Lost All Confidence With Girls: Looking For Ways Out

[Guzam]

After some instrospection, I found out that I actually have not enough confidence to bond with women anymore.
A little background: my hair loss started to get noticeable in 2014, at 19 years old. I was already in a relationship, which ended just a few months ago. Now that I'm again ready for the sexual market, I realized that hair loss completely scarred me psychologically. The trauma I endured was so deep that I now feel that no woman wants to hang out, nor deserves to hang out with a balding 23 years old. I have low social self confidence because of hair loss.

I have no drive to actually go and try because I think no woman deserves a NW3 to approach her. I also fear I might be rejected and eww-ed to oblivion. Any of you boys went through this? How did you get out of this state?

 

[Javell]

I'm the same age as you, started losing at 17, was already M shaped back then. male pattern baldness is such a shitty issue that has no exit. Absolutely no exit.There are only ways to cope with it. I could only tell you about what others will tell you.
Try Xanax, psychotheraphy to get over your fears if you want to feel fearless with your current hair, it may make your emotions numb and imho it is not worth it. My mother is turning even more crazy because of it.
If you cannot get over the fact that you are not NW1, get a hair transplant or hair system (this one could be hard and depends, it may also make your life harder).

I can't advise you anything else since you are already on finasteride.

 

[Feathered Harry]

Well it's a sh*tty reality, there's no doubt about that. But look, you can't write off women completely. You just can't. There's always a way to get some. But either way, my personal experience has shown me that making yourself the butt of your own jokes can be immensly helpful and theraputic. For instance, make your Tinder bio something like: "Balding, unemployed, out of shape and zero prospects". I think you'll find that a lot of women are at least intrigued by that kind of frankness. And it applies in real life conversation as well. Strange tactic, but it can help.

 

[Feathered Harry]

You also need to snap out of this black hole of self-pity. Easier said than done, I know, but it's enough already. Aren't you a cool dude? I bet you are. So that's it; stop it.
Just ask yourself if you would date yourself with this kind of mentality.

 

[BeyonSalvage]

Lol, what makes the girls so much better than you? Most of them probably have fathers and or brothers that are bald/balding, theyre carrying garbage genetics as well, you seem to think that you live in japan or korea where being bald is a death sentence since very few actually carry the balding gene over there hence it being twice as repulsive as in the west.

 

[genetically_cursed]

yeah, man. absolutely same sh*t. it's not queston of self pity or any other bullshit, its just lucid realization of your dating market value significant drop due to hair loss, which you cant control

there's no way around you it

 

[whatintheworld]

Have you tried lifting and getting a tan.

Maybe no pillow and no fap.





















Lol, just kidding man. I'm in the same boat.

 

[Saurabhaj]

Take a break..develop yourself further.

 

[yetti]

Lol, what makes the girls so much better than you? Most of them probably have fathers and or brothers that are bald/balding, theyre carrying garbage genetics as well, you seem to think that you live in japan or korea where being bald is a death sentence since very few actually carry the balding gene over there hence it being twice as repulsive as in the west.

Nonsense. At least in Japan, there are bald people everywhere and it ain’t a death sentence, not by any means.

 

[Roberto_72]

After some instrospection, I found out that I actually have not enough confidence to bond with women anymore.
A little background: my hair loss started to get noticeable in 2014, at 19 years old. I was already in a relationship, which ended just a few months ago. Now that I'm again ready for the sexual market, I realized that hair loss completely scarred me psychologically. The trauma I endured was so deep that I now feel that no woman wants to hang out, nor deserves to hang out with a balding 23 years old. I have low social self confidence because of hair loss.

I have no drive to actually go and try because I think no woman deserves a NW3 to approach her. I also fear I might be rejected and eww-ed to oblivion. Any of you boys went through this? How did you get out of this state?

I had your same problem when I was your age.
It took me almost ten years and a hair transplant to become myself again.

 

[Guzam]

I had your same problem when I was your age.
It took me almost ten years and a hair transplant to become myself again.

f***

 

[razzmatazz91]

After some instrospection, I found out that I actually have not enough confidence to bond with women anymore.
A little background: my hair loss started to get noticeable in 2014, at 19 years old. I was already in a relationship, which ended just a few months ago. Now that I'm again ready for the sexual market, I realized that hair loss completely scarred me psychologically. The trauma I endured was so deep that I now feel that no woman wants to hang out, nor deserves to hang out with a balding 23 years old. I have low social self confidence because of hair loss.

I have no drive to actually go and try because I think no woman deserves a NW3 to approach her. I also fear I might be rejected and eww-ed to oblivion. Any of you boys went through this? How did you get out of this state?

I’ve been through this. You need to get a grip mate. Focus on treatments and a hair Transplant. I think finasteride has stabilised your hair loss, isn’t it so?

I also started noticably balding/thinning Inv 2014. Now I a am almost lick Norwood 6 with retrograde and poor donor. Appericoate the fact that your life isn’t over. ... and do whatever it takes to make it better, even if it means working your *** off for two years to be able to afford a transplant.

 

[jasonstatham]

I do okay-ish with Toppik and going to cut my hair every 3 weeks (sides short as possible) and it looks shitty, but I won't kill myself. At least with Toppik you can thick your hair and I had just positive reactions on it. Maybe try to shave it all off and see how it looks. Everyone should at least try it once. If you cant handle it, save money that you would normally go to a club/bar and put it in your "hair transplant" fund or whatever. Instead of clubing go to the GYM. Make professional photos for Tinder etc and tell the guy to "hide" your balding head as good possible. Cant think of more here. That's what I did and good success.

 

[Cue Bald]

Nonsense. At least in Japan, there are bald people everywhere and it ain’t a death sentence, not by any means.

are you from Japan then?

it seems the word for baldness is considered rude in Japan and not to be discussed in polite society

 

[Javell]

are you from Japan then?

it seems the word for baldness is considered rude in Japan and not to be discussed in polite society

Have you seen weaboo sh*t animated comedies? Constant jokes about baldness, about men having 1 hair on their head and going for a haircut to trim that single f*****g hair or a man whose single, alive follicle was plucked from his bald head getting pissed, calling bald people Baldy, Baldy!.

 

[g.i joey]

What are the chances this is someone from
gourmetstylewellness.com?

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/what-is-an-incel-toronto-van-attack-explainer-alek-minassian-1.4633893

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

What are the chances this is someone from
gourmetstylewellness.com?

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/what-is-an-incel-toronto-van-attack-explainer-alek-minassian-1.4633893

Exactly what I wrote on the first page.

We've had multiple posters from the Toronto area.

 

[Javell]

Exactly what I wrote on the first page.

We've had multiple posters from the Toronto area.

Baldness terrorism. We need the cure ASAP. Can't they f*****g see it.

 

[yetti]

are you from Japan then?

it seems the word for baldness is considered rude in Japan and not to be discussed in polite society

Not from Japan but have spent lots of time there.

Pretty much everything is considered rude in Japan and not to be discussed in polite society, lol.

Have you seen weaboo sh*t animated comedies? Constant jokes about baldness, about men having 1 hair on their head and going for a haircut to trim that single f*****g hair or a man whose single, alive follicle was plucked from his bald head getting pissed, calling bald people Baldy, Baldy!.

Japanese animation and TV entertainment portrays almost the polar opposite of what actually happens in society. You've obviously also seen clips of Japanese TV programs, completely wild outgoing people, loud people in costumes, who will jump around and do crazy stuff, whatever it takes for a laugh. They are famous for that. Yet in society the Japanese are the most orderly, rules-following and introverted people you'd ever meet. It's an interesting phenomenon, I think TV/anime is a kind of emotional outlet for them.

In any case in Japan there are bald people all over the place so "few carry the balding gene" is wrong, and they are fine.

 

[blackg]

Exactly what I wrote on the first page.

We've had multiple posters from the Toronto area.

True

Not from Japan but have spent lots of time there.

Pretty much everything is considered rude in Japan and not to be discussed in polite society, lol.



Japanese animation and TV entertainment portrays almost the polar opposite of what actually happens in society. You've obviously also seen clips of Japanese TV programs, completely wild outgoing people, loud people in costumes, who will jump around and do crazy stuff, whatever it takes for a laugh. They are famous for that. Yet in society the Japanese are the most orderly, rules-following and introverted people you'd ever meet. It's an interesting phenomenon, I think TV/anime is a kind of emotional outlet for them.

In any case in Japan there are bald people all over the place so "few carry the balding gene" is wrong, and they are fine.

When I was in Nagasaki the rate of balding Japanese men more or less matched those of their Western counterparts.