Why hairloss almost ruined my life
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i cant understand your graph
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no your not, everyone is different, but your probly right on a certain level
Axon
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Eh, not everyone thinks the way you do.
I have similar opinions and ideas. My mother always pushed me academically and never, ever conceded that I did well, no matter how well I might do. Around High School, I stopped giving a f***. I came to a realization - onlyyou can shatter your self-confidence.
Everyone on these sites has an ego. Yes, we've all been in that place where we were convinced we were the smartest, strongest, fastest, best looking dude on the planet. Fact is, that was never true.
So if that idea was somehow "shattered," it's really only because you've allowed it to be shattered. People on these sites call it self-esteem issues, I call it facing reality. You may be smarter, taller, and better looking than the average bear, but you were never all that like you thought when you had that God complex as a teenager. Your still the same person, just older, wiser, and more realistic.
Because you're losing your hair does not make you any less of the person you once were, nor has it stripped you of your youth. Guess what? Soon your skin will start wrinkling, your muscles will hurt more, your joints will ache, and eventually, you won't even be here. Worrying about it solves nothing. Life strips you of your youth, not hair loss. You're not going to be 20 forever, and you've just got to accept it.
That's how I see it. Not everyone will agree, but then, people are self-indulgent.
I have similar opinions and ideas. My mother always pushed me academically and never, ever conceded that I did well, no matter how well I might do. Around High School, I stopped giving a f***. I came to a realization - onlyyou can shatter your self-confidence.
Everyone on these sites has an ego. Yes, we've all been in that place where we were convinced we were the smartest, strongest, fastest, best looking dude on the planet. Fact is, that was never true.
So if that idea was somehow "shattered," it's really only because you've allowed it to be shattered. People on these sites call it self-esteem issues, I call it facing reality. You may be smarter, taller, and better looking than the average bear, but you were never all that like you thought when you had that God complex as a teenager. Your still the same person, just older, wiser, and more realistic.
Because you're losing your hair does not make you any less of the person you once were, nor has it stripped you of your youth. Guess what? Soon your skin will start wrinkling, your muscles will hurt more, your joints will ache, and eventually, you won't even be here. Worrying about it solves nothing. Life strips you of your youth, not hair loss. You're not going to be 20 forever, and you've just got to accept it.
That's how I see it. Not everyone will agree, but then, people are self-indulgent.
springroll
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Dude,
I know exactly what you meant in your writing and it hit home with me. I started loosing my hair at 19 and at the time I went into a severe depression. Telling my friends was not an option; I don't blame them but at 19 I don't think their maturity held up to bringing up something like that. Telling my family, well I could forget that too as my mom was verbally abusive and never had one positive word. When I say abusive.....well in my case the neighbour was going to call social services so it kind of gives you an idea how severe it was. If you meet me you would never think I carry this baggage as I'm very open, generous and somwhat outgoing but when I have to deal with crisis, hairloss being one of them, I soon turn into somewhat of a basket case.
There was a posting by another chap who is signing off the board and deciding to quit the meds. He has a lot of good advice that I think many of the young guys on this board should read.
I know exactly what you meant in your writing and it hit home with me. I started loosing my hair at 19 and at the time I went into a severe depression. Telling my friends was not an option; I don't blame them but at 19 I don't think their maturity held up to bringing up something like that. Telling my family, well I could forget that too as my mom was verbally abusive and never had one positive word. When I say abusive.....well in my case the neighbour was going to call social services so it kind of gives you an idea how severe it was. If you meet me you would never think I carry this baggage as I'm very open, generous and somwhat outgoing but when I have to deal with crisis, hairloss being one of them, I soon turn into somewhat of a basket case.
There was a posting by another chap who is signing off the board and deciding to quit the meds. He has a lot of good advice that I think many of the young guys on this board should read.
elguapo
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You are right. I think the way we let hair loss affect us is dictated by the way our minds work. I, too, am a perfectionists. VERY self-critical, self-analytical, to the point where my therapist says I suffer from anxiety.
Funny, I smoked pot a few weeks ago for the first time in YEARS, and that really relaxed me. Man, if I knew that anti-depressants or anxiety pills could give me that same effect, and make me care-free, AND it wouldn't cuase hair loss to speed up, I'd take pills in a heartbeat. I'm looking into it.
But anyway, I recomment seeing a councelor. It's like the Matrix- if you asked the question, then you need to know the answer. Much like so many other things in life.
I used to associate a stigma with counceling. Now I think everybody should go, and I wish I could go more often than just once every 2 weeks.
What I have learned/admitted so far is that if it weren't hair loss, I'd be unhappy with my body- I want to get in REALLY good shape, and instruments- I am learning guitar and piano, something I enjoy, and something that makes me feel unique and "cool", or just raise my self-esteem.
To expand on the cup analogy, consider all these things to be their own little cups- for you it's soccer, school, girlfriend, fitness, etc. You can stick with the regimen and keep the hair cup as full as possible, but concentrate on the others, as you are more in control of those.
Good luck!
Funny, I smoked pot a few weeks ago for the first time in YEARS, and that really relaxed me. Man, if I knew that anti-depressants or anxiety pills could give me that same effect, and make me care-free, AND it wouldn't cuase hair loss to speed up, I'd take pills in a heartbeat. I'm looking into it.
But anyway, I recomment seeing a councelor. It's like the Matrix- if you asked the question, then you need to know the answer. Much like so many other things in life.
I used to associate a stigma with counceling. Now I think everybody should go, and I wish I could go more often than just once every 2 weeks.
What I have learned/admitted so far is that if it weren't hair loss, I'd be unhappy with my body- I want to get in REALLY good shape, and instruments- I am learning guitar and piano, something I enjoy, and something that makes me feel unique and "cool", or just raise my self-esteem.
To expand on the cup analogy, consider all these things to be their own little cups- for you it's soccer, school, girlfriend, fitness, etc. You can stick with the regimen and keep the hair cup as full as possible, but concentrate on the others, as you are more in control of those.
Good luck!
amrod
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i think it depends on the kind of person, i had a good upbringing etc
i was on about 20% pretty satisfied with life, hair loss put me to way over full glass destroyed totally everything
again its the way we deal with it, im sure if i had an illness that didnt make me look like a retard wouldnt bug me as much but thats just the kinda guy i am
also i have always been nervous that someone is going to rip my hat off and expose me in public so i can never totally relax
i was on about 20% pretty satisfied with life, hair loss put me to way over full glass destroyed totally everything
again its the way we deal with it, im sure if i had an illness that didnt make me look like a retard wouldnt bug me as much but thats just the kinda guy i am
also i have always been nervous that someone is going to rip my hat off and expose me in public so i can never totally relax