life is over :[

[uncomfortable man]

Wow, couldn't have said it better myself, but I predict gkboy will start up a new thread in a couple of weeks that he's talking to this girl that he will end up f*****g. I bet you.

 

[barcafan]

So that's a high hairline in your opinion? Haha, what the f*ck is this world coming to? I bet no one would think your hairline is high. You want some kinda caveman look with no forehead? Is that cool in your opinion?

I agree. It's like people who have some light thinning and claim to be bald. Oh wait, that's you lol.

Lol i totally f*****g saw this from a mile away.


Anyways guys, i know you're genuinly trying to help him, but if someone is depressed then you cant just say SNAP OUT OF IT AND GROW SOME BALLS YOU LONER f***, it doesn't quite work that way. Gboy if you exhausted every avenue, maybe you should look into getting some extra help mate. Its your life, you shouldnt be feeling like this since there are people who can help you.

 

[DoctorHouse]

I am going to have to agree with Thickandthin. From someone who has BDD personally, you do show possible signs. You base your perception based upon a few negative comments by other people. Your hair looks normal and I would be the first to tell you if it was not because with BDD you tend to not only find your own flaws but you tend to find even the minor flaws in other people. As everyone points out, you are good looking as well. However, you must find things you don't like about yourself otherwise your confidence level and self esteem would be much higher. I think your lack of experience at your age is pretty much the number one reason you shy away from women. You probably believe most women will view you as either gay or weird due to your lack of experience with them. However, you are very young still and some guys are just late bloomers. You need to find some interests or hobbies and find women with the same interest and talk about it. I think online dating is pretty easy to start off with and practice talking to women because it will be easier since you are anonymous. Its no different with you talking to us. Just find a topic that interests you and start talking to women online. Then take if from there. If you find someone you can talk to online then move on to the telephone and then eventually to meeting in person. I know it easier to be a loner because you don't have to worry about rejection. I tend to be one myself. Its so nice not to have to deal with confrontations and you don't have to play any games. But you cannot play it safe all the time because you have to take risks in life otherwise you will never make any progress. You will be a loner for the rest of your life. You're young enough that there are women out there that have just as much lack of experience with guys and if you look hard enough you might hook up with one of them and feel a little more at ease. However, if you can get someone more experienced that you like who can teach "you the ropes" then take advantage of that opportunity because most likely you will not be judged because "teachers" tend to want their "student" to become " good students". Its time to start doing something before you get too old because it will be even more embarrassing and harder to live with the burden of being inexperienced with women.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Another thoughtful response from Dr. House.

 

[Gboy2k8]

thanks for the comments.
I wish it was that simple.

As years pass by , I find it harder and harder to talk to women, not easier.
I went out alot with buddies who score at clubs and parties,
tried my best but kept failing.
Since age 17 I tried my luck until I was 20.5 y/o ,
then I just quit.
I was really frustrated , going out week after week, night after night, with nothing. I had to quit.
It really started to disturb me,
since then I started wondering WTF is that wrong with me.

I prefer the nothing over the failure ,
it's really easy to pitty yourself over failing all the time.

Everytime I see a creep with a perfect girl, I just don't get it.
WTF did he say to her ?
Why is she with that idiot ?

I work with someone who's a candidate to a beauty queen contest taking place in my country in about a month.
Her boyfriend is the most fucked up idiot i've ever met,
he's yelling at her 95% of the time, treating her like sh*t.
I simply don't get it.

 

[Smooth]

Her boyfriend is the most f***ed up idiot i've ever met,
he's yelling at her 95% of the time, treating her like sh*t.
I simply don't get it.

Ya-tzy!.... nothing to get here m8 :|...that girl is exactly like you (BDD), most young girls are stupid, they dont realize (yet) how gorgeous they are, they attrected to posers (confident is the key word here)...m.. its basicly some sort of reverse psychology thing combind with the fact that a media infuenced girl hates herself for not looking like Angelina guli or some' doest matter how good she looks... f*** 'em once or twice and you can treat them like sh*t, actually the more sh*t they get, the likly they will come for more. and manny girls are afraid to end up alone so they stick with what they got...but im talking about the common bimbo girls so it doesnt apply for all, girl that have more then 2 grey brain-cells wont stay with someone who gives her sh*t time.

 

[ali777]

Her boyfriend is the most f***ed up idiot i've ever met,
he's yelling at her 95% of the time, treating her like sh*t.
I simply don't get it.

Ya-tzy!.... nothing to get here m8 :|...that girl is exactly like you (BDD), most young girls are stupid, they dont realize (yet) how gorgeous they are, they attrected to posers (confident is the key word here)...m.. its basicly some sort of reverse psychology thing combind with the fact that a media infuenced girl hates herself for not looking like Angelina guli or some' doest matter how good she looks... f*ck 'em once or twice and you can treat them like sh*t, actually the more sh*t they get, the likly they will come for more. and manny girls are afraid to end up alone so they stick with what they got...but im talking about the common bimbo girls so it doesnt apply for all, girl that have more then 2 grey brain-cells wont stay with someone who gives her sh*t time.

Fact: Relationships that start with passion, affection, love are more likely to fail. The problem is once that the initial excitement wears off, the couple doesn't know how to deal with each other. Such couples start taking each other for granted thinking everything is rosy and that leads to resentment in the relationship.... The woman hopes the man will change, and the man wants his gf to be someone else (apparently, that's how man are from mars and women are from venus describes the situation).

There is also lots of obsessing in the relationships. Some couple can clearly see they aren't compatible and they still choose to stay together. It's partially fear of being lonely, partially stubbornness and obsession.

Then there are the women whose confidence is bound to their external look, and they are probably the worst of all... TBH, most women are insecure when it comes to looks, I seriously do think despite all of us on this forum being conscious about our hair falling off, women have it worse....

 

[ClayShaw]

thanks for the comments.
I wish it was that simple.

As years pass by , I find it harder and harder to talk to women, not easier.
I went out alot with buddies who score at clubs and parties,
tried my best but kept failing.
Since age 17 I tried my luck until I was 20.5 y/o ,
then I just quit.
I was really frustrated , going out week after week, night after night, with nothing. I had to quit.
It really started to disturb me,
since then I started wondering WTF is that wrong with me.

I prefer the nothing over the failure ,
it's really easy to pitty yourself over failing all the time.

Everytime I see a creep with a perfect girl, I just don't get it.
WTF did he say to her ?
Why is she with that idiot ?

I work with someone who's a candidate to a beauty queen contest taking place in my country in about a month.
Her boyfriend is the most f***ed up idiot i've ever met,
he's yelling at her 95% of the time, treating her like sh*t.
I simply don't get it.

Because for some reason, that is what works. It's seen as confidence, I guess. I think it's hilarious that women always say "Men are so simple, they like boobs, or asses, or whatever". With women its exactly the same. They just like confidence. My friends mom is gorgeous for her age (50ish). She's newly single. She was dating a short, fat, bald guy last summer. He's a total ***. Cocky, arrogant, talks about himself non-stop... basically, completely annoying to be around. But it works.

 

[iwantperfection]

Hey smooth.. only your mama allowed to call me model boy.

lol oj.

I think Gboy will find his way okay. Once he has some girl slurping on his dick he'll be cool. But 21 and no action? jeez.. i hope she can swallow cause gboy gun erupt like the trevi fountain.

I have often found if your feeling down a smokey makes it all go away...

 

[Obsidian]

Gboy you have some warped life paradigms.

 

[ali777]

Gboy you have some warped life paradigms.

The new CCS or IBM?

 

[uncomfortable man]

Try to find a movie called the last virgin. I think it is pretty old by now, but it explains everything you are going through gkboy.

 

[ali777]

Try to find a movie called the last virgin. I think it is pretty old by now, but it explains everything you are going through gkboy.

I saw The Wackness recently... I liked it...

It's about an 18yo boy losing his virginity and then having his first heart break...

 

[Gboy2k8]

Sorry guys,
I just lost all hope...
I don't think ill end up better,
as years pass by Ill find myself uglier , balder, maybe with a cat.

Nah , I won't get there.

I've made an agreement with my buddy that I wont kill myself till age 25. Ill stick with that for a while.
Got nothin to lose but my own sanity

 

[Obsidian]

Actually I would say (that movie) is more representative of what happens to guys who are nice with girls.

 

[ali777]

Sorry guys,
I just lost all hope...
I don't think ill end up better,
as years pass by Ill find myself uglier , balder, maybe with a cat.

Nah , I won't get there.

I've made an agreement with my buddy that I wont kill myself till age 25. Ill stick with that for a while.
Got nothin to lose but my own sanity

You remind me of someone....

I have this friend, he's actually decent looking and clever but he's got no respect for himself. He wouldn't get turned down for being ugly, he's definitely not ugly. He's also rather well read, but he's got a boring routine office job that pays minimum wage...

I never understand how a decent looking guy with decent education doesn't have confidence :dunno: .

I don't really know what to say apart from "it's all in your head, you need to socialise".... You need to make friends and meet people, there is no other way....

 

[DoctorHouse]

You sound like you have given up way too soon. You probably project that when you talk to women. Your body language, the way you stand, and the way you talk tells these women to stay the hell away from you. You need to learn body language in women and signals they will give you when they are attracted to you or interested in you. There on some books on this to help you learn. Once you learn they show some attraction toward you then you need to make your move slowly. You need to investigate in some self help books for everything your not sure about. Just because you keep failing does not mean some day you will succeed. But if you feel you are a failure, women will sense you are and will reject you. Its easy to say forget about finding someone because I never will. So far you have believed it and so far it has come true. Now start believing some girl is going to enjoy your company and soon it will happen. You project negativity, you get negativity. Laws of attraction. For your "a**h**" who has the beauty queen, he projected he wanted a beauty queen to bang and torture, well he got one. She probably was abused by her dad so she still wants to keep that relationship going by being with that guy. Some women just want a good lay and some women want a good guy. If you are both, then you will be a keeper. Otherwise, at least if you are a good guy, later on she might help you learn to be good in the sack. And you will be worth the investment. But if you are just a good lay, then she will move on when something better comes along.

 

[iwantperfection]

Your good looking and your personality fine. american girls must be hard work. In the uk all you have to do is dance (badly) or stand with your mates on the dance floor drinking and the girls always dance over so they are close and bumping into you. Bit of eye contact or a line and you pull. Gboy i would guarantee if you went out here you would pull easy. The girls do all the work. Though if you want the shag you needa sweet talk lol.

 

[ali777]

Otherwise, at least if you are a good guy, later on she might help you learn to be good in the sack. And you will be worth the investment. But if you are just a good lay, then she will move on when something better comes along.

Exactly... Some guys are scared of the first time, because they may feel that they are going to be useless at it.... If you are a nice guy the girl will put up with you, and help you get better...

It's like riding a bicycle, you just do it :whistle:

 

[Obsidian]

He won't kill himself :jackit: