a party and I have a long ways to go so I may as well live it happily, so now I've retained my looks but going to continue to strive towards my goal and not let hair or girls or other BS get in my way.
So don't be so superficial and worry about that Brad Pitt head of hair to show up to your 15 year high school reunion. I bet you would get more negative reactions cuz of that from ppl saying, "ohh I heard he took drugs for his hair." Instead show up as the man with a good career, many stories, and a brain full of knowledge. That will impress more girls than "the dude" who came from his bowling tournament and takes life as it goes with ZERO ambitions. If a girl wants the man then she'll take the man, if she wants a feminine dude that looks like justin bieber and has nice hair, a soft nose, pouty lips, and a weak c***, then let her.
