I am convinced that for half of these guys, they get pleasure from the humiliation. It's bizarre but true that a coping mechanism can be seeking humiliation for guys who aren't really balding and most people into sph aren't small at all. Those are quirks about the male system that thankfully, HRT has mostly taken away. I no longer have shame about wearing a dress and hose but that used to be my greatest fear and weakness. I keep telling my family that King Henry the VIII of the eight wives and bold personality wore a dress and tights but they told me right back that once I am king, then I can wear whatever I want to.... Sigh.