Why not just accept being bald?

[eix]

I'm at norwood 3 or so at the moment at 23 years old. It's a bit noticeable and I don't have a prominent facial structure nor can I grow facial hair so it totally wrecks my aesthetics but I just don't think my lack of hair is having any affect on my ability to find a mate. Rather, I think there are more difficult things in life rather than hair. I was panicking when I first joined this forum about losing hair but at this point I feel like it doesn't matter anymore. Is it just me? I don't know guys, stressing out over the sides, the regular discipline of going through your regime for the rest of your life (365 days a year) just seems ridiculous.

Maybe.. there's more to life than our hair, I don't know.

Have you guys ever tried accepting balding?
I'm still unsure myself but I'm wondering if any of you had accepted your fate.

 

[Cincinnati Kid]

I'm at norwood 3 or so at the moment at 23 years old. It's a bit noticeable and I don't have a prominent facial structure nor can I grow facial hair so it totally wrecks my aesthetics but I just don't think my lack of hair is having any affect on my ability to find a mate. Rather, I think there are more difficult things in life rather than hair. I was panicking when I first joined this forum about losing hair but at this point I feel like it doesn't matter anymore. Is it just me? I don't know guys, stressing out over the sides, the regular discipline of going through your regime for the rest of your life (365 days a year) just seems ridiculous.

Maybe.. there's more to life than our hair, I don't know.

Have you guys ever tried accepting balding?
I'm still unsure myself but I'm wondering if any of you had accepted your fate.

Well, bald people are viewed as inferior in generally every walk of life. It's not like you have to look too hard to see it either. It's literally anywhere you look. Just think about your typical action movie. The thick haired, handsome protagonist gets in too deep with a wickedly smart, but disturbingly ugly, bald antagonist. He eventually outwits said bald antagonist, gets the girl, bangs the girl, roll credits, everyone leaves the theater happy because the handsome guy beat the ugly guy. You might argue Bruce Willis or Jason Statham movies don't do that, but keep in mind that those guys had at least some hair when they became household names.

Or look at TV sitcoms, when they flash forward to some sort of future or alternate reality where a character sees how crappy his life has become, they throw a bald cap on the guy and play it for laughs because bald men are the modern day jesters... only existing to be laughed at and ridiculed by others. Being a bald man is like being the fat kid in elementary school. It's not nice to make fun of either, but it is still done with great regularity because they are easy targets. There is no NAACP or GLAAD for bald men. If you're bald, you're on your own. Better buck up and start a nice hat collection.

 

[eix]

This one is just too easy.

You're NW3, wait until you're past NW4 and it will be another world for you out there. NW3 is not balding for a lot of people, they just don't notice it. So you're still "one of them".

There is nothing, I repeat nothing more difficult in life than balding. Any other physical flaw is easier to fix with surgery when it's possible. A lot of diseases don't even affect your outward appearance.

Do what you want, give up on your regimen, but be warned, there is no going back, and you will reap what you sow.

It's easy to think that hair doesn't matter when you're not on the other side of the mirror yet.

I think we've all tried all sorts of rationalizations at a point, from the overused and stupid "Bruce Willis is hot" to "women dig bald guys" (even more stupid).

I've tried it, it doesn't work, it's still there (or isn't in this case). And society (and women) will go out of their way to make sure that you know your place.

From experience, people will automatically see bald guys as: pathetic, desperate, insecure, uglier, less kind and losers.

I understand where you're coming from buddy. I sympathize with what you're saying. I don't mean to put a dapper on your day or anything but to be honest when I first found this forum it was through your optimistic posts of minoxidil and the benefits that were to come. Yet I see your current state now and your final resort was hair restoration and at this point I don't feel like a regimen is really worth it from looking at the experience of older members on this forum. I can understand the stigma with bald men but at the same time what can really be done about it? I know to you I'm an optimistic nw3 that doesn't know the struggles of nw5 and you're right, I don't. But what I do notice with certainty is that men on this forum that have been here long seem to be very negative and depressed. Women don't dig bald guys as well as men with less aesthetic features but so many things come into play when you're talking about pulling women though.

And by women, are you saying bald men have trouble pulling women? Is it because they're bald or because of who they are?
Example: men who pulled 3-5s prior to going bald occasionally will still be able to pull women just maybe lower end of that spectrum.

And by saying society and women puts you in your place, what exactly do you mean? Do women and society just point you out in the crowd and start belittling you or something? Our fathers pulled through fine, I just don't see why we wouldn't be able to. But I'd be lying if I said I've completely accepted my fate though. I just can't help but feel like everything we go through, is it really worth it?

Maybe your confidence and character that got affected by your hair loss is what's keeping you from a better quality of life rather than the hair itself?

Edit: also, lol @ neg. Real classy buddy.

 

[GoldenMane]

Yeah, once the hair is gone, it's gone, barring follicular cloning (Which will be very expensive if/when it sees the light of day), all you can do is prevent. If you give up now, you will never get the hair back, even if you change your mind and decide you do want to be NW3 again. The sides are a non issue for most people, the discipline is an issue for most, but also a price worth paying for most. Some men look good bald, and once you reach mid 30s to 40s or so, women stop being so picky about you having hair. But if you're a young man, and you want to date young women, you're better off having hair. You can compensate if you're handsome, have a good head shape and shave, but most white guys aren't that lucky. Only embrace baldness once you are certain you can commit to it for life, there's no turning back.

 

[eix]

Yeah, once the hair is gone, it's gone, barring follicular cloning (Which will be very expensive if/when it sees the light of day), all you can do is prevent. If you give up now, you will never get the hair back, even if you change your mind and decide you do want to be NW3 again. The sides are a non issue for most people, the discipline is an issue for most, but also a price worth paying for most. Some men look good bald, and once you reach mid 30s to 40s or so, women stop being so picky about you having hair. But if you're a young man, and you want to date young women, you're better off having hair. You can compensate if you're handsome, have a good head shape and shave, but most white guys aren't that lucky. Only embrace baldness once you are certain you can commit to it for life, there's no turning back.

You're right, I guess I'm just getting lax from having a supportive fiancee. But god damn it guys, finasteride's potential sides are so risky and that limits me to Minoxidil & Nizoral but the gains from those two seem so limited. Can't help but feel that it's pointless lol.

 

[zzzzz]

finasteride easy as a few cents a day and popping a pill in the morning... why would I accept it when stopping baldness is that easy? finasteride isn't risky

 

[eix]

finasteride easy as a few cents a day and popping a pill in the morning... why would I accept it when stopping baldness is that easy? finasteride isn't risky

are you on finasteride? my bestfriend has been on it for 5 years and he's starting to experience severe sides and we're both swingers :| So it's kind of sad but our entire group agreed that there's something off about him and that he may be experience sides from it. Seems pretty risky to me, i'm not sure if it's just him but I am worried about the %s consumers affected by sides on finasteride increasing over the years. Couple years ago it was at 1% then last year or so it was at 2% now i hear it's at 3???

 

[zzzzz]

No I am on dutasteride which is much stronger than finasteride. My DHT is 5-10 times lower than the typical male on finasteride. My DHT is lower than castrated men, women, and at the same level of 5 year old girls. IDK about experiencing sides after 5 years, people usually get sides at the beginning. It may be something else that is causing him to be that way 5 years is a long time a lot of people change over 5 years for various reasons, just because he is on finasteride doesn't mean that is what is causing him to be different than the person he used to be. I get no sides.

2% or even 3% isn't bad especially when all the sides are temporary and go away after like 3 weeks. 90% chance of maintaining your hair vs. a 3% chance of temporary sides I think I am going with my hair

 

[The Far Side]

I don't understand how ~10% is 5-10 times lower than 30%?

 

[hellouser]

LOL @ 'just accepting'. Sure... YOU can accept. But society won't. Good luck in life.

 

[zzzzz]

I don't understand how ~10% is 5-10 times lower than 30%?

My DHT was already at bottom of the range to begin with, most people with high DHT to start may only reach as low as my personal before treatment DHT level on finasteride. For my personal level I took an already very low level and made it 10-12x lower.

Normal range for my age range is 19-72 or something, adult is 30-90. My levels were like 22 to start. My dht is probably about 2ng/dl. Most people on finasteride who have 50ng/dl (average) to start with, cut that by 70% they will have 15ng/dl, about 8 times greater than what my levels are

 

[JZA70]

There is nothing, I repeat nothing more difficult in life than balding.

Well, bald people are viewed as inferior in generally every walk of life.

LOL @ 'just accepting'. Sure... YOU can accept. But society won't. Good luck in life.

 

[Norwoodman]

Do you guys really think that being bald or receding makes life harder?

 

[BrianP]

Do you guys really think that being bald or receding makes life harder?

Makes life harder, almost impossible, miserable and sad.. why?

People respect good looks, both men and women.. Just think about when you look at a bald dude, you automatically see him as a failure in life, as a depressed, dirty messed up dude :// So u will be ****ed cuz u wont get women, men wont respect u as much, u wont get good job opportunities or promotion cuz people wont look at u for leadership.. Its just human nature, instincts are what rules us when it comes to socializing with others.. Think about the alpha males that u see on daily basis, they are always good looking or very very rich and powerful..

Unless u are a bald dude with a ****ing awesome body, like huge and a ****ing veiny ripped mother****er roided up to ur *** people will see u as bald loser :/

So i suggest that if u r rly almost bald then start working out like A LOT, eating properly and taking steroids, lots of them, thats the only way u could MAYBE make up a little bit for the loss of hair :/

 

[mr the hairy monkey]

the way I see it : if balding (when I say bald , I mean hardcore bald , Norwood 5 & above) is your most feared thing , one day it happens to you .

you got past your most feared thing , nothing can scare you anymore , that's the positive point of balding.

it wouldn't make you happy , but it would turn you into a dared person .

provided that balding is the thing that frightens you the most.

 

[resu]

Having to use adult diapers or a urine bag would be much harder than balding, I saw quite a few young men when my dad was recovering from surgery that were in that condition (prostate cancer), some were even balding. So no, balding is nothing compared to real issues, I hope with organ printing that they'll be able to have a better life soon. Balding destroys your looks and you'll be miserable but it's not the worse, to me incontinence would be the absolute worse and it's when I would pull the plug.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

Do you guys really think that being bald or receding makes life harder?

No, we just like coming around here for the good conversation.

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to me incontinence would be the absolute worse and it's when I would pull the plug.

Yeah I would choose going slick over crapping and peeing on myself any day of the week. I would think as balding guys, we would be more appealing than guys that wear diapers right?

 

[mr the hairy monkey]

Do you guys really think that being bald or receding makes life harder?

of bloody course it does for some people !

makes you lose your self-confidence and esteem , and I am only talking about you with yourself.

there is some discrimination towards bald persons in modern society.

it makes life in society harder , but if you live in some grotto or that you live withdrawn from the society , I don't think so , because noone will judge you.

 

[Norwoodman]

there is some discrimination towards bald persons in modern society.
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Maybe where you live? I do not find this to be the case in the middle of the USA

 

[dark&bald]

There are worst things than being bald. For example, I rather be the most baldest guy known to man than to be short.