I saw so many significantly balding men with attractive partners today

[doubleindemnity]

he likes the attention.

I don't like it. I'm actually scared. I have been bald like 5 years. I'm thinking of bringing it up with my therapist after you've insisted so much on here. The best time I had was when I thought that i had been banned from here /website wasn't working for me for a few weeks and I was spending my Internet time on other stuff. But I came back to visit the site just a few times per week and now I'm full on back. You are the one who might benefit from leaving because you are not bald and not feeling the impact of hair loss. This is a forum for misery.

Best part is, he makes it out that it’s super easy for me when it isn’t

starting to pick up now but I was in a sh*t drought last 3 months where I kept on getting rejected and some of them were harsh - racial abuse by Muslim
Arabs (twice!) - anyone here telling me to date only Muslims can f*** off , they have preferences too

to change the odds in my favour I’ve updated my profile with more current photos, and a video of me, so women can see what I look like in a non static form, and also reconfigured my app filter settings so that I have more opportunities. Getting more matches now.

it’s hard work

Once again, I think that what you're describing is what everybody does and does mean that it's super easy for you. If i had to define it I'd say that super easy is doing stuff that's expected to get positive results and actually getting positive results. I use my pro photos or the premium services and my results don't change so for me it's not super easy. Same for @Feelsbadman with his fibres, shoe lifts, make up and all. I just don't think that working out and getting in shape, working hard on one's career and social skills and getting good and recent photos are anywhere close to hard work or exceptional. This is the bare minimum expected of everybody. If it was exceptional, then all the bald guys on here who do all of that would have different results. Exceptional is having hair.

 

[Oknow]

I don't like it. I'm actually scared. I have been bald like 5 years. I'm thinking of bringing it up with my therapist after you've insisted so much on here. The best time I had was when I thought that i had been banned from here /website wasn't working for me for a few weeks and I was spending my Internet time on other stuff. But I came back to visit the site just a few times per week and now I'm full on back. You are the one who might benefit from leaving because you are not bald and not feeling the impact of hair loss. This is a forum for misery.


Once again, I think that what you're describing is what everybody does and does mean that it's super easy for you. If i had to define it I'd say that super easy is doing stuff that's expected to get positive results and actually getting positive results. I use my pro photos or the premium services and my results don't change so for me it's not super easy. Same for @Feelsbadman with his fibres, shoe lifts, make up and all. I just don't think that working out and getting in shape, working hard on one's career and social skills and getting good and recent photos are anywhere close to hard work or exceptional. This is the bare minimum expected of everybody. If it was exceptional, then all the bald guys on here who do all of that would have different results. Exceptional is having hair.

again , hair system

 

[vondoom]

again , hair system

probably same reasoning as they all do:
what if someone notices????
it is nobodys business^^
and if some woman really rips it off during sex (the usual argument and that barely ever happens), then you are still off way better than now^^

 

[Oknow]

probably same reasoning as they all do:
what if someone notices????
it is nobodys business^^
and if some woman really rips it off during sex (the usual argument and that barely ever happens), then you are still off way better than now^^

he seriously is starting to sound like a broken record

keeps on blaming a lack of hair, when he can do something about it, like this guy did

Bus driver left in tears by hair replacement making him look 'a decade younger'

Adam Sinclair says he had looked into hair replacement options for years but was worried people would make fun of him, but now he's "signed up for life" after seeing his confidence skyrocket

www.mirror.co.uk

 

[vondoom]

he seriously is starting to sound like a broken record

keeps on blaming a lack of hair, when he can do something about it, like this guy did

Bus driver left in tears by hair replacement making him look 'a decade younger'

Adam Sinclair says he had looked into hair replacement options for years but was worried people would make fun of him, but now he's "signed up for life" after seeing his confidence skyrocket

www.mirror.co.uk

for example... and apparently he has the money to get a good one...
i mean you can even get the shaved look working for you, its not like its 100% impossible... difficult? for sure, but not impossible...
there are always things you can do...

 

[Oknow]

for example... and apparently he has the money to get a good one...
i mean you can even get the shaved look working for you, its not like its 100% impossible... difficult? for sure, but not impossible...
there are always things you can do...

I think what he’s worried about is what people he know would think if he started wearing a wig

But who cares, he should tell them that his baldness was really affecting his mental health so decided to do something about it

Many people will be understanding

 

[UnLuckyLuciano]

to add if I thought like @doubleindemnity and @Feelsbadman , I would have given up by now, blaming my ethnicity for my lack of success, physical appearance, hairloss and f*** knows what else

I can say that my hairloss is literally my only problem dating.
I solved my approach anxiety and my shyness issues but afterwards I got hairloss which is 100 times worse in the eye of a woman compared to my past insecurities/anxieties.

 

[Oknow]

I can say that my hairloss is literally my only problem dating.
I solved my approach anxiety and my shyness issues but afterwards I got hairloss which is 100 times worse in the eye of a woman compared to my past insecurities/anxieties.

get a system

 

[vondoom]

I think what he’s worried about is what people he know would think if he started wearing a wig

But who cares, he should tell them that his baldness was really affecting his mental health so decided to do something about it

Many people will be understanding

can just tell them to gfy... or ignore it...
that is best way to deal with hairloss anyway... it is bad enough for oneself, care as less about others as possible...

 

[Oknow]

can just tell them to gfy... or ignore it...
that is best way to deal with hairloss anyway... it is bad enough for oneself, care as less about others as possible...

can you imagine when @doubleindemnity grows old, assuming he’s still in the same situation, looking back in regret for not getting a hair system

 

[DoctorHouse]

not this sh*t again @DoctorHouse

any evidence that lots of chads are in healthy good relationships?

last time I looked Tom cruise got divorced a few times?

There can be many reasons why relationships fail, and it’s not always down to looks

I don't know why you waste your time arguing with these guys. Let them be. They can live their lives whatever way they see fit. I told you this before. Try to leave this forum and focus on something more productive. I am trying to do the same myself. However, there a few people on here that I enjoying exchanging PMs with. And my advice to you is be careful with holding out. It was my biggest handicap when dating.

Now it's even harder to chose because with dating apps you have too many options. Our brain get's desensitized with too many options. Long term relationships today are sabotaged because it's so easy to cheat with just a click of a photo on your phone. That is why less people are getting married and more people are living with each other and having kids. The days of getting married and then having kids is not as popular anymore because alot of men don't want to worry about alimony if they can avoid it. I really think at this point nobody wants to have to give half their earnings to a former spouse they end up hating when they break up.

Divorce rate is very high simply because it's so easy to find someone else when you are not happy with your current partner. Most people have abandoned traditional morals and think nothing of cheating on their significant other. That is why you are even going to have a problem securing a stable long term relationship. And if you do, you have to make sure you keep her interested in you all the time or she will find someone else who will. You have decide if you really want to go thru that or not. Some people would rather be alone than just settle.

 

[Oknow]

I don't know why you waste your time arguing with these guys. Let them be. They can live their lives whatever way they see fit. I told you this before. Try to leave this forum and focus on something more productive. I am trying to do the same myself. However, there a few people on here that I enjoying exchanging PMs with. And my advice to you is be careful with holding out. It was my biggest handicap when dating.

Now it's even harder to chose because with dating apps you have too many options. Our brain get's desensitized with too many options. Long term relationships today are sabotaged because it's so easy to cheat with just a click of a photo on your phone. That is why less people are getting married and more people are living with each other and having kids. The days of getting married and then having kids is not as popular anymore because alot of men don't want to worry about alimony if they can avoid it. I really think at this point nobody wants to have to give half their earnings to a former spouse they end up hating when they break up.

Divorce rate is very high simply because it's so easy to find someone else when you are not happy with your current partner. Most people have abandoned traditional morals and think nothing of cheating on their significant other. That is why you are even going to have a problem find a stable long term relationship. And if you do, you have to make sure you keep her interested in you all the time or she will find someone else will. You have decide if you really want to go thru that or not. Some people would rather be alone than just settle.

a lot of the times I’ve held out it is because I’ve seen red flags, for example, start of the year was seeing someone that was telling me how she loved me BUT at the same time keeping another guy from the dating app around.

She told me he was just ‘a friend’ and that I was paranoid. where after I stopped seeing her she started dating him.

I would have ended up like @Feelsbadman if I just went along with it

 

[vondoom]

can you imagine when @doubleindemnity grows old, assuming he’s still in the same situation, looking back in regret for not getting a hair system

he isnt old already?
dont want to bash the dude, but he sounds a little old...

 

[vondoom]

I don't know why you waste your time arguing with these guys. Let them be. They can live their lives whatever way they see fit. I told you this before. Try to leave this forum and focus on something more productive. I am trying to do the same myself. However, there a few people on here that I enjoying exchanging PMs with. And my advice to you is be careful with holding out. It was my biggest handicap when dating.

Now it's even harder to chose because with dating apps you have too many options. Our brain get's desensitized with too many options. Long term relationships today are sabotaged because it's so easy to cheat with just a click of a photo on your phone. That is why less people are getting married and more people are living with each other and having kids. The days of getting married and then having kids is not as popular anymore because alot of men don't want to worry about alimony if they can avoid it. I really think at this point nobody wants to have to give half their earnings to a former spouse they end up hating when they break up.

Divorce rate is very high simply because it's so easy to find someone else when you are not happy with your current partner. Most people have abandoned traditional morals and think nothing of cheating on their significant other. That is why you are even going to have a problem securing a stable long term relationship. And if you do, you have to make sure you keep her interested in you all the time or she will find someone else who will. You have decide if you really want to go thru that or not. Some people would rather be alone than just settle.

for most people it should not be difficult to keep the partner interested^^

but yeah thats what im talking about when i say for me it is easy to talk to women (actually most of the time they initiate), because most dudes are boring/the same...
i dont mean that in a bad way, but i can see how for example spending your life on the couch watching tv or playing video games is not very attractive...

and as soon as you got something halfway interesting to say, people listen...

 

[DoctorHouse]

a lot of the times I’ve held out it is because I’ve seen red flags, for example, start of the year was seeing someone that was telling me how she loved me BUT at the same time keeping another guy from the dating app around.

She told me he was just ‘a friend’ and that I was paranoid. where after I stopped seeing her she started dating him.

I would have ended up like @Feelsbadman if I just went along with it

There is nothing wrong with holding out but at the same time I am trying to tell you it's going to be very hard to find someone who will just stick to one person. I don't think that person will be on a dating app. You need to find someone who is not on a dating app. You will better your odds that way because they are not looking all the time. You need to find a venue you like going to all the time and see if you can meet someone there. I would try meet up groups.

 

[Oknow]

There is nothing wrong with holding out but at the same time I am trying to tell you it's going to be very hard to find someone who will just stick to one person. I don't think that person will be on a dating app. You need to find someone who is not on a dating app. You will better your odds that way because they are not looking all the time. You need to find a venue you like going to all the time and see if you can meet someone there. I would try meet up groups.

Seems like everyone are on apps

I met my ex from one, she was loyal to me we broke up for other reasons

she met her new partner from an app, they’ve been together for longer

 

[DoctorHouse]

Seems like everyone are on apps

I met my ex from one, she was loyal to me we broke up for other reasons

she met her new partner from an app, they’ve been together for longer

Why did you break up?

 

[vondoom]

Seems like everyone are on apps

I met my ex from one, she was loyal to me we broke up for other reasons

she met her new partner from an app, they’ve been together for longer

but you dont stay on apps when you are in a relationships...

i honestly never heard about anyone breaking up because they suddenly found someone on an app... that is reddit level and there are better reasons for that^^

 

[DoctorHouse]

but you dont stay on apps when you are in a relationships...

I have a feeling some people get addicted to the apps so even if they are seeing someone they may once in a while go on to see their matches to see what they are missing out on. We are only human.

 

[vondoom]

I have a feeling some people get addicted to the apps so even if they are seeing someone they may once in a while go on to see their matches to see what they are missing out on. We are only human.

na, i dont believe that...
women are pretty pissed when they see the bf having tinder on their phone and men are pissed when the gf has it...
unless they have never been serious, i dont think people keep it...
another debate would be: why does anyone know the contents of their partners phone/mail/email?^^