life is over :[

[Gboy2k8]

this thread just got totally off-topic

 

[Obsidian]

Most of them do.

 

[ali777]

this thread just got totally off-topic

You could bring the thread back on topic by telling us what you did over the weekend, and then we can give you a few tips on how you can improve your love life.

I'm guessing you didn't go out?

PS: I watched Yes Man the other day, it was a decent movie, better than I expected. You could watch it and maybe become a "yes man" yourself and start taking chances in life???

 

[Gboy2k8]

this thread just got totally off-topic

You could bring the thread back on topic by telling us what you did over the weekend, and then we can give you a few tips on how you can improve your love life.

I'm guessing you didn't go out?

PS: I watched Yes Man the other day, it was a decent movie, better than I expected. You could watch it and maybe become a "yes man" yourself and start taking chances in life???

I think you got me all wrong.
Actually I did go out.
My friend tried to set me up with some girl.
I've tried making some small "moves" to check her responses and got none.
At the end of that "date" we've (well she) decided with me together that there's no attraction and we shouldn't continue it.
Whatever.
It didn't really bothered me since I almost felt the same.
She's good looking but dumb as hell which really turned me off.

Anyway regarding yes man ,
I usually never say no to opportunities, that's why Ive agreed to date with her.

 

[Smooth]

Dude that's good news, even if you didn't get her ! keep going, its something that you develop with experience (think of like a game - rpg-style {i know its moronic but it actually the best way i can describe it }) I know that doesnt mean anything to you, but i think your going the right way only matter of time bro' !!

 

[Gboy2k8]

Dude that's good news, even if you didn't get her ! keep going, its something that you develop with experience (think of like a game - rpg-style {i know its moronic but it actually the best way i can describe it }) I know that doesnt mean anything to you, but i think your going the right way only matter of time bro' !!

I don't think so.
It's just +1 to my failures.
It's not the first time a girl says no to me.
Not even the 10th.

 

[Smooth]

So what? your a slow learner.. no biggy, try to think what you can improve from date to date, you can also read up to this whole pick-up art thing, there is alot into it, i got a few tips that actually worked for me, like keeping a good eye contact, these fine little touches is what makes all the difference ( i had girls before that so you dont HAVE to know everything, but it always help to bump up you knowledge there...) again the key here is to try to improve fomr time to time, and dont pressure yourself too much

 

[Gboy2k8]

I really don't know what to say.
I don't think it's a matter of time since it's a false function.
time is running against me.

I see 13 - 14 year olds in the parks or schools together kissing w/e and I just don't get it.
About 10 years ago I started thinking when I saw kids at my age WTF makes the difference between them and me,
how come they succeed and I don't.

Back then I figured it's just a matter of time and everything will be ok.

At age 22 I'm still asking myself the same question,
about that same age level.
and I just don't get it.

Time didn't help.
It got me more bitter and confused.

Due to bad lack at general I started smoking recently.
Seeing my friends switching girlfriends and scoring really got me inside.

At age 22 I'm not that proud to say that the only phone number on my address book belongs to a female is my boss and my mom.
I never got any signal from any woman anytime.
It's not that I didn't try. I really did but nothing worked.

I even read 3 books about dating and how to get to a womans heart and all the fuckin crap worths sh*t.

I guess u guys didn't get much information about me, so.
I was in the military for 3 years.
I was trained 12 months to collect intelligence from inside war-zone fields in order to locate and finally destroy hidden enemy's positions in general.
Took place in 2 wars in those 3 years.
Can't say much but I was hit by 2 rpg's and saw some of my buddies injured badly.

Never the less ,
none of these had 50% impact on me comparing to my position with hair loss and women.

Frasturation became my middle name.
I don't see any good in life at all.
Everytime I try to take a step forward I find myself 5 behind.

 

[Smooth]

Hey Gb are you Israeli?! i been the army for 3 years aswell (IDF) :S just wondering...

 

[Gboy2k8]

Hey Gb are you Israeli?! i been the army for 3 years aswell (IDF) :S just wondering...

Got me.

 

[Smooth]

yeah i noticed that the time-zone fits too.. and the US been involved in only 1 war in the last couple years.....anyways, in tlv its not that hard to get laid (although i know many many many guys here in your shoes) and being bald is really more acceptable here (and you perfectly aware of that, we have A HUGE amount of youg BALD(!!!!) guys here) it can hold you back abit ill admit but it really breaks down to your own vibe and your social circle and skills, social skill is something you can work and as for freinds you dont need mroe then one who is a "player" to get you started.... just open up, keep a good vibe, try not to think "how to get a girl into your beg" because it will only hold you back, you need to aim purely (!!!) to have fun with them and their presence, and most times if you dont score the same night you met a girl, you can score the next date or the one after... but you need to keep in mind this is not your goal.. sex = a perk of good realasions....(atleast that's the mind-set you need to be fixed on at the beginning ...)...anyways, that converstaion would go uch faster in Hebrew, if you feel like you want to talk then you can pM il give you my Msn/Fb or whatever, dont hold back, ill be more then happy to have a good chat with you ....
gl, Ori.

 

[Gboy2k8]

Hey, I thought of checking up back with you guys.

1 + year update
-----------------
Well,
I guess finally I can say I'm relaxed.
I'm 22 now.
I have a GF. She's not everything I want in a girlfriend but it's ok for the meanwhile I gues... I'm already planning on the next one. :woot:

I did a GYNO surgery , finally, after 10 years walking like that sh*t.
Chest looking awesome.
+ I'm back to the gym and starting to feel like I'm gonna grow big this time.

I now manage a web-based application for a large manpower recruitment company.

I feel great.
I'm in great shape and taking care of myself.
I'm spending time of enjoying the goods in life, and my love - snowboard.
I'm to to france this winter and then moving to NZ for 4 months of snowboarding.

Though my hair is not that great,
and I guess it will never be, that's OK.
It's still thin ,
I still look at men at all ages with full hair with and curse.
But that's just a part of my routine I guess..

Taking 0.5MG finasteride X4 times a week (2MG) + rogaine every night.

You are young.
These years won't come back.
Enjoy them.
Physical things like hair is sh*t,
we are on this planet for about 80 years - if we're lucky.
In the next step hair won't mean a thing.
It's what we are, how we affect the others and what we take to ourselves that matters.

Cheers.
If you want images i'll upload some.

 

[Draco88]

^^Sounds like you've really turned things around dude. I'm 21 and i sometimes feel the way you did in your first post.

 

[Gboy2k8]

Man I understand you more than you think.
Life is not about black and white.
What really changed my mind was when I started going out and saw some real sweet b****s going out with some really fat, ugly , repulsive dudes.

That made me realize that most of them are actually stupid.
They go for what excites them in that same moment.
Some of them will go with you to the bathroom if you'll just "command" them to do so.

If that b*tch doesnt want you for your hair, screw her.
She's a fu*** retard go and wank off I bet it will be better than sleeping with her..

The real problem is with the smart ladies.
But forget about hair loss with them, the problem is to get into their hearts.

 

[superfrankie]

^^Sounds like you've really turned things around dude. I'm 21 (22 in over a month), and i sometimes feel the way you did in your first post.

I'm trying to find comfort in your words, but it's so damn hard for me. I've never been in a relationship, never done anything sexual, i'm the shy type of guy..and to have this happening in my 20's, well it just sucks. But like you said, we only get one chance on this planet and i surely don't want to spend most of it obssessing over my hair, but dammit it's hard. :shakehead:

Im in the same shoes. But Im going to fight. I hope you do the same. We both deserve more than this. As Gboy2k8 refers to: this years are never coming back. We have to enjoy them while we have the chance to do so. Im going to make a name for myself, study david deangelo really hard and hopefully I will start to find new perspectives in how I percieve myself and my surroundings. Ive come to the point of time where Im going to reach my vision in life, no matter what it takes. In that way I hope to regain the respect I once had to myself. I need to value myself more. After all, Im the most important person in my life. Not some stupid chicks or whatever. I cant let others judgements of me define the way I see myself. Let the power of hope be with us.

 

[Nichiyoubi]

Great reply superfrankie. You got game!

The majority of women care nada about a man's hair. Once you get that, landing chicks becomes easy. Act confident and you will be confident. Be confident and women will be attracted to you. Simple as that. If one is not landing chicks it's not because of the hair, it's because of the lack of confidence.

And hair does not make you confident, though you might mistakenly think so. I'm 100 times more confident today without hair than I was when I had all or most of it. I finally figured out that it comes from within, not from the outside.

 

[BrightonBaldy]

Confidence isnt an issue for me, especially when it comes to women, making people find me attractive is another matter altogether, confidence cant open every door.

 

[Nichiyoubi]

Confidence isnt an issue for me, especially when it comes to women, making people find me attractive is another matter altogether, confidence cant open every door.

If you're having no trouble with the ladies who then are you trying to appear attractive to. I hope it's not the guys bro! Just kidding!

 

[BrightonBaldy]

I'm very confident with everybody, my job demands I interact and lead people, like I say its one thing to go speak/dance/charm a women but another for them to find you attractive.

I do know that both the women I've played the game with in this past year of being single arent idiots, they love confident, intelligent and sure-footed men, they also like them to be good looking.

I pulled a fat lass a few weeks ago and another ugly friday night, 3 years ago they wouldnt of been on my radar at all.

Confidence wont get you women, be it a drunken stranger or the girl of your dreams, the good ones want the same things as us and sadly with no hair I dont make the grade.

 

[Draco88]

Im in the same shoes. But Im going to fight. I hope you do the same. We both deserve more than this. As Gboy2k8 refers to: this years are never coming back. We have to enjoy them while we have the chance to do so. Im going to make a name for myself, study david deangelo really hard and hopefully I will start to find new perspectives in how I percieve myself and my surroundings. Ive come to the point of time where Im going to reach my vision in life, no matter what it takes. In that way I hope to regain the respect I once had to myself. I need to value myself more. After all, Im the most important person in my life. Not some stupid chicks or whatever. I cant let others judgements of me define the way I see myself. Let the power of hope be with us.

A very nice post there dude