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DoctorHouse

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I can understand about why you may think that way. I always believe we are kind of living in "hell" sometimes. Everyone is always out for themselves and sometimes its very hard to find honest people you can trust that will not stab you in the back. Or act two faced to you. I work hard for my money and yet some thugs want to take what I have earned away from me for no reason. I do not understand why this world is full of crime. Criminals leach themselves on to hard working people so they can get a free ride because they are too weak or to stupid to work and earn money honestly. People have attitudes like everyone owes them everything. I can go on and on. However, when you honestly look at things, dealing with hair loss is not as bad as dealing with the "hell" we live in everyday. Its a cruel world out there and its a shame we all judge each other based on how we look. We need to start looking inward before we judge someone. I am realizing there are some good people in the world as well who are not going to judge you based on how much hair you have on your head. You just have to expose yourself to as many people as you can in hopes of finding those type of people who will be loyal to you unconditionally. I have a few of those type of people in my life but I really would like a few more. I think people like Cassin and s.a.f. are an example of the "good' in this world. Just keep searching and you will find more. You need to find a purpose in your life and maybe you will then realize its worth waking up every day. Sometimes I let those "negative" leaches bring me down but you have to learn they will take alot of energy out of you and you will feel like you have no purpose to live. Don't surround yourself with those people. Find some bald or balding happy positive people to hang around with and I am sure you will feel better about yourself. You can rest assured they are not going to be posting on hair loss forums like this one. :whistle: :mrgreen:
 

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I often protect myself by avoiding people. But you sometimes need social alliances to protect yourself. They key is to not stick around or give money to the bad people. Always be on the lookout for more good people to add, and move away from the ones you know are bad.

That is what the bad people do too: they move away from the people who will not give them money, and go after new kills. I'm still upset at these door to door religous people who want to suck people in, and lie on the spot. When she first came up, I told her: you are here to save me from hell, aren't you? She said no, she just wants me to read her book. 30 minutes of arguing, and when she leaves, she says if I won't even read her book, why shouldn't God send me to hell? Wow, she is so full of herself to think God will send me to hell for not listening to her. At least that is 30 minutes I kept her away from some other weaker person. I know I'm strong, so I try to attract the door to door people to me if I have nothing better to do, to keep them away from the weaker people.
 

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Gboy2k8 said:
I was talking about Prolactin...

2.5 months on finasteride -
Meanwhile It's nearly impossible to notice my thinning when my hair is combed down, guess I'll have to live with that.

Anyhow
Some thoughts lately coming to my mind,
I'm looking at couples and thinking weird things,
finally I see it.
I have no idea why would a woman want to be with me,
there's just no reason.
I'm not that funny, not that good looking, not that attractive,
have no special hobbies, basically hate life and destroys anything around me.
Then it hit me.
I was sitting in a bar with a couple of my friends,
and this question was coming to my mind -
what do I live for ?
what's the reason I wake up in the morning ?
there is no such.
I hate every moment I breath, everything's f***ed up in my life.

There' many reasons why I came to this situation,
I used to blame it on hair loss and lots of other sh*t.
That's wrong.
That's just me.
Ive seen ton of psychiatrists in my life, no one really helped me.
I guess that concludes it, - can't see any plus anymore.
everything suck, all depressing.

Many of my friends study, travel.
People pushing me and asking what do I want to study,
Why should I study?
I don't get it.
I dont need this - I wanna die. Why should I work so hard, what's the point ?
Where's all of this crap in life leading?

I just don't understand the point.

sometimes i feel the same . the only difference is that i dont have any friends . and some days i feel good and some days i dont give a f**k about anything .
but most days are bad .
i think the next bad thing that happens to me would be the last straw .
 

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Guys, that sh*t happens to everyone, your going throw a rough period, its only matter of time before you both get back on track, just hang on there.... i've been there myself and thanks to my loveones managed to break the depresion cycle, looking back now, i didnt even had any reason to feel bad, i bet both of yous dont have any "good" reason to feel this way, i mean as long as you healthy, have your loveones around you, live with decent jobs then there is nothing more you need basicly, this is more then a solid ground to get the things that makes you feel happy, whenever its traveling, studing, working out, drinking or just staying home with your playstation... life has ALOT to offer us "westerns", i mean think about it, internet, vications around the world, cars, motorbikes, motels, good food, playstation, internet, HD, Pubs, bars, parties, hot f*****g girls, everything is just there for you to grab, really we focus so much in the competition its hard to break out, but once you do, the options are unlimited... just grab it and enjoy the ride with the cards you been dealt (and we siting here bitching about hair loss is one luxury most poeple around the world cant efford, or wouldnt dream of 3-4 decades ago! THIS is how good the hands we been dealt, so good that we stay inside our warm homes all around the world chating from our rooms about how our lifes sux due to hair lose........lol when i think about it its freaking hilarious, we ignore the fact that 30 years ago people would dream about this and we use this amazing thing to b**ch about hairs lol.. our specie is so doomed, but i digress) do things that make you feel happy, be modest with what you got, whatever will come along is an extra, and you will get planty of those too, just give it time and relax......and never compare your life to some one elses, you can never know whats underneath, nothing is what it seems (mostly its the upsite from what you might think....), and for Gb there isnt such a thing "i dont have anything to offer a girl" theres always something you can give a girl, you will be suprised but most girls will be satisfied with someone who isnt a dirtbag that treats them like sh*t (and today....well thats quit a rare thing).
 

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Gboy2k8: I haven't read the whole thread, just the original post and, man, I sure know how you feel. My first years of hair loss were dramatic, to say the least: I was depressed, I had zero confidence and baldness was consumming my thoughts every second of the day. And yes, suicide crossed my mind.

But I'm not a person to go down without a fight and neither are you, I'm sure. So I decided to fight back. In the case of baldness, the best you can do is keep yourself one step ahead of everyone else: do your research, study, read all about the latest treatments and innovations in the field of hair loss, be persistant and organized. This forum is a great place to start.
 

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Baldness was on my mind at age 17, lowering my self confidence, but not constantly on my mind. I was NW3 when I was really concerned, but even then people kept telling me it was a myth that women cared about looks, and a myth that they care about penis size. People also told me I just had a high forehead and that it would not get any worse. Then my brother went NW2 to NW4 in 4 months and began looking for treatments and got me looking too. That was when it was on my mind a lot. Maybe it was eating at me sooner than that. I don't know. But when my first hair transplant was not good enough, and I thought my top was starting to go, and I realized I could not pay for enough new grafts and wait for them to grow out before the top went, that was when I really got depressed. Well, I don't know if it was consistent propecia, or the addition of Nizoral, or what, but when the top fully stabilized and regrew, and my new grafts came out, I no longer was suicidal. Still depressed not getting women though. I could not focus in school because there were too many pretty women and I could not even get an average one. But when I got my hair piece, that ended all depression. Well, that and getting a pizza job which prooved to me I can do better than minimum wage. I think working for $7 per hour had a big depressing effect, along with not having a car.

Another thing that makes me feel better is writing off women. Before, I did not know if I could get them or not, and I wrote an emotional roller coaster chasing them and being played by them. Now I just don't bother chasing them, and am focussing on making money and getting in shape and saving for BHT and such. Getting my credit card paid off, and having buffer savings can really boost your mood.

When women like you enough to use you but not enough to actually like you, it can be confusing, and not easy to walk away from. Sad when people can rip people off and justify it by saying they are just trying to survive and that they did not take it from you at gun point.
 

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Hi all, im 57 and female(i apologise for (treading on your turf)
Ive just joined this forum(my story is on the womans hair loss site)
I really just popped in to say im very surprised that there are so many men worrying over hair loss.I suppose we all know that its natural for men to thin and nobody takes much notice( im talking from a female veiw-point), but when it affects your confidence and you have low self esteem it takes over your life..Its ruined my life for years. Why oh why dont butlins have a "hair thinners" themed weekend just for us where we can be completely relax and talk openly about our hair loss, theres so many of us we could keep them going all year.See you there then,Lady57.
 

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I think you need to go outside and get some hobbies. What is this belief that another person is supposed to make you happy? You're the only one who can make yourself happy so find something you like/love to do and set out to do it.

If you come across this way as miserable as you do in your posts then women won't even touch you with a 50 foot pole.
 

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You should do whatever makes you happy, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else. If people dont accept that, then f*** em.
 

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life is over? reason is bunch of hair? :dunno:
more than a houndred million people not living then.
lets kill ourselves then.life is over :bravo:

life is totally one second ! it's not worth crying for. dont waste your one second with these sh*ts. okay go on your cure.but dont even think about it.and you are not the one who is losing hair.get a life.have some hobbies (playing drum,basketball etc)
 

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3 months in finasteride, 4 on min.
3 on nizoral.

looking horrible, pure crap, can't believe it,
maybe worse than when i started.

thing that's driving me crazy is that I never saw any hair falling ,
I just don't get it.
god damn it ::(

guess in 8 more months Ill know for sure if that's the end of my hair.

I have friends balding in the back and vertex,
but the rest of their hair is so damn thick in the front,
damn it why did I have to go bald @ the front with such high hairline?? :(
 

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uncomfortable man

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One of the hardest parts of hairloss is overcoming your own ego.
 

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His hair is way thicker than mine in front, and just as high as mine. He is maybe NW2. Yeah, there is recession, but no big deal. If you use nizoral, I just don't think you will go bad too much. You can lower your hairline a tad later.

OK, if he had a perfect NW1 that got him chicks, and then he went to that, which is OK but not studly, then I can understand him feeling a loss. But he still looks fine and should be able to pull above average looking women. No one likes taking a step down, but you got to enjoy what you got, and you got more than most of us.
 

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CCS said:
His hair is way thicker than mine in front, and just as high as mine. He is maybe NW2. Yeah, there is recession, but no big deal. If you use nizoral, I just don't think you will go bad too much. You can lower your hairline a tad later.

OK, if he had a perfect NW1 that got him chicks, and then he went to that, which is OK but not studly, then I can understand him feeling a loss. But he still looks fine and should be able to pull above average looking women. No one likes taking a step down, but you got to enjoy what you got, and you got more than most of us.

I can't accept that prespective.
Let's say your entire life you wanted a huge house,
or something like that. - for many years.

Suddenly something happens and you know you just wont get it.
Doesn't matter what you do,
is that less painfull?

Im not talking just about girl - the entire package ,
and you all know what I'm talking about.
 

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Quantum Cat said:
reading this thread I think your doctor should consider putting you on antidepressants.

been there, done that.
 

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Quantum Cat said:
Gboy2k8 said:
[quote="Quantum Cat":2wb79q3n]reading this thread I think your doctor should consider putting you on antidepressants.

been there, done that.

didn't they work? I took prozac - seemed to make me feel a little better.[/quote:2wb79q3n]

I've been on 3 types of meds
2 of them screwed my life,
the 3rd made me feel like im not myself, I just had to quit.
 

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cleverusername said:
You aren't bald at all you twat but go ahead and kill yourself you pussy.

that's not a very helpful thing to say, especially to depression sufferers :thumbsdown:
 
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