Hair Loss: Everyday is a Bad Hair Day

[Agustin Araujo]

You're just living your life, doing whatever you do. Then completely out of nowhere just one day, you notice excessive hair fall from your head. You have succumbed to hereditary hair loss and/or some other kind of alopecia. Your hair starts to become thin to the point where it's unmanageable and can't style it properly. Eventually, everyday becomes a bad hair day.

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Without doubt, my male pattern baldness has negatively affected my life. My entire family is aware that my hair loss bothers me everyday. It feels like I've lost a part of myself.

Would anyone like to share how hair loss has impacted your life?

Sharing your views and experiences of how society treats those with hair loss are welcome.

 

[VeprSuper]

No affect really other than me worrying about it sometimes. It sucks that I don't have Beckham hair but my recession at my age isn't catastophic by any means. If it stopped now, it's all good.

 

[swingline747]

Well, my life was not great and everything, but I just did everything to make myself a better person and I just occasionally stood in front of a mirror and imagining what I will become with my college degree. I always had looked younger than I am, so at 19 I looked like Im a 17 year old(a handsome though), I thought that I would just become more handsome every day as I get older.
I did everything, I had a job as a waiter, earned such a large amount on tips every day, I went to the gym, trained in MMA for 9 months already(really needed to learn to fight). Future seemed so bright. I had thought that baldness would ruin my life, because I knew a guy my age whos life got ruined by male pattern baldness, but I always looked at my father who still had a thick mop at age 40 and told myself:"Pffft, never gonna have to worry about my hair...".

Then at a party I made a selfie with this hot girl with a flash and she made a comment:"wow, your forehead looks so big in this pic". I just went straight home by taxi, spent the night looking at myself in the mirror and trying to convince myself it's not true.

Then, after a few days of denial, I understood my life is ****ed up. No motivation for anything. No gym. No MMA. About to leave my job, because the tips aren't great anymore, hope it's because of my attitude, not because I already look bald.
Ever since hairloss, I remember every single disadvantage and mistake in my life. Ever since hair loss I focus on the worst.

My life now consists of styling a combover in the morning, going to school and struggling to find any motivation to study. I look like a cat's ***.

Yup, growing up I had a hard time and was bullied a lot. Only small white kid in an all minority town. Thought life was going to be great when I went to live with my aunt in a white upper class town after my parents divorced. Like Fresh Prince of Bel Air but white. Well then I was just made fun of for being poor.
High school was back in my old town but bigger and mouthier so I did a bit better and made friends but because of my awkward growing up still was not great with girls even though I was good looking. After high school I started to bloom. Played music, worked out more intelligently, was REALLY good looking and learned to become a good manipulator/charmer. Some how I always landed in relationships, mainly because I still had self esteem issues. By the time I REALLY peaked and was able to use what I had, I got a couple "decent years" but BAM.... forhead doubled in size, my temples and rear of my head started to connect and it was falling out in clumps. My gorgeous thick wavy hair was just waving bye. As soon as I FINALLY****ING was able to get my life in some sort of order then I have to fight this.
I tried Propecia off and on but it was too expensive and by the time the generic came out it was too late, I tried anyway but had awful sides.
Im with you, My day is combing over, dusting that BS Kaboki on if Im going out, and dodging wind blasts.
I tried shaving but I look awful and am told so.
Hey good thing at least my brother will never lose his hair.... oh wait thats not a good thing at all. Actually thats quite awful for me.

 

[VeprSuper]

If I ever got to that point, I think I might just shave it with a low guard. Listening to what you guys mess with to keep the illusion just seems like too much hassle. No offence to anyone, I just would prolly say the hell widdit.

On a good note, I just compared pics from now and a year ago and there is no change. Wife claims no change in 3 years.

 

[swingline747]

If I ever got to that point, I think I might just shave it with a low guard. Listening to what you guys mess with to keep the illusion just seems like too much hassle. No offence to anyone, I just would prolly say the hell widdit.

On a good note, I just compared pics from now and a year ago and there is no change. Wife claims no change in 3 years.

Nice

Well I did try to shave. For about 2 years. It was great, UNTIL you see pics of yourself. Its awful if you dont look good with it.

 

[VeprSuper]

Nice

Well I did try to shave. For about 2 years. It was great, UNTIL you see pics of yourself. Its awful if you dont look good with it.

I can understand that. I did it once and hated it after a few days. I guess my big thing is burnout. I worry some about this but everyone else thinks I am silly and have plenty of hair. I cant even get anyone to admit I am receding in real life. If I bring it up, eyes roll. Even my mom said I was crazy.
Maybe it's been so slow no one notices.

 

[swingline747]

I can understand that. I did it once and hated it after a few days. I guess my big thing is burnout. I worry some about this but everyone else thinks I am silly and have plenty of hair. I cant even get anyone to admit I am receding in real life. If I bring it up, eyes roll. Even my mom said I was crazy.
Maybe it's been so slow no one notices.

People acknowledge its happening but love to say "its not as bad as you think"
How bad do you think I think it is?
In my vids online it doesnt look horrid because I also do LOW def. In a hi res shot you can see how bad my hair is.
Like I said it prob wouldnt bother me if my brother didnt have perfect hair. Knowing growing up you could see I would lose mine but not him drove me nuts.
The worst thought is some girl thinking your "little" brother is hotter than you.

The worrying makes my anxiety go nuts, which makes my nerves crazy and then my temper flare up. Then I get depressed.

People want to say they wouldn't care if it was happening to them but ask them to shave a U in their head and see how fast they jump on that.

 

[VeprSuper]

I guess they are wearing me down to the point that even I dont think its that bad. I think they have won.

I know I have just seen videos and a pic or two but yours has never struck me as severe, Swingline. Maybe a little loss but nothing at all like catastrophic or what I would consider "bald".

Your last sentence is very true.

 

[swingline747]

I guess they are wearing me down to the point that even I dont think its that bad. I think they have won.

I know I have just seen videos and a pic or two but yours has never struck me as severe, Swingline. Maybe a little loss but nothing at all like catastrophic or what I would consider "bald".

Your last sentence is very true.

Its not norwood 6 but in person VERY evident the U is forming, my crown is THIN and temples still receding. Then you stand my brother next to me and it might as well be Tom Cruise with Steve Bushemi now. All because of Hair loss.

 

[maher]

Its a hair loss forum. Why dont you join http://www2.slybaldguys.com/smf/? o, you probably are.

 

[Exodus2011]

two 30 somethings discuss their recession. meanwhile i'm sitting here, 21 years old and fully BALD/NORWOOD 6.

okay then.

 

[Notcoolanymore]

Though you should be happy your brother has hair, my little brother seems to be losing hair at a young age and that upsets me just as much as my hairloss.

I am guessing it doesn't make Swingline feel any better that his brother has a full head of hair, but I could be wrong.

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Well, yeah... you have a point.
In Europe about 75% of males experiencesome kind of recession by age 35. So basically these 30 somethings are complaining about not being the lucky 25% of male population. :/

So although I have been dealing with this s#!t since 23, now that I am beyond 35 I should just get over it? I guess I have no reason to complain anymore because my life is over.

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two 30 somethings discuss their recession. meanwhile i'm sitting here, 21 years old and fully BALD/NORWOOD 6.

okay then.

Make that three 30 somethings now. Just because your case of hair loss is worse than most, it doesn't mean that our experiences can be disregarded. I may not have been slick bald at 21, but I haven't head a decent head of hair in over 10 years. Your case of hair loss is one of the worst I have heard of, but I guarantee there are plenty in worse shape than you. How would you like it if somebody downplayed your situation and told you that you are lucky because although you lost your hair you still have your health? I recently read a thread where on top of being slick bald at a young age this kid was dealing with a number of physical ailments. So I guess none of us can complain because somebody is always worse off then we are.

 

[MoHairMoBetta]

Knowing someone out there is worse off than me doesn't make me feel better about my situation. I still feel bad for myself and now I feel bad for them too. Hair loss sucks. I can't believe my Dad has perfect hair and I'm sitting on this forum while mine fades away.

 

[VeprSuper]

I wish I was a 30 something

 

[swingline747]

In the 30s a person has differrent things to put time into. Family, work, career, traveling, enjoying a life a little bit differrently.

Thats my point of frustration. Ive always worked, HARD. I have ZERO desire to start a family. I personally dont even want to ever get married. This makes my lifestyle choice very difficult since at my age its going to be VERY hard to find women with bad looks. If I wanted the preverbial wife and kids I wouldn't care so much about hair loss because I would have locked down one of my exes. I thought this was my time to enjoy life but theres always a f'ing blockade. I just watch my younger brother who also shares my POV on life still able to go out and meet women because hes still good looking. Ive been trying to get out of this "relationship" for some time now and all I keep thinking is, "why?", who the F else is going to be lined up to meet you? I never really had a teens or 20's, I thought my 30's would finally be my time.

 

[EvilLocks]

Hurr durr yeah my hair loss bothers me but I've learned to man up and accept the fact that I have 0.052mm recession @ 35 and I can no longer style my hair like Beckham's LOL.

Lucky you, iNeedhair.
Why is it your username implies that you actually need hair, when you apparently are only a few strands short? I feel like such a minority on a forum of males where the majority of the guys only suffer a small recession, while I have the super DUPA version of baldness @ 22 female.

 

[VeprSuper]

So Fred, is your hair coming in pretty good? Do you consider it a success?

 

[VeprSuper]

Holy frijoles! I would call that a success. Your hairline is going to look righteous.

 

[EvilLocks]

You be the judge.

6 months ago:

http://www.fredk.be/fue/day-0.jpg

2 weeks ago:

http://www.fredk.be/fue/6-months-front-bent.jpg

It's even better now, and I'm not even at the half of my final result.

I don't get it, why do you spend your days complaining about women and baldness when your hair is growing back? If that was me I would've gotten the hell out of here at the first sign of improvement. You write like you're still a bald man, but you're not, you found a way out. For someone like me I will never have that "golden ticket" out of baldness hell, even though I wouldn've paid a million dollars for it if I could.

 

[EvilLocks]

Yes, but you have to put yourself in my shoes, I haven't completely acknowledged I'm not bald anymore. I know it's hard to understand.

This is going really fast, and people were never intended to get their hair back once they lose it from genetic baldness.

Right now, it's a great feeling, I'm still questioning the state of my hair a little bit, but I know it will be full in a few months.

The best thing in all this? Not to have this feeling at the back of your mind all the time:

"What does this person think of my baldness? Do they think I'm worth less because I have no hair etc."

I didn't realise how exhausting and soul crushing those thoughts were, until I got my hair back and the voice disappeared.

Yes I understand, but to put yourself in MY shoes, I will NEVER quit that inner voice and escape baldness. Unless they find a cure. If I got my hair back tomorrow it would be like a ton of bricks lifted off of me. But I will never see that day.