Peoples Shame Of Discussing Baldness

Joan

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I didn't know it, sorry.

No apology needed. Just try not to feel that everyone in life wants to sh*t on you, and please stop calling yourself ugly. In my entire life, I have never considered anyone ugly on the outside, and that includes when I was your age. That's a strong word to me.
 

EvilLocks

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Thank you, EvilLocks. :)

Maybe Dante doesn't realize I'm 53 and have an older son close to his age (I think he said he's in his 20s) who's been losing hair since he was 18 and that some people do sympathize with him.

No problem, Joan. I always have your back here ya know :) PS. I replied to your last PM, sorry for taking so long. I hope you can read it :)
 

Dante92

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No apology needed. Just try not to feel that everyone in life wants to sh*t on you, and please stop calling yourself ugly. In my entire life, I have never considered anyone ugly on the outside, and that includes when I was your age. That's a strong word to me.

Thank you, I appreciate your honesty, i find it refreshing, at least in this forum.
 

Roberto_72

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Thank you, EvilLocks. :)

Maybe Dante doesn't realize I'm 53 and have an older son close to his age (I think he said he's in his 20s) who's been losing hair since he was 18 and that some people do sympathize with him.

Joan, may I ask you what the outlook is for such a young lad who is thinning in this day and age?

I mean, when I was 18, we only had 2% minoxidil.
Finasteride had not been discovered and hair transplants were still the doll-plug-type.

You've been on this site for a while and know current and future treatments. Is this enough to be:
- moderately hopeful
- very hopeful
- just a little hopeful?
Thanks for your input...
 

Joan

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Joan, may I ask you what the outlook is for such a young lad who is thinning in this day and age?

I mean, when I was 18, we only had 2% minoxidil.
Finasteride had not been discovered and hair transplants were still the doll-plug-type.

You've been on this site for a while and know current and future treatments. Is this enough to be:
- moderately hopeful
- very hopeful
- just a little hopeful?
Thanks for your input...
I think my son (he recently turned 21) has aggressive Androgenetic Alopecia, since he started taking finasteride at 18-1/2 years old and his shedding and thinning are still nonstop. His temples are creeping back, and he has much less hair overall. He refuses to use minoxidil because he says it may only stave off the inevitable. I've tried to change his mind every so often (I don't want to nag), telling him he should try to hang onto what he has for as long as possible; my words fall on deaf ears. I just hope he can graduate college next year without a bald spot.

As far as my opinion on current and future treatments, I'm totally lost in the Research, Technologies and Treatments section. I rely on the opinions of the knowledgeable and educated posters (for whom I'm grateful) to base my optimism and pessimism, which change from day to day.
 

I.D WALKER

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Now honestly Evil, what ever makes you think he's going to answer you honestly? :D
 

I.D WALKER

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Unfairly kind of you to say, my silver tongued prevaricator. The only thing falling for me at the moment is more hair. :(
Damn shame that flattery get's us no hair.
 

buckthorn

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I can't tell if girls don't like nice guys because:

1) They don't like pushovers (direct dislike), they want to feel submissive and not feel like her majesty;
2) Being nice correlates with other attributes (indirect dislike), such as being the lower status person in a relationship. If an 8 is dating a 5, the 5 might turn into a supplicant, then the 8 will dump him on the basis that "he's too nice", but she was probably eventually going to dump him regardless;
3) Frequent niceness dilutes the value of regular niceness (semi direct dislike), like if you bring her flowers multiple times a year she will stop valuing flowers;
4) They genuinely do like nice guys, but men are delusional about who's nice and who isn't, for example the "nice guys of okcupid", all of those men thought they were filled with compassion, and they weren't, they just came off as delusional;

Good points. I sincerely think that most "genuine" women, that is women that are well balanced and looking to eventually start a family, do like nice guys. It's just the manner in which they are nice. I listen to women I care about, and help them solve their problems, if reasonable. I will also fix things, once again, if reasonable, because i am very handy and enjoy doing that for people. I also enjoy making gifts for people, sometimes randomly, sometimes for special occasions. I am not touting my own horn here when I say that I am just inherently kind to people, given what I have been through in my own life, and how I desperately needed kindness at those points.

That being said, i believe SOME women want to manipulate this type of kindness, whether subconsciously or directly. These same women will then slowly become disgusted by the same push over that they've created. I have had this happen to me.

I personally think that the only aspects in which you need to be an independent "bad boy", non pushover is with sex, availability and with the above mentioned overly desperate, do anything kindness.

I have never been too physically available. I like to see a girl im dating at most three times a week. I enjoy quality time, activities, etc... Especially those that involve nature (hiking, biking, kayaking, camping). I feel these situations not only keep the relationship interesting, but bring create a different kind of bond, one that is longer lasting. I also like a LOT of foreplay. I personally believe the actual act of sex shouldn't be sooner than 30min to 2 hours after starting to turn each other on. Men should be dominant in bed, at least initially. This I also believe. Sexual dominance has completely turned on 100% of everyone I have ever slept with.

Another big part of not being a "push over", I strongly believe, is how she sees you interacting with people outside of the relationship. I was literally in the situation with one of my ex's where an old friend, with a big mouth made the very rare comment, "your hair is thinning out". I responded with, "no sh*t, are you a twelve year old with aspergers? lol or in any situation where you are negotiating a deal, or talking on the phone with a company, etc... NO ONE likes a push over when it comes to these things.

idk.. these are just my opinions. But like Fred implied, I will NEVER again be manipulated. It happened once and it won't happen again.

Be kind, open and do nice things for those you care about... BUT, WHEN they start to manipulate it, tell them to eat a f*cking dick. ;)
 

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Just out of curiousity Dante, why do you think I'm not honest? :)

It is easy for men who have never had a lot of success with women to be extremely bitter about women and for that bitterness to project as violent misogyny and a targeted hatred to specific women, particularly attractive women as you apparently are.

That you brag about the social benefits of being hot may feel like a knife in the wound to someone extremely self conscious about not being hot and not getting the benefits thereof.

If said person has given up on life, hope, and ambition and instead chosen to perpetually indulge in the catharsis of misery and self-pity, then that will include further lashing out.
 
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