templerecess
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I want more positivity on this board.
Guys, I'm 25. I, like you, am dealing with the struggle. I'm in the age range where promiscuity, dating, relationships, and maybe even marriage are coming at a guy so quickly he doesn't know what to do. And I'm balding. Now I've combed through, no pun intended, countless threads before and after joining GourmetStyleWellness. We all know the depression, self-doubt, and anger about our hair loss is mostly driven by our biological imperative. (Find women and make them yours, whatever that means for you, however priapic or romantic.)
The obvious truth, that I'm sure you all know yet are repressing, is that hair is a FACTOR in physical attractiveness. (And we need not even start on other nonphysical forms of attractiveness.) Your emotional attachment to a luscious mane inhibits your rational mind from 1) accepting that baldness does not an ugly man make 2) adapting your attractiveness 3) being indifferent at worst and content at best with your new look.
Extremely short hair or a shaved head looks EXCEPTIONAL on a man with a very angular face and pronounced features. It enhances and highlights handsome facial aesthetics. There are some bald men that are far more attractive than NW1s. The key is physical fitness and healthy skin. These things you can control. Cardio and a top notch, Patrick Bateman-esque skin care routine.
It's depressing to see men (usually the guys under 23) who will retort with "b-b-but no matter how handsome I get I'd still look better with all my hair." So what? The perfect should not be the enemy of the good. I'll rephrase. Use a 1-10 attractiveness rating scale, but in a relative sense. A 10 is you at your absolute most attractive, and a 1 is at your least. (Don't consider yourself in absolute terms compared to other guys). There are 3 possibilities. A) You actually would look better bald than with a full mane, then GREAT. B) You would absolutely look your best with a full head of hair C) You would look your best with hair, but your personality is such that this "crisis" of baldness has spurned you to a level of dedication to your looks that you could have only achieved with the impetus of this baldness. So effectively, being bald has made you your most attractive on a cost/benefit analysis.
I will finish by saying, more of you than you think fall into group A. While a majority fall into group B, a great segment of us fall into group C. If you are in group A or C, please, be more positive, because 99% of the doom and gloom on GourmetStyleWellness don't apply to you. If you're in group B, you are the reason I'm posting this. If you're 10 is with all your hair, and you were meticulous with your looks before, what good is it to get depressed because now your looks will forevermore be a 9/10? A NW3.5 Jack Nicholson in The Departed said, and I paraphrase: "a man could look at anything, and make something out of it. For instance, I look at you and I think 'what could I use you for?'"
Guys, I'm 25. I, like you, am dealing with the struggle. I'm in the age range where promiscuity, dating, relationships, and maybe even marriage are coming at a guy so quickly he doesn't know what to do. And I'm balding. Now I've combed through, no pun intended, countless threads before and after joining GourmetStyleWellness. We all know the depression, self-doubt, and anger about our hair loss is mostly driven by our biological imperative. (Find women and make them yours, whatever that means for you, however priapic or romantic.)
The obvious truth, that I'm sure you all know yet are repressing, is that hair is a FACTOR in physical attractiveness. (And we need not even start on other nonphysical forms of attractiveness.) Your emotional attachment to a luscious mane inhibits your rational mind from 1) accepting that baldness does not an ugly man make 2) adapting your attractiveness 3) being indifferent at worst and content at best with your new look.
Extremely short hair or a shaved head looks EXCEPTIONAL on a man with a very angular face and pronounced features. It enhances and highlights handsome facial aesthetics. There are some bald men that are far more attractive than NW1s. The key is physical fitness and healthy skin. These things you can control. Cardio and a top notch, Patrick Bateman-esque skin care routine.
It's depressing to see men (usually the guys under 23) who will retort with "b-b-but no matter how handsome I get I'd still look better with all my hair." So what? The perfect should not be the enemy of the good. I'll rephrase. Use a 1-10 attractiveness rating scale, but in a relative sense. A 10 is you at your absolute most attractive, and a 1 is at your least. (Don't consider yourself in absolute terms compared to other guys). There are 3 possibilities. A) You actually would look better bald than with a full mane, then GREAT. B) You would absolutely look your best with a full head of hair C) You would look your best with hair, but your personality is such that this "crisis" of baldness has spurned you to a level of dedication to your looks that you could have only achieved with the impetus of this baldness. So effectively, being bald has made you your most attractive on a cost/benefit analysis.
I will finish by saying, more of you than you think fall into group A. While a majority fall into group B, a great segment of us fall into group C. If you are in group A or C, please, be more positive, because 99% of the doom and gloom on GourmetStyleWellness don't apply to you. If you're in group B, you are the reason I'm posting this. If you're 10 is with all your hair, and you were meticulous with your looks before, what good is it to get depressed because now your looks will forevermore be a 9/10? A NW3.5 Jack Nicholson in The Departed said, and I paraphrase: "a man could look at anything, and make something out of it. For instance, I look at you and I think 'what could I use you for?'"
