Confidence And Charisma More Important Than Hair?

[SmoothSailing]

you cannot chose what do you value

you value thing or not

you like some people or not

your consciousness dictates it

for most of woman their consciousness dictates that baldness is deformity

for me my brain dictates me I DO NOT LIKE FAT GIRLS and I cannot change it

Yes there's no changing what attracts you. That is not what I was talking about.

You can change what makes you happy. (look into meditation). A partner is one thing that makes people happy. Good sex, dating , being happy with how you look, a good social life are more common things that make someone happy. Your appearance will have an effect on almost all of these. But my point is that people can value many things other than sex, dating and finding a partner. These things can make an ugly person happy and an attractive person sad.

This isn't disputed in my mind. There are happy ugly people and there are sad attractive people.

I don't do that.

Society does though.

Great then you should have no problem understanding why a pretty person might be sad. They value things other than their looks.

Time heals all wounds.

Except hair loss, you'll just get balder, uglier and more depressed.

Not comparable.

Time heals diabetes, cancer, paralysis, down syndrome and blindness? News to me.

 

[hairblues]

I don't do that.

Society does though.

You are correct society has some definite stereotypes of what is acceptable not acceptable part of it is biological and part of it is societal standards.

so what is your message to these young 20 something guys who are having difficulty dating or working or school whatever?
thats what i am unclear about because it 'reads' as if you are saying 'f*** it guys your screwed."

Is that what you are saying?

 

[hellouser]

It's so funny, I gave my friends girlfriend a light grilling on the subject. We got on the subject by talking about halloween costumes and I said I wanted to shave my head and go as Heisenberg. Then they said I should do it, and asked if I want to. I said shaving my head is on my bucket list (it is). After that we got onto the topic of my buddy and his hair and I said it's too long and it's time to cut it (its like 2 feet long and he's got the stupid man bun thing). Anyway, they then said I should shave it and I might look good bald, to which I said hell no, no way, baldness does not look good... they objected, LOL. His girlfriend said her dad is bald and has been since he was 19. I said 'Bald at 19?! God damn, what a sexual death sentence.' They objected again, LOL, saying its not a sexual death sentence. I said 'Ok, so... why isn't baldness in a womans prince charming list?' They didnt understand. So I said 'You know...a woman's prince charming list, things she likes in a guy; chiseled jaw, broad shoulders, ripped 6-pack abs..... and... BALDNESS?' They again objected, saying its not about looks and she said its not a big deal that baldness in a guy wouldnt bother her. So I asked 'Oh yeah? How many bald men have you dated?'

ZERO.

They still had problems with this and said... get this.... *I* was the one fixated on looks... LMFAO!!!! Jesus christ... what I would give to be so f*****g ignorant on the matter and never have to worry about this kind of sh*t simply because I won the genetic lottery... these people have it REALLY good.

I forgot to mention, while they said I was fixated on looks, this came from a guy with a man-bun with a 10/10 girlfriend that told me she wants to start botox soon... LMAO.

 

[shookwun]

People who are not low enough on the looks scale cannot understand this.

As a guy who has been slick bald at the age of 22, I completely get it.

My height and face still allowed me to have sex with women, but none of them stayed very long.

And people told me it must have been my attitude.

Or better: "You don't do enough for her, why don't you clean her apartment while she's at school?!" (real suggestion)

Of course it was my looks, it was my baldness that drove them away.

After my hair transplant, almost all the girls I dated "stayed".

They will resent you for other problems in your life, further burdening your situation.

Didn't your ex girlfriend resent the fact that you were unemployed despite looking for work. If I remember correctly she had a job in management, and was always taking jabs at you on your situation.


Baldness, and other negative attributes magnify the situation and make them even more worse then they actually are

 

[hairblues]

She's never taken jabs at me. But she was already a manager, despite being two years younger than me.

I know what this situation meant. It's funny though, I had my last conversation with her the day before I got my first job.

I completely agree when you say that every little problem you have will be magnified if you don't have the looks to compensate.

That's why my cousin can be unemployed, smoke weed and expect his wife to fight tooth and nail for his attention.

Me on the other hand, not much room for mistakes. Being unemployed will be unacceptable for my girlfriend.

and what about girl now? you lose hair she's gone?

 

[hairblues]

100% certain.

No wonder you sound so wound...thats stressful.

you must feel like you walk on eggs all the time.

 

[tellersquill]

Well I've been unhappy when I had a full head of hair and attractive.

And contrary top popular belief, women don't approach you in the street or at work if you are decent looking (well, maybe if your are brad pitt).

I was unhappy for many reasons:

-Have no family
-Poor health at the time (back injury)
-Too shy with women (partly my own fault but I think it was because of low self esteem)
-I had an awful part time job and I couldn't get a better one (I eventually got a degree and improved situation).
-Sad about the state of the world - wars, rape, cruelty etc.
-Down because there wasn't much that I looked forward to accept petty things like sports games or reading a book.

I was decent looking but really f*****g down.

Beauty alone is not enough to be happy go lucky.

 

[hairblues]

Is that a serious question? That's obviously what ANY girl would do, and gladly so.

any girl? thats debatable but i believe him when he says this about his specific girlfriend and i believe him when he says the women he has been with so far are like this.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Is that a serious question? That's obviously what ANY girl would do, and gladly so.

Most girls, not all. I know two couples that show that it doesn't apply to all girls. One of them being my parents.

 

[hellouser]

Most girls, not all. I know two couples that show that it doesn't apply to all girls. One of them being my parents.

Your parents lived in a different time where LOOKS weren't psychotically obsessed over.

 

[SmoothSailing]

Your parents lived in a different time where LOOKS weren't psychotically obsessed over.

True, just pointing out how it isn't every girl. There are 'weirdos' or outliers out there that are different.

 

[SmoothSailing]

You mean the women who stick with their balding boyfriend?

Yes.

 

[hellouser]

And where women were not so picky and shallow as today and didn't take pride in acting like sl*ts.

Do you think that with each decade, society just tries to 'one-up' the previous decade with essentially everything? Looks, attitudes, fashions, music, etc and go to the extremes? I find that women we're more subtle about things in the past whereas now it seems be a free-for-all overload of everything SEX oriented. I can't imagine what's to come in the next decade...

 

[tellersquill]

In the UK they say our generation of under 25's are the most boring and safe in 40 years.

Reports suggest they:

-Get in less fights
-Drink a lot less
-Go to pubs and bars less
-Have less sex per week (though have more partners)
-No discernible youth movement (like grunge, punk, rave etc).

They might dress in more revealing clothes but their lifestyle is pretty timid for the standards of youth.

 

[uhoil]

Oh man I can't imagine giving up on girls... pretty unfair, that would only leave me with videogames and a boring social life

 

[SmoothSailing]

In the UK they say our generation of under 25's are the most boring and safe in 40 years.

Reports suggest they:

-Get in less fights
-Drink a lot less
-Go to pubs and bars less
-Have less sex per week (though have more partners)
-No discernible youth movement (like grunge, punk, rave etc).

They might dress in more revealing clothes but their lifestyle is pretty timid for the standards of youth.

We are the most pussified generation in recorded history. Our problems would not even be problems to the men before us. We are pathetic in comparison to past generations in my opinion. After the world wars we lost our way.

 

[resu]

Yep, that's how it is: videogames and boring, shallow, repetitive social life. At least I've got decent money to spend on my hobbies.

That to me wouldn't bring any happiness, it would still make me feel apathetic.

 

[hellouser]

We are the most pussified generation in recorded history. Our problems would not even be problems to the men before us. We are pathetic in comparison to past generations in my opinion. After the world wars we lost our way.

Anita Sarkeesian is a contributing factor. Everything is sexist. Everything is racist.

 

[SmoothSailing]

That to me wouldn't bring any happiness, it would still make me feel apathetic.

If you really want to feel something try drugs. If used intelligently, responsibly and with respect they can be a net gain on your life. Most people already realise this with alcohol but fail to realise that alcohol is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to drugs.

Although I wouldn't advise opiates unless you have completely given up on life.

 

[Patrick_Bateman]

Anita Sarkeesian is a contributing factor. Everything is sexist. Everything is racist.

Did not know who Anita Sarkeesian was, so I googled her. Came across this picture..