How Hair Loss Is Affecting My Dating And Break Ups

[tele]

Okay I will try to keep this as short as possible because I mainly want to start a discussion and get feedback on this topic.

As I have noticed I may not have hair forever it has began to impact the way I date women. I started noticing my hairline receding about 3 years ago. Around that time I started dating someone. I was a very self conscious person at the time and this person helped me a lot with my confidence issues. Around the two year mark I started to feel that even though this girl loves me with all of her heart she may not be the one for me. For the past year I have struggled with doing what is right and letting her go. There are a lot of factors as to why I struggled with this, but one recurring thought that is literally insane, is hair loss. I feel as if sometimes I am only staying with her because she would love me no matter what, regardless of how my appearance may change as I age. I know this is extremely selfish, and have recently broken up with her because I feel that it is the right thing to do. I am ashamed that I drug out the break up for so long over my own insecurities.

Has hair loss ever affected your dating life in this way, making you feel restricted or trapped in certain situations? Also how has hair loss affected your new ventures into dating after a break up?

 

[hanginginthewire]

I no longer date or pursue romantic relationships. Don’t see the point at all until I get my hair issues sorted one way or the other.

 

[hanginginthewire]

Well I know how it feels, but at the same time, life is short and there may not be a "cure" available anytime soon... maybe you should not go that extreme.
I am not trying but not closing the door on it either.

I understand. It is a dramatic choice. For the time being I see no other option though. For me, hair loss isn’t a little insecurity, or even a big insecurity, it has absolutely decimated any shred of self esteem - at least the type of esteem that we associate with dating and relationships. But I’m not saying this to sound provocative or like it’s a cavilier decision. It’s devastating.

Anyway, I could go on and on. Maybe one day I will accept my hair loss more. But even if I do I will still be so far from the person I used to be. When you view hair loss as a horrifying disfigurement, as I do, and not just a little imperfection like ten extra pounds or a few wrinkles, it makes dating into a whole other ball game. A person with horrible facial burns theoretically shouldn’t give up on finding someone either. But....they have to be realistic. And realistically speaking it’s not likely.

 

[shookwun]

i never pursued anyone dating wise when I was balding. nothing unusual....around here

to insecure to expose my weakest fear.

sucks to when you are small, skinny and feminine looking. this was my situation when I started balding 11 years ago.


I only got my life back together once i fixed it. Now I can be myself.

 

[g.i joey]

This. I can't date seriously knowing mynlooks are in for a big change once I stop treating my hairloss. I've just been getting by coping with friends with benefits and one night stands... not necessarily a bad thing, but aside from a girl I've been seeing up until recently for 2 months my last serious girlfriend was 2016...

 

[Calchas]

I feel as if sometimes I am only staying with her because she would love me no matter what, regardless of how my appearance may change as I age.

Well, i have this too...In psychological terms it's called ''neurosis''.
Having a girl who unconditionally loves me and i unconditionally love her back,is heaven.
But if i have a girl who unconditionally loves me and i don't feel the same way, then i feel like i'm fooling her and i drown in the anxiety that
i could possibly hurt her feelings....It's a f*****g trap.

 

[doyle11]

Okay I will try to keep this as short as possible because I mainly want to start a discussion and get feedback on this topic.

As I have noticed I may not have hair forever it has began to impact the way I date women. I started noticing my hairline receding about 3 years ago. Around that time I started dating someone. I was a very self conscious person at the time and this person helped me a lot with my confidence issues. Around the two year mark I started to feel that even though this girl loves me with all of her heart she may not be the one for me. For the past year I have struggled with doing what is right and letting her go. There are a lot of factors as to why I struggled with this, but one recurring thought that is literally insane, is hair loss. I feel as if sometimes I am only staying with her because she would love me no matter what, regardless of how my appearance may change as I age. I know this is extremely selfish, and have recently broken up with her because I feel that it is the right thing to do. I am ashamed that I drug out the break up for so long over my own insecurities.

Has hair loss ever affected your dating life in this way, making you feel restricted or trapped in certain situations? Also how has hair loss affected your new ventures into dating after a break up?

Hair loss killed a 3 year relationship dead in its tracks for me. I was so depressed and anxious about my hairloss I stopped going out, quit work and stopped seeing her. I ended up locked in my bedroom for a year living off videogames and hot pockets.

 

[Trichosan]

Hair loss killed a 3 year relationship dead in its tracks for me. I was so depressed and anxious about my hairloss I stopped going out, quit work and stopped seeing her. I ended up locked in my bedroom for a year living off videogames and hot pockets.

Sorry to hear that doyle11 but I'm always curious as to the nature of these things. Are you sure it was hair related because sometimes relationships just go stale or run off the tracks for no specific reason. Was it because the way you felt about your appearance or something she did or said?

 

[INT]

i never pursued anyone dating wise when I was balding. nothing unusual....around here

to insecure to expose my weakest fear.

sucks to when you are small, skinny and feminine looking. this was my situation when I started balding 11 years ago.


I only got my life back together once i fixed it. Now I can be myself.

Are you not the guy calling guys with finasteride-related ED beta pussies? Interesting.

 

[Calchas]

Hair loss killed a 3 year relationship dead in its tracks for me. I was so depressed and anxious about my hairloss I stopped going out, quit work and stopped seeing her. I ended up locked in my bedroom for a year living off videogames and hot pockets.

Don't worry...The italian hair loss lotion will hit the market in 2016 and we'll all be saved.

 

[sunchyme1]

Don't worry...The italian hair loss lotion will hit the market in 2016 and we'll all be saved.

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