The Girl Of My Dreams Dumped Me...a Wake Up Call To Get On The Big 3

[buckthorn]

This is absolute bullshit the whole lower your standard theory, and believing

Nameless had the right idea. Once you get used to being with beautiful women you entire life, it's never the same.

Would rather be alone then be with someone you're not truly into. He said that himself, and I am starting to feel the same way. I dont need a women in my life for the sake of being with someone, that whole being dependent on someone for emotion is not me. If I am going to be with someone, it's a women I am crazy for.


Having sex with a women your barely into is boring, I would rather jerk off. All though when you truly like the person you're with, it's like fire works going off in bed. Sex is just awesome.

I disagree, entirely. you can date a girl with a hot body, that just has an average face and still be happy. the sex will be almost just as good. stop being greedy. you're all just decaying, disgusting pieces of meat trash despite how hard you try. haha

 

[whatintheworld]

This is absolute bullshit the whole lower your standard theory, and believing

Nameless had the right idea. Once you get used to being with beautiful women you entire life, it's never the same.

Would rather be alone then be with someone you're not truly into. He said that himself, and I am starting to feel the same way. I dont need a women in my life for the sake of being with someone, that whole being dependent on someone for emotion is not me. If I am going to be with someone, it's a women I am crazy for.


Having sex with a women your barely into is boring, I would rather jerk off. All though when you truly like the person you're with, it's like fire works going off in bed. Sex is just awesome.

Exactly how I feel.

 

[shookwun]

Nothing compensates for hair, if a girl introduces him to his family or her friends, she' still going to get comments like:

"He has no hair, doesn't it bother you? I couldn't date a guy who's bald, I'd think I can do better than that..."

Girls can't take that kind of criticism, they value their social worth above anything else, and your bald head is compromising it.

She won't allow that, and find herself a good-looking NW1 so that she can get "you go girl!" comments again.

You can't lower your standards by the way. Couples are almost always looksmatched.

Can't punch above your weight, can't punch below.

What happens when you're in Buck's situation where you have the Friar Tuck look going? Have a hairline but are balding every where else!

 

[Marky]

This is absolute bullshit the whole lower your standard theory, and believing

Nameless had the right idea. Once you get used to being with beautiful women you entire life, it's never the same.

Would rather be alone then be with someone you're not truly into. He said that himself, and I am starting to feel the same way. I dont need a women in my life for the sake of being with someone, that whole being dependent on someone for emotion is not me. If I am going to be with someone, it's a women I am crazy for.


Having sex with a women your barely into is boring, I would rather jerk off. All though when you truly like the person you're with, it's like fire works going off in bed. Sex is just awesome.

This is spot on. You can't trick your mind into being attracted to someone - be single instead and live in hope is way better.

Too many walk into marriage with this mind set, then either end up in divorce court or suffer in silence while putting a fake smile on their face - not sure which is more miserable. Gotta get it right from the beginning.

 

[Marky]

Women are especially delusional about it in this day and age.

They think they're being a good girl and making the right choice by marrying an average guy that they're not that sexually attracted to but makes good money.

Huge mistake. If that sexual attraction is not there and strong from the beginning, this is going to end badly for both of them.

But a lot of women are just coping through this: "It's OK, it's OK, sex is not that important, I'm not shallow, I'm not shallow!"

Until they install Tinder and urge the first tall hot NW1 they to come relieve the pressure in their panties.

Then you know the rest: "I'm sorry, I feel that my feeling for you have changed, I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore. I think we should see other people, it would be good for us, you know open marriages work quite well!"

Yes bingo. Woman are made to breed and have kids thats why they can't control their sexual desires. The only reason they went for the average guy with money is because thats all that was available at the time. Until something better comes along - then it's see ya.

 

[Marky]

Women are especially delusional about it in this day and age.

They think they're being a good girl and making the right choice by marrying an average guy that they're not that sexually attracted to but makes good money.

Huge mistake. If that sexual attraction is not there and strong from the beginning, this is going to end badly for both of them.

But a lot of women are just coping through this: "It's OK, it's OK, sex is not that important, I'm not shallow, I'm not shallow!"

Until they install Tinder and urge the first tall hot NW1 they to come relieve the pressure in their panties.

Then you know the rest: "I'm sorry, I feel that my feeling for you have changed, I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore. I think we should see other people, it would be good for us, you know open marriages work quite well!"

But Fred what about sex getting boring in marriage, even with someone you're attracted to at the beginning?

 

[whatintheworld]

Dang a lot of truth being said here...better make sure I rub this minoxidil in extra well.

 

[Marky]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/office-diaries/201203/sexless-marriage-is-surprisingly-common

Frankly, I understand why this happens. Mostly because of the woman getting unappealing for the guy.

And even then, most married men don't really take care of themselves, so it goes both ways.

If a guy takes care of himself, he can remain sexually attractive until his late 50's.

But women, once they get into their mid-30's, it will be hard for most men to get it up.

That's the sad reality and why you see a lot of decent-looking older men just replacing their wives with a younger model.

I think to put it simply sex with the same person just gets boring fast. Just look at Arnold Schwarzenegger cheating on his wife with the maid. However I don't condone cheating outside of marriage, Its only things like watching p**rn that puts fantasies into couples minds, if you don't go there you focus more on your marriage partner and it can still good, just hard cause we live in a pornified world - gotta be a strong SOB to overcome it.

 

[hellouser]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/office-diaries/201203/sexless-marriage-is-surprisingly-common

Frankly, I understand why this happens. Mostly because of the woman getting unappealing for the guy.

And even then, most married men don't really take care of themselves, so it goes both ways.

If a guy takes care of himself, he can remain sexually attractive until his late 50's.

But women, once they get into their mid-30's, it will be hard for most men to get it up.

That's the sad reality and why you see a lot of decent-looking older men just replacing their wives with a younger model.

Reminds me of Jeff Dunham with his puppet Walter:


Jeff Dunham:
[talking about Walter's wife] She's a lovely lady.

Walter:
She's getting old.

Jeff Dunham:
Well, women age like... like fine wine.

Walter:
She's aging like milk!

 

[Marky]

I think to put it simply sex with the same person just gets boring fast. Just look at Arnold Schwarzenegger cheating on his wife with the maid. However I don't condone cheating outside of marriage, Its only things like watching p*rn that puts fantasies into couples minds, if you don't go there you focus more on your marriage partner and it can still good, just hard cause we live in a pornified world - gotta be a strong SOB to overcome it.

Reminds me of the marriage slogan - lust rust then dust! Gotta make it happen

 

[Marky]

Dang a lot of truth being said here...better make sure I rub this minoxidil in extra well.

Go for dutasteride man, once a week is more effective than finasteride everyday. I'm happier with my hair at 40 than I was at 28.
The hassle of minoxidil only a few times a week before bed, then throw in Nizoral and Nioxin a few times a week - then the prayer I say when I lather up in the shower:

From the crown of my head to the soul of my feet
In the name of Jesus Christ I command every hair follicle on my head
to produce healthy unhindered hair as was designed by God
So that I may have a full head of hair all the days of my life for the greater glory of God
I am blessed and not cursed and any blessing by God is stronger
than any curse, amen.

Then you're golden!

 

[shookwun]

I have recently added minoxidil back into my regimen to see if I benefit from it at all.

Going to be applying 2x a day, and monitoring my progress. Monthly assessments then I will decide whether it's worth continuing


I wish I had 50Litres of minoxidil.

Dump my head into a bucket every night before bed. .

 

[Roberto_72]

@whatintheworld, even if it were for the hair, what could you do? You did not command your hair to fall out. You say you could have started treatments before: who says you would have been a good responder?
Baldness is not something you can harness, contrary to what lots of people think. It's not your fault.

 

[F2005]

Women are especially delusional about it in this day and age.

They think they're being a good girl and making the right choice by marrying an average guy that they're not that sexually attracted to but makes good money.

Huge mistake. If that sexual attraction is not there and strong from the beginning, this is going to end badly for both of them.

But a lot of women are just coping through this: "It's OK, it's OK, sex is not that important, I'm not shallow, I'm not shallow!"

Until they install Tinder and urge the first tall hot NW1 they to come relieve the pressure in their panties.

Then you know the rest: "I'm sorry, I feel that my feeling for you have changed, I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore. I think we should see other people, it would be good for us, you know open marriages work quite well!"

It's like I always say: NEVER listen to what people say, yet ALWAYS watch what they do. Like my a couple of friends who assured that it's what's on the inside that counts, yet they both married some of the most shallow attention w****s around. On the flipside, I am sure that plenty of girls will claim that baldness does not matter, yet they do so with their NW1 boyfriend/husband waiting at home. The best was one girl that I know who posted one of those stupid motivational captions on facebook, which read something like "beautiful: it has nothing to do with looks, but instead how you are on the inside and how you make others feel about themselves". And her hiring of a professional photographer to take extremely airbrushed photos of her in lingerie (so she could post them online) really illustrated that she practices what she preaches (obviously sarcastic). The hypocrisy in the world (esp. when it comes to hair loss) is absolutely mind-blowing.

 

[F2005]

And to the OP once again: I will say that since you are 6'5 and muscular, you could probably pull off the bald look if you choose to do so. But at the same time, I know how you feel. A drastic change in a person's looks really f***s with a person's identity. I mean, how can it not? Fullheads will always remain clueless to this. I am 6'0 and muscular too, and I've been told that I have the attributes to pull off the bald look. Yet I am still absolutely petrified of bic'ing my head for some of the same reasons that you have mentioned.

 

[blackg]

Sorry this happened to you. It was happening to me every two months when I was slick bald: "Sorry I don't want to be with anyone right now / We're too different / You're too selfish, you don't do enough for me, you don't text me enough."

Haha.. here we go again. "Every two months." CRAP!
This only happened at one of your fantasy camps. You know it, I know it and anyone with half a brain knows it.
Fantasy-cel.

 

[whatintheworld]

I guess what I want to say is...had I just receded, like gone to nw2 or nw3 even, but kept my density, I never would have made an account here, and I don't think she would have cared. That's why I'm actually amazed at how people get so up in arms by like going from a NW1 to a NW2. Hell, looking around there are people with thick NW2's getting transplants to go to NW1, lol.

The problem is how quickly I saw things were going to nw5 maybe even nw6, the horseshoe pattern becoming visible in the sunlight, hairline disintegrating and becoming see-through, hairs having no strength to them...all of a sudden nothing else positive that I had going for me mattered.

But I still thought, well, this is "natural" right, she wouldn't leave me over this I can't even control it...

But I did get insecure about it obviously. I started being grateful that she was still with me, because if I had to go back out in the game with this state, confidence fading, at least internally but I tried not to project it externally, it would be really mentally draining, to display this false sense of "yeah, everything is all right, I'm happy and content with everything..."

So the tables definitely turned, where in the beginning she was chasing me, to where I was actually hoping she wouldn't leave me and accept me in my "flawed" state. Maybe she just had a sixth sense I felt like this, even though I really tried hard to never show this concern. I never mentioned my hair once to her.

 

[tellersquill]

I guess what I want to say is...had I just receded, like gone to nw2 or nw3 even, but kept my density, I never would have made an account here, and I don't think she would have cared. That's why I'm actually amazed at how people get so up in arms by like going from a NW1 to a NW2. Hell, looking around there are people with thick NW2's getting transplants to go to NW1, lol.

The problem is how quickly I saw things were going to nw5 maybe even nw6, the horseshoe pattern becoming visible in the sunlight, hairline disintegrating and becoming see-through, hairs having no strength to them...all of a sudden nothing else positive that I had going for me mattered.

But I still thought, well, this is "natural" right, she wouldn't leave me over this I can't even control it...

But I did get insecure about it obviously. I started being grateful that she was still with me, because if I had to go back out in the game with this state, confidence fading, at least internally but I tried not to project it externally, it would be really mentally draining, to display this false sense of "yeah, everything is all right, I'm happy and content with everything..."

So the tables definitely turned, where in the beginning she was chasing me, to where I was actually hoping she wouldn't leave me and accept me in my "flawed" state. Maybe she just had a sixth sense I felt like this, even though I really tried hard to never show this concern. I never mentioned my hair once to her.

Well try to move forward as best you can.

It looks like your handling what has happened emotionally at least.

Just out of curiousity - now that you have no hair - are you shaving it away?

Also, have you tried dating yet?

 

[whatintheworld]

I have hair, it's sort of in a manu-ginobili state right now, but without a completely bald crown, that has thin/weak hairs that i'm hoping finasteride and min will turn terminal.

I'm actually going to buzz it because it looks like, to use one of the expressions i've read here, a diffused rats nest lol. This weekend I'm going to buzz the sides down to a 1/2 and the top like a 4 or 5.

Well since I just got dumped recently no I haven't.

 

[Dench57]

I guess what I want to say is...had I just receded, like gone to nw2 or nw3 even, but kept my density, I never would have made an account here, and I don't think she would have cared. That's why I'm actually amazed at how people get so up in arms by like going from a NW1 to a NW2. Hell, looking around there are people with thick NW2's getting transplants to go to NW1, lol.

The problem is how quickly I saw things were going to nw5 maybe even nw6, the horseshoe pattern becoming visible in the sunlight, hairline disintegrating and becoming see-through, hairs having no strength to them...all of a sudden nothing else positive that I had going for me mattered.

dense NW1-2.5 isn't balding in the eyes of society and few people will care.
NW3 and over, when it starts to diffuse = game over