Why so much hate in this forum ?

[DoctorHouse]

Tell me Doctor, when you were just a kid did you toss and turn at night preoccupied with thoughts of high cholesterol, carpel tunnel syndrome and liver failure? Just because things can and will go wrong later in life doesn't validate not wanting to improve your current situation... because life is about being in the present, isn't it?

So yes, for me right now a cure would be enough. It would be more than enough and to suggest that I somehow wouldn't be satisfied after all of the years of suffering is in itself cynical and defeatist.

UM, For YOU maybe it might be enough, but for some it might not be enough. Even with a full head of hair, people can be miserable for other reasons. I was myself. My point is unless you can accept yourself no matter what changes you experience, you will never be happy. Any time people fail at anything in life( even if its beyond their control), people who are insecure will blame themselves for failure and try to make excuses that are usually associated with physical flaws or self esteem issues.

Lets just say we lived in a world where everyone looked like a perfect 10 and no one was bald. You think it would be a world with absolutely no depression or anxiety? A world without mocking or teasing? A world without jealously? All our problems stem from situations we have chosen to be a problem based on how we are treated by society.

UM, if you lived in a world where no one mocks, teases or judges, your baldness would never have been an issue for you. Its because society treated you differently that your situation became your problem. Baldness was the only excuse you came up with of why you have a problem. You may come across as arrogant and maybe that was really your problem in some situations. I just met this person from my childhood and she said the women thought I was arrogant and stuck up because I never talked to them. I had social anxiety and was shy but they thought it was arrogance. My theory about you is that you are tall and good looking even without hair and you were a "threat" to the alpha male and they attack you on your hair since that is the only flaw they can find with you. And for the women, you may exude arrogance and so they mock your hair situation. Notice how I used the word situation.

My point is we live in a "wicked hellish society" that is all about control. If you give into this, you will be miserable with or without hair. People will always mock and judge out of insecurity and jealousy so they can control you and make you feel miserable. Scarred4life wants the miserable bigot to be reinstated because he wants another person to join in his agenda to stay miserable for the rest of your life because you are bald and in his case scarred. He just wants company or what he calls support. Nothing more. Exodus has been a victim to this and so have so many others on here. Don't let these people control your emotions and create problems for you. If Exodus was never teased and told he looks like a stud, he would have no reason to be here. We are here because we all have mental issues. Until we resolve, them, they will haunt us for life. I just honestly don't think a full head of hair would be enough to do this. That is just my opinion and I respect your opinion as well UM.

 

[DannyBoyy]

UM, For YOU maybe it might be enough, but for some it might not be enough. Even with a full head of hair, people can be miserable for other reasons. I was myself. My point is unless you can accept yourself no matter what changes you experience, you will never be happy. Any time people fail at anything in life( even if its beyond their control), people who are insecure will blame themselves for failure and try to make excuses that are usually associated with physical flaws or self esteem issues.

Lets just say we lived in a world where everyone looked like a perfect 10 and no one was bald. You think it would be a world with absolutely no depression or anxiety? A world without mocking or teasing? A world without jealously? All our problems stem from situations we have chosen to be a problem based on how we are treated by society.

UM, if you lived in a world where no one mocks, teases or judges, your baldness would never have been an issue for you. Its because society treated you differently that your situation became your problem. Baldness was the only excuse you came up with of why you have a problem. You may come across as arrogant and maybe that was really your problem in some situations. I just met this person from my childhood and she said the women thought I was arrogant and stuck up because I never talked to them. I had social anxiety and was shy but they thought it was arrogance. My theory about you is that you are tall and good looking even without hair and you were a "threat" to the alpha male and they attack you on your hair since that is the only flaw they can find with you. And for the women, you may exude arrogance and so they mock your hair situation. Notice how I used the word situation.

My point is we live in a "wicked hellish society" that is all about control. If you give into this, you will be miserable with or without hair. People will always mock and judge out of insecurity and jealousy so they can control you and make you feel miserable. Scarred4life wants the miserable bigot to be reinstated because he wants another person to join in his agenda to stay miserable for the rest of your life because you are bald and in his case scarred. He just wants company or what he calls support. Nothing more. Exodus has been a victim to this and so have so many others on here. Don't let these people control your emotions and create problems for you. If Exodus was never teased and told he looks like a stud, he would have no reason to be here. We are here because we all have mental issues. Until we resolve, them, they will haunt us for life. I just honestly don't think a full head of hair would be enough to do this. That is just my opinion and I respect your opinion as well UM.

Well said...well bloody said bravo *clap clap clap*

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

I concur, DoctorHouse put it far more eloquently than I could.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Indeed we live in a wicked, hellish society House. Dog eat dog but it's always the bigger dog eating the smaller dog and not the other way around. It's a looksist hierarchy filled with jealously, prejudice and animality. One big ****ing ugly pecking order! But I'm a small dog Doctor, these alpha ken dolls aren't threatened by me. They pick on me out of a sense of arrogance, entitlement and superiority... they see a skinny, pale bald guy and their social instinct reads "weakness" by which they then feel obligated to fulfill their alpha duty and take a dump on me. Like I said earlier in another thread, I told my shrink that either a full head of hair or an end to baldism are the only two things that will put this issue to rest for me. Trust me House, I would love to be able to not be affected by all of this and transcend it somehow but I see no escape from it. No man is an island and we are all chained to this society in all it's animosity. And I can't just choose to ignore peoples rude comments and insulting reactions because that is a form of denial, just sticking my head in the sand like an ostrich that refuses to deal with it's reality and pretend everything is fine. Also I think perhaps the reason you feel like hair is not the answer is because you already have your hair and like most things we already posses, it's value is taken for granted.

 

[DoctorHouse]

UM, if you want to let these people control your emotions, then you are entitled to allow it. You can deal with your "reality" by defending yourself to people who want to control you. Its normal instincts to defend yourself but I chose not to bother most of the time as I think its a total non productive waste of my time. My time is way to valuable to "fight" with ignorant people who think they can control my emotions. Bill Gates and Steve Jobs never allowed the alpha male or as you called them big dogs to prevent them from achieving their goals that changed our world forever. I know I can never convince you to change your perspectives on how you view yourself or society as I don't have any control over you to do so. I don't want to control you or anyone on here. I just want to share how I try to deal with situations that I have allow to become my problems. There is nothing wrong with walking away from a "war" you can never win. People have always respected me because of my nature to help others. I will continue do that for the rest of my life as I find it one of the most rewarding things in my life and it makes we want to continue to live in a world even if its dog eat dog. I have learned to avoid situations that will become problems. I may envy the looks of certain alpha males but I would never want to have their "sense of entitlement" or arrogance as you put it. I would still treat everyone as an "equal" as I know I am no better than anyone else including you UM. I wish I could cure everyone's baldness on this forum but I just don't have that ability. If I can help just one person in here, I feel my posts will never be a waste of time.

 

[uncomfortable man]

Unless you can invent a device that turns insults to compliments then I don't know. I don't know how not to be offended when insulted. It's like immediate cause and effect- someone punches you really hard in the stomach and you keel over from getting the wind knocked out of you. That is why I cover my head in public... as you say "I have learned to avoid situations that will become problems." I appreciate your well meaning and willingness to help but unless you can give me some insight on how to abandon all of my instincts and inclinations to care and just "let go" then I'm afraid we are at a loss.

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

I do empathise UC Man. I get nasty comments about my height, I'm not at the laugh it off stage. I just won't react angrily, because then I get the added insult of being told I have short man syndrome. I had self esteem issues about it since before many posters were born. When your sister who is 3 years younger than is taller at four than you are at seven (she's 5ft 10, I'm 5ft 3 ) it's tough. But I won't give them the satisfaction of knowing they've hurt me.

 

[uncomfortable man]

And neither do I chris. Out there I put on a brave face and try and use wit to my advantage but inside I a screaming at them.

I had a male guest literally laugh in my face at work yesterday. I managed to keep my composure in front of the other customers but I could feel my body jolting and I had to stop myself from lunging at him.

That is why everything I write here is so dark. This is the only place I can let off steam from the ongoing BS I have to deal with from my daily life.

 

[zeroes]

Let me guess he was laughing at your baldness but never said it to you.

 

[DoctorHouse]

UM, That is proof that you do have the ability to control the situation and avoid a problem. The more you do it, the easier it gets. Good for you. And I am glad you do have a place like this to vent. Nothing wrong with venting as long as you are not "attacking".

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

DrHouse, I find your posting on BDD very interesting. In my case all my negative thoughts about myself related to being short. I fell into the trap of thinking, that my life would be so much easier if I was just x inches taller. Then when my hair situation came into play it all transferred into thinking my life would be better if I had Oli Sykes hair. I spent years sat at home ruminating and wishing for changes. I'm still not out of the woods, but I do have a much better handle on things, plus I know I'm far more critical of my appearance than anyone else ever would be...

 

[Quantum Cat]

I suggest a new forum on this board: Only members with high Norwoods allowed to post in

 

[Scarred4Life]

I suggest a new forum on this board: Only members with high Norwoods allowed to post in

I absolutely agree. Why people with hair are allowed to come here and harass us while those like BBSA who speak the truth are banned is beyond me.

Hell, the website should be changed to "Full Head of Hair Talk .com"

 

[DannyBoyy]

I absolutely agree. Why people with hair are allowed to come here and harass us while those like BBSA who speak the truth are banned is beyond me.

Hell, the website should be changed to "Full Head of Hair Talk .com"

BBSA spoke the truth? so you agree with his homophobic insults?

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

This guy won't accept the reason why BBSA was banned. If you look on the thread in Off Topic, he accuses the site of having a "gay agenda" amongst other things. He's a lost cause. I'm not going to waste any more time on him. Let him stay miserable if that's what he wants, he deserves no better....

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I suggest a new forum on this board: Only members with high Norwoods allowed to post in

Excellent idea! Would reduce some of the friction around here

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Here are his wonderful leaps of logic, in defending BBSA post 11

http://www.gourmetstylewellness.com/interact/showthread.php/65591-Welcome-Back-BBAS/page2

 

[Jockson]

I absolutely agree. Why people with hair are allowed to come here and harass us while those like BBSA who speak the truth are banned is beyond me.

Hell, the website should be changed to "Full Head of Hair Talk .com"

Your buddy BBSA had more hair than most people you're accusing of trolling. Just sayin'.

Separate forum for higher NWs has been suggested before. It would be pretty pointless since there are very few very bald people on here and most of the discussion, both negative and positive is coming from NW2-NW3's.

 

[Quantum Cat]

I see nothing's changed around here while I've been absent: 'you have more hair than me!' ... 'no YOU have more hair than me!'


pretty soon people are going to be demanding exact hair counts from members :mrgreen:

 

[ChrisW1980uk]

It tends to be those with higher Norwood numbers using that card as a way to censure arguments that they don't agree with. Along with S4L deliberately misrepresenting anything other than a negative comment as people saying that hair loss is joyous. Nobody has said that. Let's face it, if any of us were completely well adjusted about hair loss, we wouldn't even be here!

 

[Scarred4Life]

BBSA spoke the truth? so you agree with his homophobic insults?

I have no problem with someone being homophobic, any more than I have a problem with people who have a phobia of spiders or heights. Homosexuality is considered perversion by most people. It is not natural and is a defect in the brain. Gays don't want to be treated the same as everyone else. They want to be treated better than everyone else.

That said, should he have attacked someone with the comments he did? No.

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Your buddy BBSA had more hair than most people you're accusing of trolling. Just sayin'.

Yet he had he ability to see the plight of the bald man. Something the rest of you with hair can't do.

 

[zeroes]

I am now just LOL at s4l. He isn't even worth trying to reason with. I only wish the younger guys like Exodous don't get brain washed by people like s4l. I think Exodous is still young enough to turn things around.